Now the youngest post-80s are already 33 years old, if they are female friends, they will almost step into the category of elderly mothers. The oldest post-80s is already 42 years old, and medically identified 45 years old as a super-elderly mother. Some female friends still want a second child at this age.
I have such an example around me, my colleague Li Jie, who is 46 years old this year, and her eldest son is 20 years old, and she is already in college. Originally this should be a happy family of three, all broken by the arrival of the second child, Li Jie said that as a super elderly mother, the heartache of which only people know, postpartum is not satisfactory too much.
In fact, when she was pregnant, the doctor advised Sister Li not to have this child. As an over-aged mother, there is a great danger to the baby and herself. It's just that Sister Li felt that 46-year-olds and 26-year-old children were the same, and so many over-aged women in the past gave birth to children.
At the age of 26, the female body is in a well-developed stage, and the physical fitness is almost at the peak of life, at this time, if you have a child, it can also be said that it is the best age. When you are pregnant, you basically don't have a bad sense of experience. If you have a child at the age of 46, you should prevent high blood sugar and high blood pressure during pregnancy, and strictly control your weight in order to control blood sugar during pregnancy.
If you give birth at the age of 46, you will also pay attention to anemia and calcium deficiency during pregnancy, and pay attention to maintaining your own nutrient intake. Even after the completion of childbirth, pay attention to the situation of high blood sugar. In addition, during confinement, the body recovery will be slower. The chance of getting gynecological diseases during this period is also higher than before, so it can be seen that having children after the age of 45 is really unfriendly to women.
In the process of postpartum baby, there will also be many problems, in the past, when taking a baby, the mother-in-law or mother can still help, and now it is completely on their own. The mother-in-law or the mother-in-law can't take care of herself, let alone take care of a newborn baby. As we all know, it takes a lot of time and effort to take care of a newborn baby.
Although moms already have experience in raising children, raising a baby is a manual job. This process requires a continuous cycle of squatting, standing up, bending over, and picking up, which is also accompanied by dealing with stains, and if the baby does not sleep and cries at night, he also has to go to sleep, and there is no good sleep to sleep at all.
Not only do people around them not understand the behavior of the couple, even their own family and Dabao have expressed their inability to accept, the opinions of outsiders may be ignored, and every time they take the child out, they may be mistaken for the child's grandmother, which is very embarrassing. When the child is older, the child may feel that his parents are different from other people's parents, resulting in inferiority complex.
Dabao's opinion has a great impact on family life, and he is afraid that this younger brother or sister will bring a burden to himself in the future. Maybe Dabao's idea is a little selfish, but it is not unreasonable, after all, his parents are already old, and when Xiaobao is a minor, no one knows what will happen in the future. One thing is certain, that is, the 46-year-old parents are naturally not more endowed with life than when they are 26 years old, so it is possible to put the responsibility of raising Xiaobao on Dabao.
Economically, the newborn baby is now called a gold-devouring beast, which can also indicate that a child is very expensive. Especially in today's society, when the baby is small, it needs milk powder and diapers. Speaking of milk powder, it has to be mentioned that the milk of over-aged women is generally insufficient, so that the consumption of milk powder is greater. The current price of big-name milk powder is not low, and it is also a high consumption for ordinary families.
After the child grows up, parents naturally have no way to tutor homework, so they can only go to the counseling center, which is another expense, if you want to learn some other hobbies, an hour of hundreds of dollars is also a normal price. Coupled with Dabao's expenses in college, family income must also be continuously improved to keep up with family consumption.
Of course, it is not necessarily a complete disadvantage for over-aged women to give birth to a second-child baby, otherwise there would not be so many mothers who risk having a second-child baby. For many couples in their forties now, due to their hard work when they were young, they have also achieved little success in their careers. There is no problem in raising a baby financially, you can ask for a sister-in-law during the confinement period, and you can also ask a nanny when you are older, so that it will not be too hard to take care of the baby.
Emotionally, the second treasure is a spiritual sustenance. In the past, when he was born dabao, he sacrificed a lot of time to accompany him to grow up in order to fight for the world, and now that he has gone to college, he can't accompany him, and he will feel lonely. In order to make up for the regrets of his youth, he chose to have a baby again, accompany his growth, and the family is more problematic. In this way, the situation of each family is different, and the birth of children by ultra-elderly mothers also needs to be treated differently.