In the early morning of October 27, 2019, the door of ward 607 of the hospital was crowded with reporters, and everyone wanted to see the oldest pregnant woman in China.
At this moment, the people at the door of the ward were boiling: the sound of discussion between reporters, the voice of the nurse trying to persuade everyone to leave... In the ward, 67-year-old Tian Xinju is lying quietly on the bed, she has been watching the newborn baby girl from beginning to end, and the corners of her mouth have kept up, which is the child she gave birth to against all difficulties and risks to her life.
No one knows what the elderly woman is thinking at the moment, maybe she's thinking about how to face the controversy outside, maybe she's thinking about how to raise the child, maybe she's thinking about something more complicated.
Old age, shocking everyone
In March 2022, Douyin officially pushed a live video, clicked in to see, an old man over half a hundred years old, gray hair is selling the baby's clothes.
According to the needs of netizens, he loudly introduced the composition, color, style and size of each piece of clothing, with a sincere attitude and amiable behavior, which was in stark contrast with other businesses.
People with curiosity to open his account interface, found that his first short video received millions of likes, click on the video to see, two kind-looking, amiable old man holding a child to the camera smiling and saying: "Hello everyone, I am a god-given father, 70 years old this year." Hello everyone, I am a heavenly mother, 69 years old this year, our baby is about to be almost one and a half years old, we are here on our first day today, I hope you will pay more attention to us. ”
Two couples who, together nearly 140 years old, have a baby who is nearly one year old, which is an age difference that is surprising.
After a quick look at all the videos posted by the old man, you will find that the old man's name is Huang Weiping, his wife's name is Tian Xinju, and all the videos in the video are videos of the baby's growth.
The baby in the video is lively and cute, and the fat baby face makes people can't help but want to pinch it. She had just learned to walk, so she walked and shook and swayed.
From the video, we will find that the two old people love this child very much, and when they were eighteen months old, they specially bought a big cake and held a birthday party for her; when the baby makes a mistake, the two will say harsh words in the most gentle tone; usually as long as there is free time, the two old people will take the baby around to play in the mountains and enjoy the beautiful scenery outside.
Because of pampering, the baby has a carefree childhood, which makes people envious.
If you click on the comments at the bottom of the video, but find that there is a polarized state in the comment area, some people wish from the bottom of their hearts, thinking that age is not a problem, and insisting on being self is the most important.
Netizens also praised them for being brave and giving birth to children despite the controversy of the outside world, and some netizens said that the two elderly people actively responded to national policies.
Another group of netizens objected. A netizen left a message at the bottom of the video saying that the two elderly people were too selfish and did not care about the feelings of their children.
This sentence received 52,000 likes. Some netizens said that Tian Xinju was adding a "burden" to her daughter, because her daughter had to be both a sister and a mother, and also had to take care of the elderly parents.
What's more, he accused the elderly of using children to earn traffic live streaming with goods, and Huang Weiping, out of helplessness, specially recorded a video to explain to everyone about this problem, telling everyone that live streaming with goods is just to prepare a rich material foundation for children.
What's going on here? After reviewing the news of previous years, it was found that the owner of the account was the protagonist of the 2019 hot online elderly maternal incident.
According to global network news, at 9:12 on October 25, 2019, a 67-year-old man named Tian Xinju gave birth to a baby girl with only 5 pounds and 1 pair in changsha maternal and child health hospital.
Because the mother is an elderly mother, but also suffering from hypertension, high blood sugar and other elderly diseases, the state is very bad, the child is affected by the mother's early birth, there is also a certain danger to life.
For the safety of mother and daughter, the doctor sent the mother and daughter duo to the ICU for further observation.
On 26 October, the mother and daughter were transferred from the intensive care unit to the delivery room. Because Tian Xinju is currently the oldest reported mother in China to conceive naturally and give birth smoothly, the news has attracted widespread attention as soon as it came out.
On October 27, 2019, a large number of reporters squatted at the door of the ward, hoping to interview the parties and tell the story to the public.
Elderly women are born with difficulties
Tian Xinju told reporters that the pregnancy was completely unexpected.
