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Open the box of children who love to play with mobile phones, and many parents often can't stop it, and they want to pour out all their grievances. However, in life, there are often many parents who are often more double-standard, that is, zero tolerance for the problem of children's mobile phone addiction, but do not take the problem of their own mobile phone addiction.
Today, Xi Xi's mother saw several videos of children complaining about their parents' mobile phone addiction on a short video, and had to make me sigh that it was too graphic!
"My parents especially like to play with their mobile phones, go to the toilet to play, cook and play, and play when I go to sleep." A girl quipped.
Another girl took over: "Yes, she also secretly played with my phone behind my back." She pretended to go to the bathroom, but she was actually sitting on the bathtub – oops, likes, crazy likes! Oops, handsome guy, I like it. ”
When asked, "Does it have any effect on you," one of the children replied flatly, "Yes, there is a very big impact." At night, she slept in bed while brushing the screen, 'huh huh huh' and 'hahaha', sometimes crying, crying while looking for paper towels everywhere to wipe tears and wipe nose. I was about to fall asleep and was woken up by her again. After a while I was going to fall asleep again, and I was woken up by her again. I woke up like this over and over again, very speechless. ”
"My mom sometimes listens to music when she looks at her phone, especially the song "Nervous", which really makes me very excited. I was doing my homework and couldn't help but say' ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh "Sometimes in order to force my mother not to play with my phone, I would pretend to pick up the tablet and say, 'If you don't put the phone down, I'm going to start playing,' and then she let it go." Another girl laughed.
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To be honest, after watching this small video, xixi's mother most wanted to say a sentence is "you can't let your child reflect on the exam, and parents should also reflect often." ”
In this era of rapid development of the Internet, it is almost impossible not to let children touch mobile phones. The point is on how we should teach our children to use their phones properly.
If parents like to indulge in mobile games, short videos, TV series, etc., children will naturally be attracted to this. In the short term, you may also control your play time, but over time, the degree of obsession will often make parents anxious.
In our family, children never touch our phones, and only when they need to consult a certain information, they will ask me to help look it up online. Because when the child comes home, in addition to the time when she finishes her homework, other times she wants me to play family games with her, I will play with her; she wants to play riddles or brain teasers with me, and I will actively cooperate.
Because I know that children only put their emotions into the virtual world when they feel lonely inside. And if parents can take the time to give their children high-quality companionship, children will naturally not let go of mobile phones or games.
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For a while, as soon as my daughter's good friend met my daughter, she began to talk about "glory of kings", or who liked whom.
Later, I found out that the girl's mother was chasing youth idol dramas, eating and watching TV every day, sleeping and watching TV, cooking and watching TV, going to the toilet to watch TV, cleaning and watching TV, and even crying or laughing as the plot developed.
The mother may feel that she is doing her own thing, and the child is also doing her own thing, but she does not know that the child has already been affected by these subtle influences.
I often meet a little boy in the elevator, although he is only about eight years old, but the impression of his swearing has been engraved in my heart for several years. Once, he was fighting with another little boy in the elevator, and he kept insulting each other, and everyone else in the elevator couldn't help but look at him.
As a result, when he reached the tenth floor, his father, who stood at the innermost point, called him, and I really couldn't understand how his son could be so calm throughout the whole process of swearing. Later, I found out that his father was also dirty on the phone with the same person.
What kind of personality the child will develop and what bad habits they will have, these are actually closely related to their parents. If you underestimate the power of example, you are pushing your child into a pit.
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Ask yourself, are you a qualified parent? When you are crumbling because your child is addicted to mobile phones, have you ever reflected on what kind of family environment you have created for your children?