Wen/Lan Mama on parenting
"Cold window for ten years, the title should be", this is probably most of the parents' beautiful expectations for the growth of their children, but learning this road is not simple, after the cold window of hard reading, surviving the mountains and seas of books, these in addition to the need for a positive and good learning heart, but also need a good learning foundation as a spiritual pillar on the road of learning.
For example, the collapse of senior students' boredom is generally due to "learning not to progress", when no matter how hard you try to see hope, too much foundation will become discouraged self-abandonment, and learning is like building a house, you need to lay the base step by step, if there is no solidity to speak of, future learning is also easily affected by collapse.
It is precisely because of the importance of learning the basic knowledge, so many parents will regard the early childhood as the key period of the child's ability development, each year's kindergarten is the happy memory of the children to say goodbye to the kindergarten, but also the starting sprint stage of the parents' "stupid bird first flying", and even some parents can quickly enter the learning state in order for their children to go to primary school, they will choose to let the baby go to the kindergarten bridging course class in the month before the kindergarten graduation.
Is it necessary to join the young one?
The reason why the early childhood articulation has received the attention and attention of many parents is actually because the early childhood articulation is the transition period between the kindergarten and the primary school stage, and this stage is also a major turning point in the child's learning and growth, and the role of the kindergarten bridging class is actually to enable children to better accept primary school life through advance learning.
However, the academic performance is only temporary, can not go through the cold window of hard reading, survive the golden list title of the book mountain, in the end lies in the child's own learning ability, ability is the regenerative ability to compete with all the tribulations in this world, whether it is to pave the way for children in advance, or to arrange a variety of elite courses for them to tutor, in fact, these passive learning is more likely to be counterproductive, in addition to the spiritual dependence on learning, the excessive participation of parents will also cause children to "desire freedom" antipathic consciousness.
A friend told me that she let her daughter go to the kindergarten bridging class a month before the graduation of the kindergarten class, after the first grade of primary school and the class did not go to the kindergarten bridging classmates did open up the gap, the mid-term and final tests can almost get double percentages, but this gap has not been continuous, with the daughter "I have learned these things, the class can not listen to the lecture can also take 100 points" Proud arrogant mentality, and finally in the "I will" do not pay attention to their own ability to improve, from the third grade of primary school after the grade began to decline sharply ...
So, is the early childhood bridging class really good for children's learning and growth? In fact, this answer does not have a standard definition, some children from primary school to large are school bullies, some children learn to learn from the school bully to the scum, in fact, the biggest difference between the school bully and the scum is not who is on the young articulation, but in their growth and learning on the road of comprehensive ability feedback, excellent ability can naturally be in a high position in learning.
So, if you have to ask "Is it necessary to make a small connection?" Lan Mama believes that learning in advance is not as good as cultivating the child's comprehensive ability development, it is the gold that will always shine, and the child's comprehensive ability feedback is the best mentor and friend on their learning road.
For example, do a good job in the following 5 comprehensive ability training, seconds beyond the same age baby
1. Independent ability
Develop a good independent ability personality, which is the child's primary school foundation has a strong and brave, and independent thinking of the sense of autonomy, to know that our children are a completely independent, thinking individual, want the child to be full of positive energy good at learning, then first of all, we must cultivate the child's independent ability, only independence can form a child's good character, become a positive opinion, thinking, confidence, responsibility, ideas, self-discipline of the superior student.
How to develop children's independence? Lan Mama summarizes the following references:
Cultivate children's sense of independence, allow children to express opinions, and avoid children from forming spiritual and ideological dependence from an early age
Respect for the child's willingness to live, respect is the premise of the child to learn independence, only hands-on participation can be independent and assertive
Increase children's interest in doing things independently, allow children to do things they like, and only by mastering experience can they do things more actively
Parents can not over-coddle children, love children, but must not be overly doting, arranged or substituted is not conducive to the formation of independence
Parents are the original of children's growth, and parents need to do themselves well before cultivating children's independence, and trust their children in order to become proud
Eating and drinking Lasa must be trained independently, independently from the small things of life, eating by yourself, brushing your teeth and washing your face, dressing, going to the toilet, lifting your pants...
Proud of the child's independent habits, independence is the child's hands-on ability, and the encouragement and pride of parents are the spiritual pillars of the child
2. Writing ability
In fact, every child transitions from kindergarten to primary school, every child's growth height is the same, but their environment and ability affect the starting posture, like many children just entered the primary school life, the biggest mental pressure and learning obstacle is that they can not write a good hand, especially the children under the public kindergarten pay attention to interest cultivation, in the happy education mode they from "no pen to write, to suddenly hold the pen to write homework", This sudden shift in negative pressure on learning is particularly unkind to children.
