Wen/Lan Mama on parenting
I am a post-90s mother and a mother of three
If someone asks what it's like to have three kids?
In my opinion, one child costs money, and the second child costs throat
What about the three children?
Well, three children, it seems to have completely cured my big hands!
This is a 29-year-old mother of three children to share, when she is young, what kind of "three children" growth experience will she bring us?
Let's first share the parenting mood of the first, second, and third children:
When giving birth to a child
Mood: Excitement
When I gave birth to a child, my mother was 22 years old, it was the peach and plum nianhua who did not apply powder, gave birth to a baby girl, the baby was not in much mood when it was born, did not want to see, did not want to hold, did not know whether it was from the birth of the pain of the horror, or the first mother's complicated mood, anyway, just returned to the ward to rest when the performance was very quiet.
Until the little girl is not much bigger, the voice is "wow" so that the ward is no longer quiet, Bao Dad, and Grandma in the arms of the helpless, but put on their own side of the moment to stop crying, that moment of inner defense, looking at the swaddled little person, as if it is the most beautiful face in the world, a magical and happy emotion warms the heart.
Since then, sleeping with her daughter in her arms is a sense of security, not seeing her daughter for a moment is like losing her life, hearing her daughter called "Mom, Mom" will be happy for a long time, for the daughter's colorful childhood life, but also opened a variety of buy buy buy mode, a few months before the hair is not long when you buy hair card leather band, can not sit when you can not help buy a small skirt ...
At that time, the biggest cognition of a child was Oh mom, raising a is too expensive
Feeling: Very patient
When he was 1 year old, he patiently told his daughter to learn to talk, toddler, and when she wrestled, she picked up painfully, rubbed, blew, and always blamed herself, saying "I blame my mother, I didn't take good care of you."
At the age of 2, the naughty daughter began to break up the house, like to play with shredded paper, like to scribble, like to chase big friends... these behaviors, although a little naughty, but quite cute
At the age of 3, the little girl began to be eager to make friends, every day noisy, noisy to go out to "find children to play", which is a bit bitter old mother, transformed into a small class with the child to run, afraid that the daughter will be bullied and fall down
When giving birth to a second child
Mood: Confused
When the second child was born, the sister was 3 years old, and she was happy to mention her sister again, on the first day of childbirth, the sister came to the hospital to see her mother, and it was very unpleasant to see her mother holding her sister, hiding in her father's arms and not even looking at her sister, the ward said that it was noisy, crying and crying, in order not to disturb the rest of the ward, the sister was taken home to take care of it.
On the day of discharge, grandma sent her sister to the hospital, there was something to leave, dad carried the discharge carry-on items in one hand, pulled the sister in the other hand, the mother held the sister, but the sister was not happy, saying that she also wanted the mother to pull, so it was changed to the mother carrying the items and pulling the sister.
And do you think your sister just stopped? No, the sister said to run on the road, the mother while facing the pain of the tearing wound, while also jogging to catch up with the sister, after returning home at night, the sister was still angry and unwilling to go near the sister, when the mother did not pay attention to the sister with the ground frame said "I want to throw you in the trash", fortunately, the sister's limited strength, and finally the mother who was fast successfully avoided a disaster.
Just like that, on the first day that my sister came home, my sister had a nasty heart, and my mother had a helpless and complicated heart, and she knew that the hard days were still ahead
Feelings: Particularly impatient
When I was 1 year old, my sister hated my sister, and often said angrily, "Smelly sister, really annoying, every day I occupy my mother, I want to throw you in the trash", knowing that my sister can really do this, my mother has to open an extra pair of eyes every day, for fear of making a mistake
When I was 2 years old, my sister began to grab toys with my sister, when my sister couldn't grab it and cried, my sister couldn't play and cried, and then in the chicken feathers that were crying and crying and arguing, the old mother often roared, "You are really annoying, can you stop crying?"
When I was 3 years old, my sister chased my sister to play, my sister chased after my friend, and then my sister cried and complained, and my sister said "you can't play" with disgust, and then my mother pulled my sister to chase my sister (afraid of my sister crying), but running around was "meaningless", telling my sister to "play by yourself"
At the age of 4, everywhere you go to buy things must be exactly the same, the color, pattern, including the taste must be the same, or it is "hum", and then thrown, and then everyone sulks together
In short, after the second child, it was too much effort, and she successfully boiled herself into a tigress!
