I once met a young couple in the hallway of a hospital. The woman, with the test report in her hand, leaned against the wall in silence and did not open the door of the examination room for a long time. As I walked past them, I heard the man say in a firm tone, "If you can't get pregnant this time, we'll divorce." ”
At that time, my heart was like falling into an ice cellar. The thin figure of the woman hung on the wall, lonely and helpless. I wanted to go over and say something to her, but I couldn't say anything.
It is conceivable that the life born under such pressure may have nothing to do with beauty from the beginning of its conception. But whose fault is this?
Later, on various occasions, I met countless men and women with fertility problems, and when they learned that they could not naturally conceive a new life, they were so anxious that they used various means to try, and even paid a thousand times the price.
If you want to see the world, the hospital is the best place to shoot. In the consultation room of the fertility hospital, there is a meeting of women's suffering. I have heard countless women tell me their stories, listen to them tell me, every time when the egg is taken and transplanted, the hope and anxiety in their hearts; every time the fertilized egg does not implant, everything returns to the original point of loss and despair; the hopes of the family, the worries about the future, are the mountains that weigh on their hearts.
I know that many people will be very nervous when they first do IVF, especially after experiencing failure, it is inevitable that anxiety, disappointment and other emotions will occur. At this time, whether it is a doctor or a successful senior, everyone will tell them to relax their mood, because a relaxed mood can improve the success rate.
However, in many people's eyes, this sentence is like "drink more hot water", just a comforting word casually said by the doctor, but in fact, it is not so.
A woman once cried to us at the doctor that they had been on this road for ten years in order to have a child.
Ten years of anticipation of ten years of suffering, of which physical hardship can still bear, but the psychological pressure almost crushed her several times.
Who wouldn't want to be able to conceive naturally? But physical defects seemed to be her original sin. Now that the in-laws are more than eighty years old, the only son they have in mind is that they have no children. Every time she saw the anticipation in the old man's cloudy eyes, she was about to collapse.
In order to get rid of the guilt in her heart, she has filed for divorce many times, but all of them have been rejected by her husband. After understanding her knot, our family counselor consulted and enlightened her, and guided her to communicate openly and honestly with her family, which achieved good results. Before entering the week, the mother-in-law also called her many times to comfort her: "It doesn't matter, as long as the two of you are doing well, you can adopt one without children." ”
No one thought that just when she let go of the obsession of "birth", the "pregnant" qi met unexpectedly. Today, their baby has been born successfully, and even doctors say it is a miracle.
In the process of pregnancy preparation, psychological factors are often easily overlooked, however, its impact on the success rate of test tubes should not be underestimated.
First of all, for women who do IVF, compared with men, they tend to bear greater psychological pressure in the preparation for pregnancy and pregnancy process, which will bring great psychological distress to their psychology, such as: worry about the pain of surgery, worry about whether it is successful, and even worry about the health of the child, worry about the views of people around them, and so on.
This stress has a major impact on the secretion of hormones in women and can even disrupt the balance of the body. The menstrual cycle is mainly controlled by hormones, if a woman has greater mental stress, it may cause her body to secrete enough hormones, or hormone disorders, resulting in difficulty ovulating, which in turn affects fertilization. Even if ovulation is successful and fertilization is successful, excessive psychological stress in women can affect embryo transfer, ultimately reducing the success rate of IVF.
Secondly, not only women, but also men will feel a lot of pressure in the process. This mental burden can also affect the hormone secretion of the male body, resulting in a decrease in sperm count. In addition, psychological stress can also reduce sperm activity, making fertilization more difficult. Conversely, men with pleasant mental health who have more sperm counts, better activity, higher fertilization rates, and higher IVF success rates will naturally be higher.
Nowadays, with the development of medical technology, assisted reproductive technologies such as IVF are just a means of helping pregnancy, just like getting an injection and taking medicine when you have a cold, and there is nothing special about it. How to make this process no longer become a family nightmare, so that more people feel the magic and beauty of the process of nurturing life, is the direction I have been working towards.
Reproductive specialists' advice on psychological regulation
1． Self-regulate, give yourself positive psychological cues, maintain a relaxed and optimistic state, and go with the flow.
2． Try to avoid interference from family or friends and face this matter with peace of mind. Family members should also not give undue attention or interference, and should be given appropriate support.
3． Proper exercise, such as walking, jogging, swimming, etc., can help relieve mental stress.
4． Childbearing is the common will of both parties, so couples should trust and support each other, especially when one party has negative emotions such as anxiety, the other party can give comfort and relief.
5． Trust the medical staff a little more, relax, and maybe a good pregnancy will follow.
6． Choosing the right fertility center and an experienced hospital can not only improve the success rate, but also alleviate psychological stress.