45-year-old Yang Jinhua has not been pregnant for 5 years: "I have tried everything I can, I really hope to give me a little more luck"

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Pregnancy at an advanced age is really not something you can conceive if you want to.

Pregnant mothers have seen the history of many elderly girls' pregnancy preparations, and it is really not easy.

Recently, 45-year-old Yang Jinhua talked about her experience of seeking children, married for 5 years, and having a child has always been her and her husband's goal.

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In recent years, she has also been working hard.

As early as when her friend Lin Aichen was pregnant, Yang Jinhua revealed that she hoped that she could catch up with the progress as soon as possible, and she looked forward to the baby coming as soon as possible.

In order to conceive the baby, she saw a doctor and took Chinese medicine, but unfortunately there was no movement.

But although the pregnancy preparation process is difficult, she also confessed that she did not want to miss the opportunity to be a mother, she said at that time: I have tried everything I can, I really hope that God can give me more luck, now the routine is normal, and I also reduce socializing.

In a recent interview, Ms. Yang spoke again about adding family members, a goal she and her husband have been working on.

In the process, she will welcome the care and blessings of her relatives and friends, and she also knows that it is all love.

But too much care and greetings can also become a kind of pressure: obviously I have worked hard, but I keep hearing cheers, which is somewhat sad.

For the matter of pregnancy, Yang Jinhua also looked away: I will want, but no is no, the more I drill into the horns, the more painful it will only be myself.

I have to say that getting pregnant at an advanced age is sometimes really not so easy, and I sincerely hope that all pregnant mothers can usher in good news.

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"I tried everything I could think of to get pregnant

But I still can't get pregnant! ”

Pregnancy itself is a natural law, but pregnancy at an advanced age is a physiological challenge.

Because after a woman reaches the age of 35, ovarian function will decline "off a cliff", and 10-20% of women cannot ovulate at all.

That is to say: pregnancy at an advanced age, not if you want to conceive can be conceived.

Many elderly women have a very, very difficult road to pregnancy.

Yuan Yongyi, who is in her 40s, also tried to conceive a second child, but after trying all the methods she could, she did not achieve her wish, which has become a major regret in her life.

50-year-old Zhong Liti, in order to have a child with her current husband, did test tubes, went to the temple to ask for a child, tried all methods, and did not expect to have a baby.

She also shouted to the top of the mountain: Baby, mom and dad are ready, can you come to us quickly, you have three sisters who love you so much, mom and dad love you so much, you hurry up and find us.

47-year-old Lin Zhiling took a very difficult road in order to conceive her first baby.

In order to have a good pregnancy, she accepts fertility gifts from friends.

In order to conceive the baby smoothly, she actively gained weight according to the doctor's advice and paired herself with a healthy diet in order to have a healthier weight.

More than a dozen attempts, not hesitating to take injections and pills in order to get pregnant.

Fortunately, she finally ushered in the little angel, and she said to the outside world to give birth to a second child: I don't think I can do it, the body will tell you that I did everything I should do to get a miraculous life, I am grateful or thankful.

To welcome a little angel, Lin Zhiling is already very grateful, and she clearly knows that her body is no longer allowed to have a second child.

As netizens said: it is certain that there are fertility difficulties at an advanced age.

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Pregnancy in older women

The biggest difficulty is - it is difficult to conceive!

Whether it is natural conception or artificial test tube, it is not so easy for elderly women to get pregnant!

Let's start with natural pregnancy at an advanced age.

Women's fertility begins to decline by the age of 30, by the age of 35, this decline will be faster, by the age of 45, the ability to conceive naturally is greatly reduced, to conceive a baby naturally, it is very difficult, of course, not absolute.

Age affects the eggs, a woman has a fixed number of eggs in her ovaries at the beginning of her life, the number of eggs decreases as the woman ages, and by around the age of 30, the quality of the eggs also decreases.

And the eggs of women over the age of 35 are not as easily fertilized as those of younger women.

At the same time, as women age, they are more likely to suffer from diseases that affect fertility, such as uterine fibroids and endometriosis, and age is only one part of the problems that older mothers face.

For women who cannot conceive naturally due to advanced age, IVF is undoubtedly a way back.

But IVF does not necessarily reverse the age limit.

The success rate of IVF depends on the age of the expectant mother, as well as various factors such as ovarian function, embryo quality, and the condition of the endometrium, and in general, the success rate is between 40% and 50%.

The older you get, the lower the success rate of the tube:

●The success rate of expectant mothers aged 25-35 doing IVF is 40%-46%, or even higher.

