Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: It is an indispensable activity in everyone's social life, but some children are afraid of seeing strangers, and even feel nervous and blushing when talking to acquaintances, and are reluctant to go to crowded occasions. Sometimes I don't speak clearly, stutter, and don't dare look up at people. Severe cases have panic, sweating, rapid heartbeat, and overwhelmed behavior in communicating with people. These phenomena are called "social phobia." These children are often mistaken by some parents for the teacher's obedience and mischievousness. In fact, these children's psychology has some problems, which is the external manifestation of their inferiority complex.
These children are often criticized by their parents in life, and sometimes they are severely reprimanded or even corporal punishment by their parents just because of a small mistake. Sometimes because parents are in a bad mood, they take their children for no reason. In this kind of family, the child is afraid and cannot even distinguish what to do, what to say, what is right and what is wrong. Children spend most of their time living in fear and anxiety, and from their parents' behavior comes to the conclusion that they are incompetent, always doing the wrong thing, and are a useless child. As these children grow up, they may have varying degrees of social phobia tendencies and even become social phobia sufferers. With this disease, they cannot establish stable interpersonal relationships, they will become introverted and lonely, and their outlook on life will become negative and pessimistic. So, how do you keep your child from developing "social phobia"?
1. As a parent, pay attention to and observe whether the child has a tendency to social phobia. Timely review whether your behavior towards your child is appropriate, and correct inappropriate educational behavior as soon as possible. Give your child more love, praise, and encouragement. If necessary, take the child to psychological counseling, and find out the child's psychological problems with the help of a doctor.
2. When the child experiences the above symptoms in communication, force yourself to take several deep, long rhythmic breaths. Thinking that you are equal will ease tension. Usually pay attention to training, look at others with bold and confident eyes, and lay the foundation for building self-confidence. It is also possible to teach your child to do some exercise to overcome shyness. For example, stand firm, then gently lift the heel, hold on for a few seconds and then put it down. Doing it 30 times at a time, three times a day, can eliminate the feeling of fidgeting.
3. Sometimes people are shy not entirely because they are overly nervous, but because the field of knowledge is too narrow or they know too little about what is currently happening. Therefore, we should strengthen the study of literature, music, art, etc. Read extracurricular books, newspapers and periodicals, and widely absorb common sense from all aspects. Knowledge will help you build self-confidence and overcome shyness.