If the child has never practiced words before going to primary school, and even his own name is not written well, then after going to primary school, there will be half a month to learn to practice words, this process will not only affect the efficiency of children's acceptance of knowledge, but also the large difference between them and classmates, but also easy to cause psychological pressure to children, thus affecting the enthusiasm for learning, so in the critical stage of early childhood articulation, parents instead of letting children "stupid birds fly first" to learn primary school knowledge in advance, it is better to teach children to practice a good hand step by step.
How important is writing skills to a child's learning? Just as the so-called "life smart writing begins", writing a good hand is also a necessary skill for children's learning and ability development, and from an early age to cultivate children's writing norms, the future learning and self-confidence have an important role in promoting, through the cultivation of writing ability can effectively improve the child's concentration, and attention, a stroke is also the child's sense of responsibility to do things seriously and steadily, which is easy to be appreciated by the teacher in the classroom and learning ability, is the knocking stone of the children's learning ability, A good hand can broaden the child's employment path in the future.
However, for children to practice writing is often more boring and tedious, in order to better cultivate children's interest in practicing words, it is recommended that parents can improve their writing pleasure through some interesting learning methods, such as guessing puzzles, idiom solitaire, drumming and other games into writing mode, under the influence of fun and interesting games, you will find that children's writing interest will be higher and higher.
3. Social skills
Social networking is an indispensable skill in children's learning and growth, pay attention to those who can be selected as class leaders just after primary school, in addition to their excellent external ability to show, they also have excellent social skills, they can quickly adapt to unfamiliar environments, and build a friendly teacher-student relationship with the teacher, and under the influence of deep memory, these children are usually more likely to be concerned by the teacher.
Life can not avoid socializing, children's learning and growth also need high emotional intelligence socialization to achieve more meaningful growth value, from the first day they enter kindergarten, it also opened a real sense of independent socialization, children with excellent social skills, they are easy to get together wherever they go, especially in the kindergarten transition primary school stage, good friendship can better motivate children's learning and growth.
In this regard, it is recommended that parents do not overly manage children and tie children from an early age, if you are really worried that some playful children will affect their children's learning attitudes, it is recommended that they search for friends with fun according to their children's interests, such as children like to draw, we can take children to the library to walk around, there are children who paint, there are children who read books and reads, everyone can exchange experience in excellent independent opinion communication, and can purify a positive and good circle of friends.
4. Team ability
Among the outstanding student representatives, in fact, many children have excellent team ability in the class, they are not learning committee members, class leaders, learning representatives, or three good students, group leaders or labor committee members, as if the outstanding children have the strength of an official and a half-job behind the recognition, and this strength expression is also a recognition of the child's self-confidence ability, and only with strong team ability, can get along with people, they can harvest more opportunities to participate in practice in the growth of primary school.
So do not want the child to lose on the starting line of parents, instead of too much grasp of the child's young articulation, it is better to focus this energy on the child's team ability training, excellent teamwork ability can cultivate their leadership will, this ability in the future is easy to attract the attention of the teacher, to the road to learning to bring more positive self-confidence recognition, how to cultivate children's teamwork ability? We can start from the details of life, parents must usually be "willing to use their children".
For example, in addition to learning, often pull children together to do housework, even if it is a father and mother washing dishes, children wiping the table and sweeping the floor, mother cooking, children washing vegetables and choosing dishes, these processes can not only exercise the child's labor ability, but also improve their concept of cooperation, usually when doing a thing, we can also try to take the child as the center, let the child to assign a thing plan, this assistance can be a good training of the child's guidance ability, for the future learning, and even after entering the society after the ability to work are of great help!
5. Reading ability
Good learning ability training needs to start from the improvement of children's own abilities, from independent ability, writing ability, to social skills and team skills, which are indispensable to the ability of children in the process of learning and growth, and also have important significance in the future learning and even growth process of children.
However, the learning of this road is full of potholes and bumps, on this road to maintain a good interest in learning, then parents should affect their learning attitude from the child's personal will and learning environment, if we do not know what kind of way to establish a good learning environment for children, it is recommended that parents usually have time to develop good reading habits for their children.
Good reading habits can improve children's interest in learning and love in the process of reading can also be a good way to calm the mood fluctuations, especially when reading to recuperate through the hands, brain, eyes to achieve concentration control, while children who like to read, their vocabulary accumulation, writing ability, comprehension ability, including sound personality quality have a good embodiment.
Books are the most valuable nutritional products for children to learn and grow, it can bring enough courage to children, but also can bring brave strength to overcome difficulties, but good reading ability is needed to accumulate over time, want children to fall in love with reading, then parents need to do a good job of reading examples, children learn when we read books on the side, children watch TV when we also read books on the side, under the influence of a good reading atmosphere, you will find that children and us will be more close because of reading.
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I am Lan Ma, focusing on the analysis of the parenting field author, with personal examples, a variety of family education examples, to record the moment of parenting feelings, like friends, welcome to pay attention to @ Lan Mama talk about parenting together to learn and grow together!