In 2019, there was a time when Tian Xinju always felt dizzy and vomiting, tired and sleepy. At that time, I didn't care, thinking that it was an old mistake, taking a little medicine can be, who knows that this feeling does not decrease but increases, Tian Xinju's abnormal performance makes Huang Weiping worry about Zhongzhong.
The next day, he took Tian Xinju to the hospital for examination, and the result shocked everyone: Tian Xinju was pregnant. The couple could not believe it, believing that it was a misjudgment by the hospital, and the two changed to a hospital for examination, and were told the same conclusion.
Huang Lihui, deputy director of the obstetrics department of Changsha Maternal and Child Health Hospital, expressed incredulity about the incident, claiming that it was the first time she had met in more than two decades of practice. In general, a woman's conception has an important relationship with age, and the first ten years of menopause is the limit time for effective conception.
However, cases like Ms. Tian Xinju's elderly pregnancy will also occur, but the probability of occurrence is extremely low. Because there are scientific data that show that 0.1% of a woman's follicles in her lifetime can mature and successfully ovulate, that is, 400-500.
The remaining 99.9% of the follicles dormant in the ovaries, waiting until the woman slowly dies in the ovary after menopause. However, in the process of failure, if the body secretes or injects a large amount of estrogen, then under the stimulation of estrogen, these follicles may be rejuvenated again.
According to Huang Weiping, Tian Xinju suffered from lacunar cerebral infarction in 2018, which is a type of cerebral infarction, and patients who do not treat patients in time will become demented in the later stages. Medication is needed to control the condition.
Because Tian Xinju was a doctor before and knew a little medical knowledge, Tian Xinju not only followed the doctor's instructions and took medicine on time every day, she also took some additional Chinese medicine to adjust qi and blood. These Chinese medicines contain estrogen, and Huang Weiping speculated that his wife's pregnancy may be related to this matter.
Huang Weiping was very happy to learn that his wife was pregnant, and he thought that this was a "gift" from heaven. But those around me don't think so. The first is the doctors, who are responsible for the patient, do not recommend that Tian Xinju give birth to the child, and ask her to stop the pregnancy immediately.
Because women's ovarian function continues to fail after the age of 35, up to 40% of the elderly women who have been taken over by hospitals in recent years have miscarried.
Even if some women protect themselves and their babies well and do not have miscarriages, there will be other phenomena, such as stillbirth, premature birth, defective children and so on.
In addition, advanced maternal age has hypertension in pregnancy. In general, women over the age of 40 are at 8 times higher risk of developing gestational diabetes than women in their 20s.
Tian Xinju is 67 years old, her ovarian function has decreased significantly, and the chromosomes in her body have also changed, which has greatly increased the probability of miscarriage.
And she once suffered from lacunar cerebral infarction, as well as high blood pressure, high blood sugar and other geriatric diseases, the risk of giving birth to this child is too high for her. And his wife Huang Weiping is 68 years old, and his sperm quality is not of high quality, which will directly affect the quality of the fetus.
Liu Chengwen, director of zaozhuang Maternal and Child Health Hospital, suggested that Tian Xinju stop pregnancy. At first, the husband and wife were very entangled, they could not bear to kill the child, but they had to face a lot of complicated things after birth, and the two had been slow to make a decision.
Huang Weiping watched his wife's belly slowly grow larger, and he knew that he could not hesitate any longer, whether to go or stay must make a decision as soon as possible.
So he calmed down and seriously considered this problem and discussed it with his wife Tian Xinju, who believed that since children appeared in this world, they should be given life, and they should also enjoy the right to be parents, and they should not kill the children's lives because the two are too old.
Although this decision protected the unborn baby, it hurt the relationship between the couple and the two children. Tian Xinju's two children, hearing that their mother was going to give birth to a sister who was more than 40 years younger than them, strongly opposed it, and even threatened their parents by severing their relationship.
Here's why.
Everyone cares about reputation. Tian Xinju's son has experienced two marriages, the first marriage failed, the child was sentenced to his ex-wife, and is currently in college. At the time of their second marriage, the son and wife had a daughter. Since Tian Xinju and Huang Weiping retired, their granddaughters have been raised by them. Tian Xinju's daughter is happily married, and the child has gone to middle school.
