After the opening of the three-child policy, I have asked myself, my husband, my friends, and even relatives whether I want to have three children, and most people have advised me to give up.
Someone said: "Every day at work, a baby is so tired, do you dare to have three children?" ”，
Some people also said: "The second child does not dare to give birth, where is the money to have another one?" ”
Some people even said, "Now that she is an elderly mother, it is impossible to give birth to a child, and I really have a weak heart." ”
No, some people use the phrase "the people don't talk about life" to explain the birth of three children: modern people's life pressure is too great, there is no willingness to have children, and they are not even willing to talk about it.
Funny and sad.
But it also expresses everyone's open three-child policy
However, having a third child is indeed not easy, and it is necessary to consider the economy, personal energy and physical condition, and all practices that do not consider the actual situation are not worth advocating.
Despite this, in reality, there are couples who are very brave, the wife is already nearly 70 people, the children have become a family, completely disregarding the opposition of the family, insisting on giving birth to three children, which can be regarded as the highest birth age in the country.
What I want to talk about today is their story.
01 Acquaintance
The couple, the male named Huang Weiping, the female named Tian Xinju.
More than 40 years ago, Huang Weiping, who was in his early 20s, was the secretary of Zaozhuang Commune in Shandong Province, and the first time he met Tian Xinju, the two had a sense of déjà vu, and they hated each other. At that time, the countryside was not particularly open, and free love was easy to be pointed out, but they did not care.
Eventually the two married, and a few years later, a son was born.
The 26-year-old Huang Weiping became the father of the child for the first time, and the joy of becoming a father was mentioned.
However, Huang Weiping Commune is usually busy at work, while Tian Xinju, who works in the Maternal and Child Health Hospital, works as a child protection doctor, and usually has little time to take children, most of them are grandfathers, grandmothers, and even neighbors.
After the reform and opening up, the two people have greatly improved their economic conditions through continuous hard work, and they have their own houses.
At this time, they wanted to have another daughter, but at that time, the state was in the stage of family planning, advocating that only one child should be born well, and more children would face punishment.
Forced by multiple pressures, the two did not dare to have a second child.
Until they got their birth permits.
In 1984, their daughter was born, a son and a daughter and two children, and the old Huang couple finally got what they wanted.
02 Second child
The birth of the daughter brought joy to the old Huang couple, but it also brought great financial pressure to the family.
In order to fill the family, Huang Weiping changed careers to become a lawyer and often needed to travel.
However, the long-term business trip has made the distance between Huang Weijie and the child more and more distant.
This heavy responsibility fell on Tian Xinju, but Tian Xinju was also very busy in the hospital and could not take care of the two children at all.
There are problems with the life and study of the old Yellow son.
The son learned to smoke, and there was no guidance on his studies, and he slowly could not keep up with the progress. The couple also thought of various ways, beat and scolded, but their son's performance did not improve significantly.
After his son graduated from high school, Huang Weiping wanted his son to also be a lawyer, so he let his child go to the lawyer's qualification certificate, but Lao Huang's son did not argue, he did not get admitted, he gave up on himself all day, and the relationship between father and son became more and more tense.
Perhaps dissatisfied with their son's behavior, the couple pinned their hopes on their daughter, and Tian Xinju's discipline of her daughter began to become stricter.
She accompanies her daughter all the time, and she does everything herself to send her daughter. The daughter also said to her mother: Mom, don't send it again, I have grown up, you see, the classmates began to laugh at me.
Today, the children have grown up and have their own families.
The son had a daughter shortly after marriage, but the son's marriage was not happy and he soon divorced.
The granddaughter was not taken with them, so the old Huang couple took the granddaughter home and took the initiative to take on the responsibility of parenting.
A few years have passed, the old Huang couple has retired, they moved, from the original dozens of square meters of the old house, moved to the 120 square meters of the new house.
Now the couple receives a fixed pension, grows vegetables in the community, and takes their granddaughter with them, and their lives are very leisurely.
This kind of life, nothing special, the days are very peaceful.
Until one day, a small pebble disturbed the calm waters of the lake.
03 Three children
The old Huang couple had never thought of having three children, and the matter of having three children should have begun from Tian Xinju's illness.
One day in 2018, Tian Xinju felt unwell, she went to the hospital for examination, and the doctor said that she had a cerebral infarction.
