My daughter just entered the first grade of primary school this year, and at the parents' meeting on the afternoon of the new student registration, the class teacher said such a sentence, which I think is particularly reasonable:
"We are all just in contact, inevitably there will be a run-in period, during which if everyone has any requirements, misunderstandings, opinions, etc. for me, I hope that everyone can talk about me privately, instead of going to the class group to shout." First of all, going to the group to make inappropriate remarks is just a way for you to vent your emotions, and it does not help us to solve contradictions and problems, but becomes a means of intensifying contradictions. ”
Perhaps because every parent in our class has listened to this sentence, so far no parent has confronted the teacher in the class group. But when I accompanied my daughter to dance class this Wednesday, I witnessed the sad scene of the class teacher of my girlfriend's daughter being forced to pick four .
Grandma Yangyang:
"Teacher Ren, about the class children do not listen to the lecture, love to talk about this matter our family also has a headache, how to go home, how to talk he also promised to be good, not to commit." But the next day the class or speech, I have a small suggestion can you try, every day to a parent in the back of the supervision, to see if it will be better, if it affects other children in class, we will supervise a class to see, I don't know other parents also have this idea, if the teacher agrees that I will come to the school tomorrow to try first? ”
Teacher:
"Grandma Yangyang, you have told me these proposals before, and I have also expressed my concerns, so I am not very clear about the purpose of your comments in the group again?" Since you have said this, then I will explain it again, and let the parents in the group express their opinions together.
First, the accompanying reading mentioned by Grandma Yangyang, every day a parent to the classroom, can indeed shock their children, but it has no effect on other naughty children, but it will distract the curious children.
Second, you said that the naughty child is transferred to the front to sit, of course, this is a way, but it is aimed at students who are afraid of the teacher, listen to the teacher, but cannot control their own. I didn't tell you about your child's situation once or twice, pull him to the podium punishment station, just stand in front of me to guard him, he will fight with the classmates of other punishment stations, stand on the podium and do not listen to the lecture, sitting in front of you will listen carefully?
Like your child's case, I have also reacted to you many times that he likes to stand up and likes to move in the next position, if you sit in the first row, stand up, get off the seat, let the whole class see, will this affect other students? We are a collective, parents are only facing their own family of two children, each of our teachers is facing 49 children, we are not a child's private teacher, any decision must take into account the feelings of these 49 students and parents at the same time.
If, as you say, the naughty child is brought to the front, are the children sitting in front and the parents of the child willing? In addition, the child is not obedient, can not control themselves, our teachers are also thinking of various ways to change, I dare to say that any student parent in the class to ask me about the child's performance in school, no matter how late I have a reply, the child who does not perform well also often communicates with the parents.
For the education of children, this is the common thing of parents and teachers, if parents do take their own children there is no way, then the teachers who have to manage 49 students are indeed more than enough and insufficient, so in the education of routine training, parents really need to spend more thought. ”
YangYang Mom:
"Teacher Ren, since the beginning of the school, you have been reflecting on my son's various problems with me, so I also took him to the pediatric hospital for a special examination of whether there is any movement. I also told you that he has mild hyperactivity, but his IQ is high, and it takes more than a year to take medicine without interruption, so we gave up drug treatment and chose behavior control.
We have proposed a lot of methods, such as adjusting the front seat, such as parents accompanying reading... But none of them were adopted, I said before, not to let him sit in front all the time, we just tried for a while, no and then changed back, but also because of your refusal also canceled, why we will say again in the group, not to consider my own children, after all, there are other parts of the children are also one of them.
We just want other parents to consider our arguments, we have no malice, we have always believed that the teacher is trying to do all kinds of ways for this group of children, and we also trust the children to hand over to you, which is not the same as saying that our parents do not care about the baby. Whether it is a teacher or a parent, it is definitely hoped that the doll belongs to a well-behaved student who is obedient and has good grades. ”
"Yangyang mother, the naughty children in the class also sit in the first three rows, not that sitting in the front can listen to the class seriously, the child can not manage where they sit is useless. Since you insist on letting the foreign model be adjusted to the front, you still need to seek the opinions of other parents, and you can't say that the position is adjusted, after all, no parent is willing to let the child sit in the back, but it is not realistic for everyone to sit in the front. ”
Yang Yang Dad:
"How do I feel that you are always targeting our son?" To figure out the problem, we don't have to put him in front, just try to use what method is better. Do you understand? ”
Grandpa Yangyang:
"Teacher Ren, we didn't necessarily ask Yangyang to sit in front, this is just our personal suggestion, why we have such an idea, is because so far we have not found a better way, we are just proposing." Every profession has its sweet and sour, every freshman class will have more or less problems, and these talking children are certainly not only in our class. ”
"I also told his mother before that it is okay to move to the front and sit, but the premise is to change the bad habit of standing up and getting off the position casually in class, otherwise it will affect more students."
"Some time ago we also learned in our communication that he is better than before, at least not as much as before, isn't it?"
"But you still have to stand up, what do the students who sit in front of you and stand up behind see?"