When three children are born
Mood: Complicated
When the third child was born, the eldest sister was 7 years old, the second sister was 4 years old, this time made up a good word, gave birth to a little brother, and compared with the birth of a child and a second child, the obvious difference is that the family atmosphere is more warm, as the two sisters are getting better and better, it is difficult to distinguish each other, the two of them sometimes have a look, you can know what the other is thinking.
For example, on the day the little brother was born, the sisters and sisters met to open the brother's swaddling face, two girls touched the face, a pinch of the small hand is really too warm, compared to the unforgettable pain just experienced in the delivery room, the mother feels that everything is worth it at this moment, but after giving birth to three children, the future days will not be more chicken and dog jumping, but also bring a little worry and confusion.
However, from the day when she was ready to give birth to her third child, as a mother, her mother had already made sufficient preparations, with everyone's blessings, with expectations for the future, and with the happiness of two sisters, so that the three little brothers were born
Feeling: Somewhat warm
Because the three-child is open last year, those three-child babies have not yet grown into big friends, anyway, the little brother who has just turned three months in the text is currently bringing a lot of warmth to the family, and at the same time suppressing many "shortcomings" of the mother.
Warm, is the sister and sister every day around the small treasure, not to feed, or to wear clothes, sometimes together to change the brother diaper wet, of course, these are based on the "clean" situation of not spitting up milk, not defecating, as if the little brother is the sisters' realistic version of the family baby, probably also in response to the online circulation of the sentence "have a brother to play for the sister", the harmony between the sisters and brothers is indeed a warm landscape in the home.
What about suppressing "disadvantages"? This is more interesting, since the birth of three children, the mother feels like a scarce item, ignore it, three children together is true love, hug it, all scramble to hug, if the three-child brother grows up a few years later, it will be more interesting.
In fact, the most interesting place is "after three children, it seems to be able to cure all diseases", the two sisters have more "with a baby" fun, rarely appear you scramble for me, you cry I make a fuss of chicken flying dog jumping picture, what about the mother? As the family feud went to sleep, the mood began to stabilize, and there was rarely a yelling out of anger, in the words of my sister, "Our mother is back."
There is also one of the most important changes in the warm "cure for all diseases", that is, since the birth of three children, the "problem" of spending money and spending a lot of money is gone, and the so-called "scientific feeding" on the body has begun to become more and more real, and it will not be finely fed to "this can't work, that can't be used", probably the birth and maintenance of two children has already "drunk enough chicken soup", and in the experience of groping and searching, parenting is no longer difficult to know how to do.
Three children can "cure all diseases"? Wouldn't having a third child be like a play? This is an illusion!
One more child, more responsibility, more work, but also more than one family expenses, in the process of having three children is still particularly tiring, just say october pregnancy, breastfeeding, growth education, homework counseling, these are not a worry, let people relax, especially the family conditions themselves are not very good, and the living area is limited, the big treasure, the second treasure against the situation, everyone must consider when giving birth to the third child.
As long as we understand that the purpose of our three-child birth is to make the family happier, not to create contradictions, as long as the family opinion is unified, everyone is enthusiastically looking forward to the three-child baby, then it is not so difficult on the road of three-child birth, especially if there are more children, it will have an environmental impact, if the sister likes to read, practice, and draw, you will find that the daily life of younger siblings will unconsciously develop these interests.
Therefore, it is not difficult to have three children, the difficulty is that the conditions we hold are not satisfied, in the case of more children, in fact, many parents can realize that each child has their own growth law, as a parent only needs to be a good guide of the environment, with their own behavior to influence and guide the healthy growth of children, then the family will be happy and harmonious, the children raised will not be too bad!
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I am Lan Ma, focusing on the analysis of the parenting field author, with personal examples, a variety of family education examples, to record the moment of parenting feelings, like friends, welcome to pay attention to @ Lan Mama talk about parenting together to learn and grow together!