introduction
Contemporary women's family career is grasped, not only the people who pay silently behind the family, but also many women regard the career as very important. However, you may have found a problem, many strong women are busy with their careers while unconsciously entering the age of thirty. At the same time, affected by the concept of late marriage and late childbearing, many of them have not married, let alone had children. There are countless elderly mothers, and the choice of childbearing in this case has a great impact not only on the mother but also on the child. "Mencius Leaving Lou Shang" has clouds:
There are three filial pieties, no queen is great, Shun does not tell and marries, for no queen also, the gentleman thinks that Judas also tells",
Filial piety is a Chinese tradition, in the concept of the Chinese people, passing on the generations is regarded as the most basic filial piety, but the weather is unpredictable, many people may experience the tragedy of losing their children in middle age, in order to support the elderly and in order to pass on the generations, they will try their best to reproduce again.
There was a 60-year-old man 10 years ago, and at this age, she desperately gave birth to twin daughters despite the danger, so people can't help but ask her how she is now?
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The old man's name was Sheng Hailin, and he died because of an accident in which Sheng Hailin's daughter died. In order to alleviate the feeling of longing, but also thinking of his loneliness in his old age and no one to take care of him, the old man decided to have another child after consulting with his family.
Due to the age of too old, I could only choose IVF, and after experiencing various setbacks under the operation of IVF surgery and spending a lot of money, I finally successfully conceived. After that, he ventured to give birth to twin daughters, and the old man was very fond of these two daughters and tried to raise them.
However, as the children grew up, many unsatisfactory things slowly appeared, and real life put heavy pressure on the two elderly people. Raising children already costs a lot of money, not to mention that after many tests and tubes, they have no money to maintain the normal expenses of children. Taking care of children takes a lot of energy, and at such an old age, there is not much ability to work and earn money, so life is very bleak.
The two not only did not guarantee their old age, but also made the lives of their two children unsatisfactory. Education and all aspects of life need to spend money, and the burden of life overwhelms the two.
In general, being too old is not suitable for childbearing. The risk of having children at too old has also increased, first of all, the physical condition is not optimistic, and it is easy to fall into difficult childbirth. From a medical point of view, the activity and quality of egg cells in women who age will decrease, which will make it difficult to get pregnant. At the same time, the various functions of the body decline, and the strength is not enough when it is produced. In this case, it is easy to cause difficult labor due to physical weakness, which will pose a great threat to adults and children.
After giving birth to a child, you also have to bear the various expenses of the child, which is very difficult for families with general economic conditions, many elderly women have no job, how to afford the costs of the child. The economic pressure and mental pressure faced after production can easily make people collapse.
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There is also the problem of communication with children, the old man of Sheng Hailin mentioned in this article, 60 years old to give birth, the child at the age of 10 when the old man has reached the age of ancient rarity, the two have a huge age difference. Whether it is ideological concepts or external pressure, it will cause a generation gap between children and parents, and even cause family conflicts, these problems need to be considered clearly.
Parents play a very important role in the growth of children. Children need to be helped as much as possible to help them establish good values and better understand the world. However, giving birth at the age of 60 will cause great pressure on the child itself, and will make them have a resistance from the bottom of their hearts, which are all problems that parents should always pay attention to.
Therefore, elderly women need to pay attention to many aspects, first of all, they need to strengthen physical exercise. Both men and women, young and old, need to enhance physical exercise, and many elderly women need to improve their physical fitness in order to better prepare for pregnancy, which is not only conducive to smooth production, but also better for the quality of egg cells. In addition, after giving birth to a child, you need to consider the problem of raising a child, and it takes a lot of money to raise a child from small to large.
Future education funds are also huge expenditures, for the average family, it is not easy to raise a child, so when making decisions, elderly women must take into account future economic expenditures, and need to prepare all aspects before they can take action.
epilogue
Women really decide to do it must understand the various knowledge of pregnancy and regulate their mental state. Elderly mothers are not easy, need a comprehensive economic foundation, physical fitness, but also with the family to make a final decision, in order to meet the arrival of new life, in short, fertility itself is not a trivial matter,
Giving birth at an advanced age is a huge challenge for many people, and we advise everyone to think clearly about the problems they have to deal with in advance.
Resources:
Mencius, Leaving Lou Shang