Therefore, Tian Xinju recuperated at home.
During the treatment, he underwent conditioning with traditional Chinese medicine.
But what I didn't expect was that this kind of Chinese medicine had the effect of activating blood and dissolving stasis, which made Tian Xinju suddenly come to a menstrual holiday, and there was a month and month.
Tian Xinju felt very strange, she was afraid of what was wrong with her body, went to the hospital for a check-up, and the doctor carefully told her that she was pregnant.
Tian Xinju thought that the doctor was laughing, saying that he was in his 60s and could not get pregnant, so he did not take it to heart.
Two months later, she went to the hospital again for a check-up, and the doctor said she had been 4 months old.
Tian Xinju immediately took a B ultrasound, it doesn't matter if it is not filmed, after shooting, she herself was also frightened: the fetus is clearly visible.
The doctor told Tian Xinju that if the child did not want it, he could only induce labor, which was a very dangerous thing.
Elderly pregnancy, whether the child can grow up healthily, this is the old Huang couple worried, after careful consideration, against the huge psychological pressure, they still decided to give birth to the child.
It was the couple who didn't tell anyone, not even the children.
Every time someone came to see Tian Xinju, they thought he was a blessing in old age, and his son repeatedly reminded her to control her diet and lose weight.
However, the doctor who examined Tian Xinju said that the risk of giving birth at this age is very large.
However, the paper could not contain the fire, and even if she knew that her daughter knew, she resolutely opposed it and directly said: "If this child is born, it will break off relations with you." ”
But the stubborn two still decided to give birth to the child.
In the second half of 2019, Tian Xinju was 67 years old and gave birth to a daughter by caesarean section, until the media exposed the matter, the children learned that they had a sister, and the psychological gap was instantaneous.
What puzzled them most was that the age difference between this sister and them was so great that the children did not contact their parents for a long time, and even after the mother gave birth, they did not go to the hospital.
However, Huang Weiping did not care, the old man got another daughter, the mood was particularly happy, specifically looking for a sister-in-law to take care of his wife, a few months later, Huang Weiping still decided to bring it himself, afraid of affecting the child's future and his feelings.
Feeding milk, changing diapers, playing with children, taking early education classes,......, all that should be done, nothing was left behind.
The old Huang couple only slept for 5 hours a day after they were busy, but they had no complaints.
The behavior of the old Huang couple has attracted many netizens to question, some people say, the age is so old, what is left? The children are so old, the granddaughters are older than the little daughter, what should be said about this generation? After this, everyone met and said what? How can I get by on the face?
Chinese New Year's Eve in 2020, Lao Huang put on new clothes for his three-month-old daughter, who was also very well-behaved and tried to shout out a voice that seemed to have the word Dad.
At this time, Huang Weiping's heart was full of happiness, and he never paid attention to all the doubts in the outside world.
Under the careful care of the couple, the child grew up day by day, and now he is more than 2 years old, very naughty, often running here, touching there, jumping up and down, 70-year-old Tian Xinju is often tired and breathless.
In order to help his wife, Lao Huang also carries a baby while working part-time, but he does not feel tired, and people in their 70s seem to be particularly energetic.
Old Huang accompanies the child every day, when the child plays, he also exercises himself, he knows that to take good care of his wife and daughter, without a good body, it is impossible to get over.
In Lao Huang's own words, only by having a healthy body will he spend more years with his daughter.
Although Huang Weiping and his wife have been questioned for many years, he is still confident in his future life.
The couple's current pension adds up to more than 10,000, and Lao Huang has other part-time businesses outside, so the cost of raising children does not have to worry at all.
Considering that he and his wife are older, Lao Huang also consulted with relatives, in case one day does not work, the little daughter will have to ask them to help take care of it, and even bought insurance for the child and saved money...
Write at the end
The elderly birth baby is easy to be criticized, Huang Weiping and his wife withstood the pressure of all parties, after careful consideration to give birth to the child, and after the birth of the child, the couple is more attentive to take care of the child, do not abandon the child, do not give up, have responsibility, have the responsibility, fulfill the obligations of parenthood, such parents should not be worthy of respect?
People often ask: What kind of parents are good parents?
I think that as a parent, you should not only raise your children in life, but also give your children a good education. No matter what the road ahead, we should take our children to go on bravely, whether poor or rich, and never give up.