If it is another family, the old man may already have great-grandchildren, but now Tian Xinju is pregnant with a very embarrassing situation.
Tian Xinju's daughter said that this child is younger than her child, and when she gives birth to this child, neighbors will talk about it, and she does not want family affairs to become the "talking point" in everyone's mouth.
And the child's position in the family is very embarrassing, according to age, the child should call his child's brother or sister, but according to the generation of his own child needs to call her "aunt". Most importantly, I can't accept a sister who is younger than my own child!
The mother's physical condition is not suitable for childbearing. As the doctor said, the mother's lacunar cerebral infarction has just been cured, and it should be well rested and nourished, not fertile.
Pregnancy at an advanced age is too high a risk for the mother, and she also suffers from some diseases of old age, which can be life-threatening if she is not careful. She didn't understand why her father also insisted that her mother give birth to a child, and they already had granddaughters to raise for years to come.
Third, there is the issue of maintenance costs. Although the two have a higher pension, according to the current situation is enough to raise a child, but they will one day become old, as the child grows up, the economy, energy, physical strength, etc. are huge challenges, what should the child do then?
Raising a child to grow up is not just enough to eat, from the feeding of infancy, to the long road to school, to marriage and children, these stages need the company of parents.
For their own parents, the child is not yet an adult, they may leave, which is too cruel! And if the child is not properly guided in the growth stage, the child may be inferior because his parents are too old, and there are too many practical problems to consider.
Postpartum life, happiness and happiness
Although she was opposed by her children, Tian Xinju resisted the pressure and gave birth to her daughter. Since Tian Xinju gave birth to a daughter, Huang Weiping has been busy every day.
He buys a little breakfast from the hospital every morning at eight o'clock every morning to bring to his granddaughter, and then sends her to school.
After that, Huang Weiping needed to walk the dog, the family had a puppy, used to take the puppy around every night when dancing square dance, this has become a habit, now need to take care of the wife in the hospital tonight, can not take the puppy out to play, had to take advantage of the morning to quickly take the puppy around.
Ten minutes later, Huang Weiping sent the dog home and drove back to the hospital by himself. In these few days, in order to better take care of his wife, Huang Weiping sleeps for several hours a day, and his body is tired, but looking at his newborn daughter, his tiredness disappears instantly. Because Tian Xinju recovered extremely well after giving birth, the child did not have any problems and was discharged from the hospital within a few days.
After being discharged from the hospital, the two began to plan for the future life of the child, although the pension of the two was enough to raise a child, but what to do when they left the child, the two old people began to worry about this.
Therefore, Huang Weiping decided to return to the position of lawyer. He has been a lawyer all his life, his professional ability is particularly strong, and he has accumulated a lot of contacts during his work, so it is not difficult to return to work.
In addition to working hard every day, Huang Weiping also has to take good care of his wife and daughter. He gets up at six o'clock every morning, makes breakfast for his wife, and after breakfast, he makes milk powder for her.
Because his wife did not have enough milk, Huang Weiping bought a lot of milk powder, hoping to ensure breast milk through this method. In addition, he also grows vegetables to prevent his wife from eating vegetables with pesticide residues.
In 2019, douyin exploded, many people live on it with goods to make a lot of money, Huang Weiping saw the business opportunities, he clearly knew that his salary and pension could not support his daughter's future life.
Although he has a plan in mind, he is not familiar with the operation mechanism of Douyin, does not know how to live stream goods, and everything must be learned from scratch.
In 2021, Huang Weiping released the first short video, because of the previous explosion, so the video attracted everyone's attention as soon as it was sent, and received 1.125 million likes.
After that, Huang Weiping often shared videos of the growth of the baby in this account. On the day of the two-year-old of Tianqi Baby, Huang Weiping began a live broadcast business, mainly selling baby clothes.
summary
For elderly couples who have children, as their children grow up, the economy, energy, physical strength, etc. are all huge challenges, and it is already a brave thing to be able to give birth to children and raise children as much as they can.
Therefore, we should not stand on the moral high ground to criticize them for being too selfish and that everyone on the Internet is equal.