"We also said that we didn't strongly ask him to turn to the front and sit down! Why is it so hard to communicate with you? Like you don't understand the question. ”
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During this period, other classroom teachers, as well as other students' parents, also stood in the position of both sides to consider all aspects of the problem for everyone, and also said some words that played a role in reconciling, but for the Yangyang family, it seemed that they were not at all useful. To be honest, seeing such chat records really shocked me, for the Yangyang family's move, I think not only did not solve the fundamental problems of the children, but also intensified the problems between parents and teachers.
So, for children who have just entered the first grade of primary school, how should we solve such problems? Xi Xi's mother thinks it is necessary for us to start from the following points -
(1) Train children's ability to sit quietly.
Kindergarten is a stage where play is greater than learning, while primary school is a process of learning more than playing, and the difference between the two is extremely large, so new students who have just entered the first grade often cannot adapt to this.
Recently, everyone in the circle of friends is posting the results of the child's first unit test, or when they usually meet, they will also talk about whether the child has an exam. In contrast, several other elementary schools in the neighborhood are progressing faster than us, and we have not taken new classes at all in the first week of school, all of which are used to teach children things such as etiquette and sitting posture. Even on Friday's homework, there was still a thunderous task of "sitting still for ten minutes."
Yesterday, my daughter told me with some envy: "Mom, the other students in my dance class are so comfortable, oh, I go to kindergarten every day to play." "Yes, children can also perceive the huge difference between kindergarten and the first grade, and the most critical of these is meditation.
In kindergartens, most children can release their nature, as long as there are no safety accidents and other issues, everything is fine, and teachers will not strongly demand how much knowledge can be absorbed. Therefore, many children are scattered in their thinking, absent-mindedness and form a habit, after the first grade, suddenly asked to sit for forty minutes in a row, which is extremely uncomfortable for some children.
Training children's ability to sit quietly is the most basic ability to become a primary school student! It is extremely necessary not to ask the child to sit for too long at a time, but at least to go home every day and let the child sit quietly for ten minutes. Any ability is not achieved overnight, and Xi Xi's mother believes that if you want to cultivate your child's ability to sit, you must insist on letting your child go home and sit quietly for at least ten minutes a day.
(2) Train children's concentration ability.
Xi Xi's mother has always believed that there are no children who are born with weak concentration ability, in fact, more children with poor concentration are caused by the wrong practices of parents. For example: when the child is playing with toys, the parents are constantly nagging on the side, asking the child this question for a while, asking the child that question for a while; when the child is writing homework, the parents frequently break into the child's room, ask the child if he is hungry, and ask the child if he is cold...
The care of concentration ability is the most critical part of family education, which is closely related to children's learning efficiency, academic performance, etc. As parents or as other guardians, no matter what the child is doing, as long as the child is concentrating on doing something, we should not disturb the child frequently.
For the problem of training children's concentration, Xixi's mother believes that on the one hand, we must control our nagging mouth, on the other hand, we can also take some games to help children improve their concentration. For example, mix red beans and mung beans and let the child sort them at a specified time; with the child, one person uses a number with his hand, plays a game of addition or subtraction, and so on.
(3) Train your child's ability to repeat the problem.
At last Thursday's parent-teacher meeting, my daughter's homeroom teacher mentioned a problem, that is, there are children in the class who listen to problems and always listen to only part of the habit. For example, after school, the teacher issues three instructions at the same time, the first is to organize his school bag, the second is to align his desk and chair, and the third is to line up to prepare for school. Some children only listened to one instruction and began to work, and they did not remember the next two instructions at all.
What happens if a child listens to only part of the problem? When this small problem becomes a bad habit, it will not only have drawbacks in daily life, but also seriously affect the child's academic performance and other issues. For example, a certain question requires children to first cross out the subtracted numbers and then list the formulas. If the child only remembers the problem of the second column equation, but forgets the existence of the first problem, it will definitely cause the consequence of losing points.
How should we train our children in the ability to repeat a problem? When we talk to or give instructions to our children, we must ask them to look at their parents with their eyes, and at the same time, after listening to the parents' descriptions, repeat themselves. Over time, the child's ability to repeat will be enhanced, and at the same time, the execution will be more in place.
(4) Train children's necessary self-control skills.
In some families, parents' satisfaction with their children belongs to the state of non-refusal. For example, if a child wants to buy a certain toy, the parent immediately agrees. Parents always think that this is a way for me to love my children, but I don't know that such satisfaction has great drawbacks to the cultivation of children's self-control.
Some time ago, I bought a set of baking equipment and successfully made egg tarts, bread, cakes and other foods, but for biscuits, it was a lot of failures. Once I inadvertently mentioned a sentence: "Baby, do you know why your mother fails when she makes cookies?" Because I estimate the weight by feeling every time, it should be that the proportion is not accurate enough, so it is caused by the biscuits not being delicious. ”
Yesterday she said to me, "Mom, I have earned 14 smiley faces with my own performance, this time I will not change gifts, I will use these smiling faces for a baking scale, so that you can weigh and make delicious cookies." ”
It's always been the case in our family, and I basically don't immediately satisfy what the child wants. I will guide her to have a delayed waiting period, so that she can exchange her own performance, on the one hand, the child will cherish the gifts she earns more, on the other hand, the child will also learn to wait, learn to control themselves.
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