Wen/Lan Mama on parenting
The footsteps of the Spring Festival are approaching, and the children's winter vacation with the Spring Festival is less than 20 days left, in the old and new beautiful Spring Festival, we often say "children study hard for a year, this Spring Festival let them play happily and happily", and the Spring Festival should not "manage" the child has also become a group of parents' ideological struggle, in fact, efficient education methods should not be affected by time and place, and the high realm of education is precisely to take behavior as a habit.
We often complain that our children are not careful enough about learning, or grow too many bad habits, in fact, growth is to have a lot of uncertainties, those self-disciplined learning, do not need parents to worry about the children are not born, behind each excellent are hidden countless hard work day and night, and known as "curve overtaking" winter vacation and summer vacation, children's time is generally from the holiday to the holiday has been arranged crowded without gaps, especially the children who learn to catch up may Chinese New Year's Eve should also learn to learn.
In fact, the road of learning has never been simple to speak of, the child's learning journey is not a day or two can be completed, and we pay attention to the quality of children's learning at the same time, but also pay more attention to the development of children's mental health, learning to pay attention to the combination of work and leisure, but also pay attention to the peace of mind, like the Spring Festival such a happy day if the child is alone in the side of learning, the cover of laughter will not only affect the child's learning play, from the depths of the heart is also easy because "others are playing, and I am learning" There is imbalance or rebellious behavior.
If you pay attention to learning, but also pay attention to the child's health psychology, Lan Mama believes that it is necessary to let children have a "happy holiday" during the Spring Festival, want to have a good habit of hard work, or the child's learning is not affected, guide the child to develop some good habits during the Spring Festival, good habits can play a role in the icing on the cake for excellent children, and it is just a good time for children who lack habits to "overtake in the winter holiday corner", so why not enjoy the benefits of both?
So, what are the habits of happy Spring Festival that children need to pay attention to? Parents should guide their children to do the following five things:
The first one: the Spring Festival plan
Just as the so-called "handling things have a plan, and the heart is not flustered", those when we get started to operate, and there is no way to start, in fact, they lack a planned goal planning before doing things, the beginning of each thing but where there is a concise plan, there will be at least a clear way of thinking in the mind, such as children to participate in the marathon, in addition to planning what clothes to wear, what shoes to wear, pay attention to the pre-race emotional solution, there will be more track drills in advance, and there are prepared races and unprepared races, There are often obvious differences in psychological quality.
Therefore, the first thing that children's Spring Festival winter vacation habits cultivate is "to make a plan", if this thing is placed on weekdays to do children may not be interested, and in the Spring Festival to visit relatives and friends, new year to take the red envelope on the good day of the child will obviously be active and enthusiastic, in the Spring Festival a day or two before the child to design a "Spring Festival schedule", this is also a great opportunity for children's self-management ability training, especially to develop a meaningful holiday life plan, for the child's learning, and behavior management are of great significance.
It is worth noting that the child communicates with the child about the following issues before making the schedule, and the plan is more in place:
√ "What are your Spring Festival plans?" ”
√ "What entertainment plans do you have with your friends during the Spring Festival?" ”
√" What are the plans for learning the red envelopes received in the New Year? For example, which book would you like to buy? What tutoring materials? ”
√ "After making the schedule, remember to match the clothes you want to wear, your vision will definitely not be bad"
The second thing: go to bed early and get up early
Good habits need to be reflected in every day of daily life, happy Spring Festival also do not sleep casually until the sun on the three poles, want to make the whole Spring Festival have a taste, then going to bed early and getting up early is an indispensable daily basic guarantee, many parents in the children's holiday "curve overtaking" are focused on the development of learning ability, of which going to bed early and getting up early is the beginning of a good state and a good day.
If the child can also keep going to bed early and getting up early during the holiday, then the child gets up early after the end of the holiday is naturally not a problem, compared to those children who have to adapt to the work and rest for a week at the end of the holiday, it can be said that the children who can keep going to bed early and getting up early during the holiday will win in the curve of the race, and the children who can keep going to bed early and getting up early during the holiday naturally do not need to say anything more in terms of self-discipline and self-management.
