If their children are not good at talking to others, or talk less, most parents may take it for granted that their children are too introverted.
Of course, this has something to do with the child's personality, but this performance is not entirely determined by personality.
In fact, some psychologists believe that this kind of social performance is related to personality, but it is not the most important reason for affecting children's social performance.
Children's social skills are not innate, but can be cultivated through nurture, it is mainly affected by language function, so some "slow heat", "not good at social" or "poor social skills" children, may not want to socialize, but due to language dysfunction caused.
The so-called language dysfunction mainly refers to the relatively weak development of children's language ability, so if you want to improve your child's social situation, parents can start by improving their children's language ability.
First of all, parents need to realize that the child's language ability is not produced out of thin air, it is necessary for parents and children to communicate, communicate, so as to be cultivated and exercised, so when parents find that their children's language ability is weak, there is no need to be too anxious and nervous, as long as parents can help and guide children to practice repeatedly, then children's language ability and social skills can be improved.
Specifically, parents can use these two methods to help and guide their children:
1. Gameplay
The game mentioned here mainly refers to the language passing game, the specific operation method is that the parent and the child stand face to face, about two meters apart, and then the parent takes a ball.
When the parent passes the ball to the child, a question needs to be asked at the same time, and when the child receives the ball, the corresponding question needs to be answered.
It should be reminded here that the answer to the question cannot be a simple "yes" or "no", you need to give the answer and explain the reason.
When the child finishes answering the question, you can throw the ball back to the parent, and then the parent continues to ask questions, continue to throw the ball to the child, and the child answers again, and so on.
Of course, the identities of parents and children can also be interchanged, with children acting as questioners and parents answering questions.
In the process of this game, the child's language expression ability and social skills have been exercised, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.
In this way, when the child needs to socialize in the future, he can socialize with other people through the "one question and one answer" method, and will not worry about running out of words.
It can be seen that it is not that introverts cannot have strong social skills, as long as children can master social skills, they can also break through the social bottleneck.
2. Cultivate children's language skills
According to studies, language use ability is very related to children's oral expression and interpersonal performance, so parents need to pay attention to cultivating children's language use ability.
So, what are we cultivating when we cultivate our children's language skills? In fact, it is to let the child know what the person who speaks is trying to express in a specific context.
When the child can understand this well, then the child's language use ability will be well improved.
If you want to cultivate your child's language use ability, parents also need to use the power of picture books, when parents and children read together, there are some ready-made contexts in picture books, and parents need to use them in time.
For example, when a sentence with a deep meaning appears in the picture book, parents can discuss the understanding of this sentence with their children, if the child can accurately understand the meaning behind it, it proves that the child's language use ability is still good; if the child cannot accurately understand the deeper meaning, parents need to guide.
In this way, it is possible to improve the child's language use ability, which in turn can improve the child's social skills.
If you are worried about your child's social skills, don't dwell on the reasons for your child's personality, you may try to start from these two aspects, maybe there will be a breakthrough.