Children do things grinding, how to correct is useless? This is because parents you have not found the real reason why your child is rubbing.
Today, we will take the problem of children writing homework as an example, for the 7 reasons why children write homework slowly, give solutions, and come to see which kind of children your child belongs to?
First, there is no way to learn, do not know what to do first
In order to let him study with peace of mind, Yangyang's parents arranged his life in every way every day. But Yang Yang's homework is always slow, and sometimes he doesn't even know what homework the teacher has assigned. When the teacher graded his homework, he found that his homework was disorganized, and some questions were often done wrong or missed.
Mom was also upset, because Yang Yang was also very confused about preparing stationery before doing homework at home. Every time I wait until I write wrong, I find that I didn't prepare an eraser; the pencil is broken, only to find that I didn't have a sharpener, and I took this and that for a while, and it took a lot of time to grind and rub in the middle.
This is a typical case of poorly organized writing homework. When writing homework, I don't know what homework is, the stationery is not fully prepared, and the order of homework in each subject is not organized... Of course, writing homework is slow!
/ Countermeasures /
In the case of Yangyang, parents should teach their children what to do first and what to do later. Let the child arrange his own affairs by himself, and even let the child help the parents to do some housework, so that the child will slowly learn to plan and be organized.
There is a saying in psychology that it is called 100% theory. Many things in the world follow the 100% theory, and if we have 20% not to do it, the child can complete 20%, if we want 80% can not do it, the child can do 80%.
If the parents do it for the child, the child's growth opportunities are actually deprived by the parents. Of course, in the process of doing things, parents can properly guide the order and organization of children's work.
Second, the pursuit of perfection, fear of making mistakes
Mengmeng homework is neat, excellent grades, the disadvantage is that the writing is slow, the writing is slightly untidy or unclean, she will immediately erase and rewrite, so it takes a long time. Mongmeng is a natural "perfectionist".
But some children are slow to write homework but are trained by parents, many parents want their children to be perfect, and everything requires their children to do their best. For example, homework: even if there is a little bit of bad, parents strictly require their children to correct their writing, and the final result of such requirements is either that the child is slow to write homework or is afraid of learning.
For this phenomenon of using an eraser to keep erasing it, psychology calls it "eraser syndrome". The reason is that the child is stressed in learning, anxious, and afraid of making mistakes. For children with rubber syndrome, parents should not blame too much, nor should they correct their bad behavior by beating and cursing, but use rewards to carry out intensive training to achieve the goal.
Children should use as little eraser as possible when doing homework, and if the homework book is kept clean and written quickly and accurately within a certain period of time, there is a certain reward. If the child can not do without the eraser, parents are best to confiscate the eraser, after a period of time, the child's bad habit of attachment to the eraser will gradually be corrected.
Third, there is no interest in learning
Some children can't do homework because of poor learning foundation, and writing homework is naturally slow. There are also children who have no fun in learning, and even if they can do it, they don't want to do it. If your child belongs to this type, the problem to be solved is how to make up for the child's defects and how to make the child feel the joy of learning.
What should I do if my child encounters a problem that he cannot do?
Some children encounter problems that they will not do, take it to their parents, then write homework after asking, and then they just sit down and encounter problems that they will not do, and then take it to ask. Tossing and turning like this, time is delayed!
On the one hand, this will interrupt the quiet atmosphere and concentration level of homework, causing wandering; on the other hand, it will interrupt the child's thinking about doing problems and writing homework.
It is recommended that parents should teach their children how to switch the order of the problem. If you encounter a problem that you can't do, you can do other topics first, and then do the problem that you can't do last, so that you can save time and don't interrupt your child's thinking.
For topics that children do not understand, parents give their children tutoring.
Parents should understand the problems of their children and prescribe the right medicine. But it should be noted that instead of telling the child all the ancient brains, it should be to inspire the child, and finally rely on the child to understand it himself. The child's knowledge reserve is enough, and the speed is naturally fast.
Find ways to make learning fun.
People are like this, they are willing to do things that they like to be interesting, and for boring things, they can drag on and drag.
Therefore, for children who do not like to write homework, parents should try to mobilize their children's interest in writing homework, such as: through games, competitions to arrange homework. For example, you can complete a certain homework in a timed way, praise or remember a "" ★ when the specified time is completed, and get twenty ""★, you can meet a child's wish.
Fourth, forced to be helpless, deliberately rubbing.
