After the three-child policy was liberalized, many people expressed their views.
I know that someone once discussed:
A: How much economic pressure is now, I can't afford to raise a child, let alone 3.
B: In the past, there were several children in the family, and now there are 2 children, and the quality of life is not necessarily how high.
C: If you want to have 3 children, you must have a mine at home, otherwise a family of 5 people can only drink the northwest wind!
Netizens are telling the truth, with the change of young people's concept of fertility, the number of one-child families will not decrease in the future.
Because, we have to face real life.
The gap between raising one child and raising three children is too big, especially when the parents are old.
In fact, in less than twenty years, the gap between one-child families and three-child families will come out, and reality cannot deny it.
Gap in parental effort
First, from the perspective of parenting, raising 3 children is more troublesome than raising 1 child.
We all know that after having a child, most people have an unfinished heart. It's 1 child. What about a 3-child family?
As the saying goes, "Raise a child for a hundred years, worry about ninety-nine." ”
According to this formula, it is estimated that it will have to work until 300 years old.
According to the age of the child, if there is a child in the family, the parents can take care of his diet and living more easily.
However, if there are 3 children in the family, the parents need to have three heads and six arms.
Under normal circumstances, parents have to sacrifice their spare time, sacrifice their sleep time, and take care of the food and drink of 3 children. If there is an old man to help take care of it, it is easier, and if there is no old man to help, you can only support yourself...
Second, from the perspective of education, the cost of education for 3 children is much higher than that of 1 child.
From the birth of the child, parents follow the rhythm of the child.
At the stage of going to school, there is only 1 child, and you can only worry about the study of this one child, which is relatively worry-free.
If you have three children, each child is at a different age.
The eldest went to elementary school, the second went to kindergarten, and the third was still nursing.
Parents have to worry about three children at the same time, each child has a different schedule, a different play time.
The eldest needs to write homework, the second comes home and asks his mother to play with him, the third waits for his mother to feed him, the father is still waiting for the mother to cook, and the company is still waiting for the mother to work overtime.....
I can't imagine that such a woman is really quite great.
Household economic disparities
From kindergarten to elementary school, and finally junior high school, high school, college, graduate school, etc., you need money.
For the average person, raising 1 child requires a large amount of education costs, and for families with 3 children, not to mention.
There are careful netizens, calculated an account, if there is a child in the family, it is from birth to admission to college.
A total of 623,000-1.978 million yuan is required. Then if you have 3 children, you need 1.869-5.934 million yuan.
This is not counting the children after marriage, buying a house, buying a car, bride price, etc...
There is really a big difference between the cost of one child and the cost of three children.
After reading this number, I believe many people are shocked, do you dare to give birth to 3 children?
With a family of 3 children, the parents' lives will be tight.
They dare not stop making money, afraid that they will not be able to afford to raise 3 children.
Looking around, the parents of three children must be more tired, more tired, and more haggard than the parents of one child.
The gap in the standard of living of the family
Raising a child, most families have spare money. Parents can not be too "suffocated" themselves, and their quality of life will not be too bad.
If the husband and wife are dual workers, then as the child grows older, when the child becomes a family, it is the biggest expense of the whole family.
In addition to providing help to their children within their capabilities, parents also have pensions, and when the time comes, they can save a sum of money for the elderly.
Families with three children, if the parents are ordinary people, basically can't save money.
In addition to raising their 3 children bitterly, the parents also had to worry about the marriage, house, car, etc. of the 3 children, spend all their savings to help the children start a family, and then return to the pre-liberation night.
At the age of retirement, you also need to do some part-time work to earn more money and prepare for your pension.
If the couple revolves around 3 children every day, the two simply do not have time to care about each other. There simply isn't much time to exchange feelings.
Then between husband and wife, in life, there will always be quarrels over some trivial matters.
Economic pressures and life pressures can affect the harmony of the relationship and family.
There is a 3-child mother next to me, she said a sentence:
Pension is like dirt
Pension two rational consumption
Pension three cuts to the extreme
Mothers of three will never impulsively consume because not having money can really be worrying.
Some time ago, I watched a true story, there is a mother who is 40 years old this year, has 3 children, she is divorced.
The reason is simple, after she married her husband, she resigned to be a full-time wife at home, all her energy and time were invested in the children, there was no time to take care of herself, there was no time to communicate with her husband, and finally, her husband cheated in marriage.
This mom was particularly miserable when she first found out that her husband had cheated on her, because she gave everything she had.
She had 3 children, 2 girls and 1 boy, and the 3rd child was also asked by her husband to be born in order to "stay behind".
In order to ease the feelings between the husband and wife, the mother gave birth to a son at the age of 37.
However, this mother is too simple, she gave birth to 3 children, took care of it alone, and the result was still not to save her husband's "heart", which is really pitiful.
In the end, the mother stopped struggling and resolutely filed for divorce from her husband.
His husband agreed, and the boy and eldest daughter went to their father, and the second daughter to their mother.
However, the mother offered to take care of the children because she was reluctant to have 3 children.
She couldn't bear to let her children be wronged.
Usually, the mother puts the child in the grandmother's house, and she goes out to work.
At the age of 40, it is very difficult to find any job, and coupled with the epidemic, it has made her life worse.
However, this mother still chose to be a takeaway rider.
At the beginning, I sent more than 20 orders a day, and after slowly getting familiar with it, I sent more than 50 orders a day.
The next month, she sent more than 1100 orders, zero bad reviews, and a punctuality rate of 100%.
The 40-year-old woman received her first salary — $5,000.
The moment she got her salary, she cried, and she finally stopped living the days of reaching out and asking for money.
Of course, it is not easy to earn this 5,000 yuan, compared to male riders, female riders have little strength, and orders from large supermarkets - such as rice, noodles, drinks, etc., are generally sent from the 1st floor to the top floor (there is no elevator), and they cannot be moved.
Even so, the mother persevered.
Because she thought of her 3 children, she had to fight desperately and had to push herself.
Although the ex-husband will also give the child living expenses, the mother no longer wants to live on others.
After her mother's unremitting efforts, after half a year, because of her outstanding work performance, the site promoted her to deputy station manager. He managed hundreds of people, and his salary slowly rose.
After listening to this story, I don't know if everyone will sympathize with this mother, but what I want to say is:
Moms, don't be willful anymore, think about it before giving birth to 3 children!
【Topic Discussion: What do you think is the gap between one-child and three-child families?】 】