●The success rate of expectant mothers aged 35 to 37 is 31% to 37%.

●The success rate for ages 38 to 40 is 22 to 29 percent.

●The success rate for ages 40 to 42 is 11 to 19 percent.

●For expectant mothers over 42 years old, the success rate is less than 10%.

In addition to age, the success rate of IVF is also related to pregnancy history, physical factors, and lifestyle.

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Pregnancy in older women

It's a high-risk pregnancy!

Difficulty conceiving is the number one problem for older women to get pregnant.

If the baby is successfully conceived, the elderly mother will also face some risks during pregnancy, because advanced pregnancy is already a high-risk pregnancy.

First: the risk to moms

●Increased risk of miscarriage. As egg quality declines, so does the risk of miscarriage, and older mothers are more likely to have spontaneous abortions, eclampsia, etc.

●Increased chance of dystocia. With the aging of pelvic floor structure and bone joints, tissue flexibility deteriorates, the elasticity of the cervix, uterus and perineum decreases, and muscle contractility is insufficient, and the chance of dystocia increases.

●Cesarean section. As we age, cesarean section rates also rise, from 26% at age 20 to 40% at age 35 and 48% at 40.

●Postpartum recovery is more difficult. As we age, the joints in the birth canal, perineum, and pelvis become stiffer, the worse uterine contractility and vaginal extension become worse, which will also make postpartum recovery more difficult.

From a physical point of view, having a baby late is indeed risky, and it is more difficult to recover!

Second: the risk to the baby

●Increased rates of fetal malformations. Trisomy 21 alone has a 5% incidence of pregnancy in 45-year-old women.

●Increased risk of miscarriage and preterm birth. According to statistics, the risk of premature birth at the age of 30~34 is about 4.5%; while 35~39 years old reached 5.6%; Over age 40, the risk of preterm birth is 6.8%.

To sum up: the impact of advanced pregnancy is not "how many women are older, what is the impact", but the real and direct connection with medical diseases.

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Pregnancy in older women

Doing these well can improve your chances of getting pregnant!

With the opening of the three-child policy and the change of mentality among women, the number of pregnant women over the age of 35 has doubled.

If you have to step into the ranks of advanced maternal age because of many reasons such as late marriage, or career development, don't worry too much.

With full preparation, elderly mothers can also get pregnant smoothly.

So how should older women prepare for pregnancy to reduce their risk? Pregnant mothers emphasize two points:

●Psychological: stable emotions, relaxed environment, husband's care.

●Physically: Conduct a comprehensive examination, intervene early, control early, and do not delay.

Exactly how to do this, then look down:

First: maintain a good life and delay egg aging

Eggs are the "seeds" that give birth to babies, and healthy life and diet can maintain the health and vitality of eggs, starting from the following aspects:

● Adhere to a regular life, do not smoke, stay up late, and do not drink alcohol.

●Exercise regularly, with at least 30 minutes of exercise recommended ≥ five times a week.

●Eat a healthy diet and avoid being underweight and overweight.

Second: do a good job of routine and gynecological examination

When preparing for pregnancy, go ahead for pre-pregnancy examination, such as blood, urine routine, liver and kidney function, hepatitis B series, infectious diseases and other tests.

In addition, it is necessary to inform the doctor of the health history, including pregnancy history, surgery, disease, disorders, drugs, addiction, diet, nutrition, physical health, and if there is a problem, it is necessary to prepare for pregnancy under the guidance of the doctor.

Third: Don't stay up late during pregnancy

Staying up late will seriously affect the quality of sperm and eggs, so during the pregnancy preparation period, expectant fathers and expectant mothers need to develop a regular lifestyle that does not stay up late, and ensure at least 8 hours of sleep every night.

Fourth: adjust your mood and lifestyle

Always trying to get pregnant has not been able to conceive, elderly mothers preparing for pregnancy are often too stressful and accompanied by anxiety, the old saying that the greater the pressure, the more difficult to conceive, so do a good job of self-psychological counseling to relieve psychological pressure.

Fifth: If you can't get pregnant for half a year, you have to see a doctor

If you are over 35 years old, if you have not been pregnant for half a year or more, see a doctor to rule out physical problems.

If natural pregnancy is not a suitable principle, artificial test tubes can be considered on the advice of a doctor.

Whether it's working to conceive naturally under the guidance of a doctor, or medical intervention, following a healthy lifestyle when cooperating with your doctor's treatment can increase your chances of getting pregnant!

I hope that all pregnant mothers can welcome the little angel as they wish!