It's a passive grind, a grind forced out by your parents. Many parents always want their children to do some problems after they have done their school homework. Therefore, a lot of "mom homework" is added every day.
Listen to one kid's saying, "Hurry up and write your homework?" Why should I be fast? After writing, I can't go out to play, after writing the teacher's homework, I still have to write the homework assigned by my mother, after writing the homework assigned by my mother, my father's homework is coming again, in short, there is no time to play..., it is better to write slowly! ”
Unexpectedly, "rubbing" has also become a countermeasure for children. If parents always add "parental homework" to their children, the children will begin to consciously slow down, and over time, gradually develop habits, and really become bad habits of rubbing.
Make a rough estimate of the homework assigned by the teacher each day, and estimate the tasks that the child needs to complete for a long time. Be sure to leave your child time to rest (free time).
For example, it takes a total of one and a half hours, and the child completes it in one and a half hours, and the rest of the time must be at the child's own disposal and let the child do what he likes. After developing such a habit, the child will seize the time to complete the homework, because there is a lot of time to play after writing early.
Fifth, the concept of time is poor, and time cannot be managed
If children do not have the concept of time, it is natural to write homework and do things.
Many parents always think about and arrange everything for their children, "It's time to write homework." "It's time to practice, don't watch TV!" "It's time to take a shower!" It is often heard that parents remind children and urge children over and over again, parents always arrange time for their children, of course, children do not have to worry about how to arrange time, it is difficult to have a concept of time.
Therefore, if you want your child to be the master of time, you want your child to arrange his own time.
Make good use of the little alarm clock
Using an alarm clock to supervise children to do homework is conducive to children completing homework quickly and effectively. The alarm clock was his best urge. At the same time, in the process of setting their own alarm clocks to learn, children also continue to experience a sense of accomplishment, no longer regard homework as helping parents complete tasks, and learn more consciously.
Think of your homework as an exam
After doing today's homework according to the requirements of the exam, the rest of the time can be free for the children to arrange. Set a time for the exam so that your child has a sense of urgency in doing their homework. Over time, the child's homework will be faster, and the accuracy rate will slowly improve.
Pay attention to cultivating children's concept of time in life
A child with a weak sense of time will not only be slow to do homework, but will grind and rub in anything. Therefore, in ordinary life, parents need to pay attention to cultivating their children's concept of time. Remind everything more, let the child know the urgency of time, and follow the good temptation.
One minute of special training, let the child feel how much can be done in a minute
(1) Prepare dozens of simple addition and subtraction oral arithmetic problems every day (different grades, different difficulties).
(2) One minute of Chinese character writing training, find some strokes and words with the same difficulty in writing.
Through the above training, children can understand the preciousness of time, and a lot of things can be done in one minute. At the same time, it also improves the child's writing speed and problem speed. When training, take 1 minute as a group, practice two to three groups a day, and pay attention to recording the child's results and comparing them.
Work together with the teacher to form a synergy and supervise the child together
Some children are faster at home with parental supervision. But when it comes to school, without the supervision of outsiders, the child will slow down again. Therefore, if there is a teacher's Peihe, the child is also supervised in the school, so that the child's correction speed will become faster.
Sixth, lack of concentration, small movements
Xiao Jian is lively and cute, but Xiao Jian's parents have always been worried about his study. Because Xiao Jian always looks east and west when writing homework, plays with erasers for a while, eats pencils for a while, bites his fingers for a while, and has no concentration, how can such a writing method be fast?
The teacher also reacted to Xiao Jian's lack of concentration in class, and often mischievously messed up, pulling other people's hair for a while and pulling other people's clothes for a while.
This is a typical case of inattention. These children's attention time is generally about 15-20 minutes, if they are allowed to do homework for more than 20 minutes, he will be distracted, if you write a word and wander for 5 minutes, the homework will of course drag on.
Job segmentation
You first know the amount of homework your child has for the day, and then stipulate that it must be completed within a certain period of time, and if it is done well, you can be rewarded.
If there are too many jobs, you can split the job into two or three stages. For example, the first time it is stipulated to do 15 minutes, after the end of the rest for a while, and then another 15 minutes, and then rest. When the child's attention is improved, the time set in the future can be slowly extended, and when the good habit of highly concentrated learning is developed, there is no need to divide the time.
Provide a quiet learning environment for children
Children's learning places should be simple and neat, especially desks, and all stationery to be used, but do not stack toys and other things that will distract children's attention. The child's learning environment should also be quiet, do not in the child's learning, in order to care for the child, but also for the child to send fruit, pour water, this is actually interfering with the child.
