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"Anyone who has a dream is great, and if you have courage, there will be a miracle..." This is a sentence in the 2008 Olympic Games "Beijing Welcomes You", I have always felt that it is very well written!
Yeah, everyone who has dreams is amazing.
I remember when I was a child, my teacher asked us in class, "Children, what are your dreams?" In our childish answers, there are painters, singers, calligraphers, astronauts, artists, astronomers, and so on. Perhaps this answer was self-sufficient in the eyes of some people, but it was extremely motivating for us at that time.
Influenced by the ideas of Jackie Chan and Jackie Chan, every parent hopes that their children can become a better version of themselves. Although parents as adults know how small the odds of becoming painters, singers, calligraphers, etc., they still like to hear that children have such lofty ideals.
If the child's ideal is only a bland small role, it will often encounter ridicule and blows from parents. Recently, a father has instantly become popular all over the Internet because of different answers.
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A father in Guangzhou, Guangdong Province, sat at the dinner table with his second child in his arms, and he was feeding supplementary food to the second child. A meter away, my four-year-old daughter was looking at the book upright, when suddenly the daughter turned to her father and said, "Daddy, I want to be a cleaner in the future." ”
Dad asked curiously, "Why?" ”
"Because cleaners can sweep the floor, and by doing so, our planet will be cleaner," the daughter said. ”
The father patiently replied to his daughter: "Well, if you want to be a cleaner, what are you going to do now?" ”
"I can only sweep the floor by loving cleanly." The daughter answered milkily.
Dad then said, "What about being a cleaner, you have to be very industrious, so you have to develop the habit of being industrious now, right?" In addition to being diligent, you also have to have a lot of strength, so you should be active in eating now. ”
The daughter said seriously, "Yes." ”
"As a cleaner, you have to get up very early, so is it time to get up now, and you have to get up very early?" No matter what kind of person you want to be in the future, you need to understand what kind of strengths are needed to become that kind of person, right? Then you have to exercise your own strengths. The father stood up and coaxed the second child in his arms while seriously saying to his daughter.
The father-daughter conversation, which was posted online, quickly caught fire. Netizens have praised: "Such a family can have a second child, education is very important!" "Such a father deserves to have a second child." "This dad is so good, while taking care of the second treasure, he also has to take care of the big treasure, unlike my family who only cares about playing mobile phone games."
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I have to say that this dad's answer is really interesting. Because there are many parents in life, they may have just heard that their children want to be cleaners, and they can't help but laugh at it, let alone patiently ask their children what the reason is.
Some will immediately scold the children: "What is the point of sweeping the street!" No pursuit at all! I offer you school, you want to be a cleaner, then don't go to school from tomorrow, save my money! ”
Whether it is a father or a mother, the huge pattern and the educational concept of sunshine will be the luck of the child's life. Xi Xi's mother believes that from this father, we should at least learn these points:
(1) Listen carefully to any voices of your child.
Many parents will find that their children always like to pestering themselves when they are young, but gradually as they grow older, they are reluctant to get close to their parents. Especially after entering puberty, it seems that parents are treated as transparent people, and there is almost no effective communication with parents except for asking for money.
So, what exactly is causing it?
In fact, it began because parents were unwilling to listen to their children's speeches again and again. For example, some parents judge that the content of the child's speech is meaningless when the child just says a word, and then forcefully prevent the child from speaking. But in fact, what may be insignificant to parents is the most important thing in the child's heart at the moment. As for why they share it with their parents, it is only because the children think that their parents deserve to confide in themselves.
In fact, if we want to be a person who has always entered the child's heart, we should learn to listen carefully to every little thing the child says.
(2) Enter positive energy and do positive guidance.
In the eyes of many people, the job of cleaner is dirty and messy, a job at the lowest level of society, and even think that if they have the ability to do a better job, no one will choose a cleaner. Therefore, for the metaphor of the cleaner being a "city beautician", many people tend to make a sneering look.
Looking at the father just now, he first told his daughter that the cleaner was very hardworking, then told her daughter that the cleaner needed a lot of effort, and finally told her daughter that the cleaner had to get up very early. Every point captures the characteristics of the profession of cleaner, and the children are all the shining points of the cleaner, which does not mean to belittle this kind of occupation.
However, some parents in life like to hit their children for a long time, always letting their children bear the pain of being hit, and even give their children disgusted eyes. However, such an approach to education is often just a child who breaks a jar and breaks it.
(3) Gentle tone is important.
It is worth noting that in addition to praising the way the dad answered, there are a large number of people in the comment area who give a thumbs up to dad's gentle tone. For example: "This father is so gentle, it is so happy to be his daughter!" "What kind of fairy father is this daddy?" It's too gentle, oh my goodness! ”
The tone of the parents' speech is actually the child's temper when he grows up.
If parents can always speak softly and try not to shout at their children, then the child is naturally a gentle and sensible and warm child. On the contrary, if the parent is a hot-tempered personality, then the child will naturally succeed in learning this, and even be better than blue out of blue.
An excellent family is by no means an environment that hurts people everywhere, but should be a silent beauty.
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Parents are the most important guides in the growth process of children, and I hope that all parents can do their best.
Have you ever discussed with your child what kind of person you want in the future? How do you cope with your child's answers? Welcome to share with Xi Xi's mother.