Giving birth to three children is a hot topic now, let alone giving birth to three children in an advanced state. However, in the past, many people still chose to have three children, because the idea of the previous generation and the current young people are quite different, so they are more inclined to have three children.
Now many young people say that having three children is to find trouble for themselves, thinking that having three children is not a good choice, and it is difficult for some people who have three children to understand. In fact, giving birth to a third child is not as "bitter" as some young people think.
01 Twenty years ago, 46-year-old pregnant women fought for three children, and in their later years, they became like this, which disappointed some people
The neighbor Aunt Wang was already 46 years old twenty years ago, when she had already given birth to two children, but she saw that many friends around her had given birth to three children, so she also decided to have three children. However, her decision was not favored by others, because they thought that Aunt Wang was 46 years old, which was obviously too risky, and the other two children were older, and there was no need to fight for three children.
But Aunt Wang did not think so, or insisted on her idea of fighting for three children. At that time, some people even said that if Aunt Wang really gave birth to three children, then the old age would be hard, after all, when she was old, the child had just been puberty, and it would be hard at that time.
But this is not the case, and later Aunt Wang successfully got pregnant a few months after she was pregnant, and she also gave birth to a child smoothly, she is still a female treasure, and the other two sons are also very happy, and the family gets along very well. And after Aunt Wang entered her old age, her daughter was also filial piety. In the whole process of the child's growth, although Aunt Wang has also been sad and distressed, but because of the help of the family, coupled with the fact that the child itself is very sensible and obedient, it is still relatively relaxed.
Such an ending may be different from what many people imagine, and it has disappointed some people. They originally thought that giving birth to three children at an advanced age was doomed to have no good results, but Aunt Wang's example subverted their cognition. In fact, the reason why some people have such a thought is because there are also many factors affecting it, and if some factors are not taken into account, there may indeed be tragedies.
02 Having three children at an advanced age, if these factors are not taken into account, it may be a tragedy
First of all, the physical factor, we all know that in the state of ultra-advanced age, if you choose to give birth, then the risk to the body will be much higher than that of ordinary mothers, if this factor is not taken into account, then it is equivalent to betting on your own body, if you lose, you can imagine how much the cost is.
Women may have various postpartum sequelae, and may also have difficult labor, heavy bleeding, etc. during childbirth, and even during the confinement period, many confinement diseases may be left behind. There are many risks such as these, which is why it is not recommended that super-aged women rush to choose to fight, otherwise they will face tragedy.
Secondly, there are considerations about children, the quality of eggs provided by women in the state of super advanced age is poor, which will also affect the normal development of embryos, and it is even possible to give birth to deformed children, or children with low intelligence, and children may also carry some congenital diseases, which parents do not want to see, whether it is for parents, or for children, it is very painful.
Therefore, it is recommended that if the ultra-elderly couple really has the intention of fighting for life, not only to do a good job of full consideration, but also to implement in action, to prepare for pregnancy before the hospital to do a detailed examination, to ensure that their physical conditions are suitable for pregnancy, if the conditions are not allowed, do not force pregnancy, otherwise the risk is extremely high.
In addition, the opinion of the family is also a key consideration, and some people may feel that childbearing is their own business. Although it is true that childbearing is the right of women themselves, if the opinions of family members are larger, then along with the birth of three children, it is possible to intensify family conflicts, and it may also have a greater impact on other family members.
To take a simple example, my friend's parents also chose to prepare to have a second child at the age of 50, when the friend had a blind date, when the woman learned that his parents had the idea of having a second child, the original good feelings were directly gone, enough to see whether to decide to have a second or third child in an advanced age, in fact, the impact on other family members is also very large.
Finally, there is another key factor to consider for ultra-elderly parents, that is, the economic aspect, whether it is the pre-pregnancy examination, or the investment in all aspects during pregnancy, or the parenting of the child after birth, and the investment in education with the child's slow growth, etc., which are not a small amount. And with the aging of parents, if there is no more pension support, or more savings, I am afraid it is difficult to raise children better. Therefore, super-elderly parents should still consider the above factors in order to make more decisions, rather than making impulsive decisions.