Train the attention itself
Children's inattention and easy distraction are the characteristics of many children. The younger the age, the shorter the time to control attention. This is due to the fact that the child's nervous system is not well developed and is still developing.
Therefore, for children who are not easy to concentrate, certain training can be carried out to improve attention. Here are a few specific operation methods for your reference.
a. Play poker. Exercises high concentration and rapid reflexes
Take three different cards, arrange them on the table at random, let him stare at a certain card, and then put the three cards upside down on the table, and the parents will change the position of the three cards at will, and then let him report the position of the card. If she guessed correctly, she won.
As the ability improves, parents can increase the difficulty, such as increasing the number of cards, the number of times the position of the card is changed, and the speed of changing the position of the card. This method can make the child's attention highly concentrated, and the game is in line with the child's psychological characteristics, and the child's enthusiasm for playing is very high. If you keep playing for a while every day, your concentration will improve.
B. Buy some books on intellectual training and insist on doing exercises every day
Some pictures and texts that exercise observation, attention, and memory, such as walking in a maze, looking for something in a large number of pictures, looking for similarities and differences (finding differences in the same, finding the same in the differences), comparing size and length, remembering the items in a page of the diagram within the specified time, and then closing the book for her to report out, and so on.
The time should not be too long, but the practice time can be extended in the future, and you must insist on practicing every day. Do it right to give a red five-star reward or score.
c. Train listening attention
Read an article to your child every day, and after reading it, ask him to answer the questions in the book, and long-term persistence will improve your child's listening attention. Or by the parents to read a set of numbers, or a set of words, let the child back or backwards out, gradually increase the length of numbers and words, this game can not only train attention, but also train the child's memory.
You can also come back every day to ask about the content of the daily class, so that the child can repeat the content of each lesson every day to the parents, so that you can invisibly develop the habit of listening carefully to the class.
Seventh, poor coordination
The reason for the child's rubbing may also be the child's physiological aspect. Today's Chinese families are mostly one-child families, parents regard their children as pearls in the palm of their hands, and children's behaviors such as touching, climbing, rolling, hitting, jumping and jumping are artificially destroyed in the natural process of development.
Children do not climb when they should climb, and in the future, they may have coordination, poor balance, not crying when they should cry, lack of exercise in oral muscles, weak cardiopulmonary function, and even poor language expression. The main reasons for sensory integration disorder in only children are: lack of exercise, lack of play, lack of nature.
Here are two examples of work speeds that affect the sensory system:
(1) The mind and hands cannot be synchronized
Yang Yang is very smart, that is, he is somewhat introverted and does not like to talk. Mom reflected that Yang Yang was too slow to do homework, and every time he finished his homework, because his thinking was relatively fast but his expression and writing were too slow, he would often write wrong, missed, skipping and even serial.
This case shows that some children cannot think and hand in sync, and although thinking is faster, they are slower to express and write.
If you look closely, you will find that such children are generally not very good at communication, and sometimes there will be a phenomenon of talking and spitting, and even mild stuttering. Parents usually communicate with their children more, encourage him to communicate with others, and consciously exercise their children's expression ability and literacy skills.
(2) Hand-eye incongruity
Morning morning writing homework is always slow, crooked, and often written under the horizontal grid line, but also love to span two blocks. Chenchen often looks at "habitual" but writes "through", and watches "friends" write "Mingyou". In school, the problem is more serious, the writing speed is slow, often can not answer the questions during the exam, and often make mistakes when doing the questions, and the results are particularly poor.
This kind of child belongs to the hand-eye incongruity, often writing out of line, out of line, but also will make mistakes. Because of the lack of coordination, writing homework will be very difficult and slow, so it will always be criticized by teachers and parents, and slowly it will be very annoying or even afraid to write homework.
Therefore, in this case, teachers and parents should cooperate with each other and take the correct method to guide children, rather than blindly complaining about criticism, resulting in children's boredom.
It can be seen that the child's homework grinding, which seems to be a small problem that seems ordinary, often contains many reasons, not to mention various frictions in learning and life. But in life, parents rarely pay attention to these details, always feel that the child is lazy, not working hard, and blindly blame the child.
Such a practice not only can not help children get rid of the bad habit of rubbing, but will hit the child's enthusiasm and confidence. At the end of the day, parents should know more about what their children are thinking. So, the child's heart, you know?
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