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In recent years, the birth rate has been declining and has been mentioned by many people. The two-child and three-child policy has been opened up one after another, so that everyone has a different view, and even a polarization has appeared, which makes people speechless.
A couple accidentally became pregnant and gave birth to three children, the wife could not work after pregnancy, the husband's company went out of business and lost his job, and the elderly in the family had cancer again and urgently needed a large amount of treatment. The family also has a very heavy mortgage, because there is no savings, even the child's kindergarten money can not be taken out, can only let the child drop out of school at home.
After this matter broke out on the Internet, the couple thought that there would be many well-meaning people to help them get through the difficulties, but they did not expect to receive ridicule and disgust from everyone.
Some people say that such a desperate situation of life is completely their own search. It's not raining in the sky, you don't know, do you have any money in your pocket, don't you know? Since you don't have the ability to support so many children, wouldn't it be better to have only one? Why have three children?
There are also people who call them "irresponsible" parents who, since they have children, should try to give their children the best life possible. Mom and Dad obviously know that their children don't have any money to go to kindergarten, and they give birth to three at once, which is irresponsible.
Some people say that such a family will not help itself, because I myself do not have the money to have a second child, and everyone has actually had a third child, which is simply too brave, and adults need to bear the consequences of what they do.
Some people say that before having children, they must also look at their own family background, which is really irresponsible.
Indeed, since the opening of the three-child policy, most netizens have said that it is crazy to have three children, and it is even more controversial for many children's families.
Do netizens really hate multi-child families? Not really
Previously, there was a post-80s mother on the Internet, who had 7 children in a row after getting married. After this matter was posted on the Internet, it also attracted a lot of attention. However, everyone is envious and likes this "gourd baby" mother.
This seven-child mother, she often posts her seven children on the Internet, the house where the mother and the children live is magnificent, it is not an ordinary family at a glance, the room space is huge, the decoration is exquisite, and the living conditions are superior.
Although this mother has given birth to 7 children, she still has a good face, very good maintenance, and is not haggard because she has so many children, and the time with the children is always permeated with the warmth of various families.
Mom proudly said that the reason why she was willing to have so many children was because her husband had an IQ of more than 140, and she didn't want her husband's genes to be wasted.
In the face of the happiness of this "gourd baby" mother, netizens have sent their own blessings. Some people said, "This is an excellent mother, who gave birth to a group of children with high looks and intelligence, and is simply a winner in life." Some people said sourly: "If I have enough money, I am willing to have more children, but the economic strength does not allow it!" ”
A mother gives birth to three children, being ridiculed is "deserved to suffer", a mother has 7 children, but it is praised by everyone, and now netizens are so "double standard"? In fact, it is not that netizens are "double standard", but from this matter, most people's concept of fertility is reflected.
What are the necessary conditions for giving birth to a second or third child?
whether to have a second or third child, the economic conditions are very important.
Why is the birth rate so low, most people are unwilling to have a second child, the reason for having a third child, there are reasons for high housing prices, there are also reasons for work pressure, and some people say that the child's education is too serious, and they are not willing to bear the anxiety of educating children. However, these problems can be solved in one word, that is, money.
Rich people do not have to worry about housing prices are too high, rich people's mothers do not have to worry about being fired because of pregnancy and childbirth, and the rich people have very sufficient funds to raise children and educate their children.
Although the mother of seven children has given birth to so many children, she and her husband have the ability to let their children live a happy life. This is what many netizens like to hear, and it is also the real idea in their hearts - to give children a better life. However, the mother of 3 children, obviously can not afford to raise children, but also accidentally pregnant, but also gave birth to three children, but also touched the bottom line of many people's hearts - can not afford to raise children would rather have fewer births, not to have children.
The physical health of the second and third children and the mother is very important.
There are great risks for advanced mothers to have children, and that's all we all know. Pregnancy, fetal preservation, childbirth, without a healthy body, are irresponsible to the child and to themselves.
We all recommend that mothers, regardless of age, have a formal physical examination during pregnancy preparation and have a healthy body in order to plan to have a child.
Because we are not just bringing children into this world or completing tasks, in the more than ten years after the birth of children, raising children and educating children is a long process, which requires parents to pay a lot of energy and physical strength.
Parents who have two or three children, the family is very fond of their children.
Rich people do not necessarily have a second child or a third child, so having money is not the only condition. Why do we have a second child and a third child, I think it should not be because we want to have a son or a daughter, nor should we be for the sake of getting old in the future, and the children's lives are more secure, because utilitarianism to raise children will not be happy.
Moms and dads should ask their children if they really like their children and are happy at all times to raise them. Only parents who have children because they really like it, the family is the happiest. Mom and Dad love children, have the ability to raise children, and then have more children!