Third: housekeeping
In the child's all-excellent ability training, housework has independence, self-management, and gratitude awareness training, from childhood has not done housework children seem to have clothes to reach out to open their mouths of childhood, in fact, such children leave their parents, go out of the house after more is uneasy about life, lack of independent consciousness of their lives will often be a mess, and the ability to do housework is not only the child's independent training, in a variety of labor exercises the child's self-management including gratitude awareness will be implemented.
And when it comes to children doing housework, many parents are distressed that children are usually too tired of going to school, if they do housework after school, they can't bear it, in fact, the cultivation of housework is not how much the child has done, but whether there is participation today, even if it is throwing garbage, sweeping the ground once, collecting a bowl, these participatory labor will bring experiential happiness to the child, especially when the child helps to wipe the table, mop the floor to get thank you and recognition, this sense of achievement brought by the labor pay is enough to recall, but also the child's self-confidence, and participate in the cultivation of awareness.
Fourth: Reading plan
Reading can make people enrich, open the mind, those export into chapters of poetry famous words sound pleasant to the ear, many parents are worried that the Spring Festival will affect the child's learning and reading plan, in fact, reading lies in the heart, as long as there is a heart will not be affected, happy Spring Festival in the good time do not read or punch the clock, with a happy atmosphere to guide children to do a "reading plan", you will find that children will be more and more attentive to reading, in language expression and thinking play have a good embodiment.
Speaking of happy reading plan, there may be many parents are a little confused, in fact, the essence of happiness is to develop children's thinking expression, on the value of reading, in fact, reading is to make people's thinking, heart, mind, knowledge to be improved, the way to read is not only to read books to read, change "reading" to "say", in different ways to improve children's knowledge reserves, which is more thinking than a single reading and reading.
For example, when the child sees the snow to tell a story about the "Snow Maiden", the parents take it down in the form of recording a video, take it out to enjoy it before going to bed at night, take out the questions for the places in question, give praise to the excellent clips, and usually when relatives and friends gather together, they can also guide the child to show their talents, such as you go out of the upper link, everyone on the lower link, you come out of the idiom, everyone solitaire, in such an unlimited time and place to visit the door does not affect, can play at any time to communicate under the "reading plan", I believe that after the end of the holiday, the child's vocabulary, The ability to express oneself has been greatly improved.
Fifth: etiquette training
A child with excellent character and learning, not only the ability to learn, and the self-discipline and ability to develop habits, civilized courtesy in dealing with people is the necessity of quality and moral cultivation, to be a polite child everywhere he goes with his own aura of popularity, a "thank you", "sorry" seems ordinary, but it is the embodiment of socializing, quality and emotional intelligence with people, but good etiquette needs to be implemented from an early age, when the child will be etiquette as an instinctive reaction such as eating, the child's conversation and behavior are full of cultivation qualities.
Among them, the cultivation of Spring Festival etiquette should be reflected in the following aspects:
√ greeting people - no matter how your relatives and neighbors meet, you should shout humanitarian greetings "Happy Spring Festival, get rich every year"
√ leave the table to say hello - when eating, the children will leave the table relatively early, and guide the children to say "I am finished eating, xx you eat slowly"
√ be polite when visiting relatives and friends, do not arbitrarily take other people's belongings, do not litter, do not spit at will
√ relatives and friends to give red envelopes to say thank you + blessing words, such as "thank you xx red packets, I wish you good health and good luck in the new year"
During the New Year, let the child do more than the above five things, even if the winter vacation is only half a month left, it does not affect the child's learning, to know that the attitude determines learning, and the attitude is indispensable to the blessing of habits, usually pay more attention to the child's habit cultivation, but any tutoring course, the teacher can not cover, and maintain good habits during the Spring Festival, I believe that after the end of the holiday, the child's learning will also have a significant improvement.
So, what are the different parenting suggestions for children's "Spring Festival habits"? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to share!
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