On the morning of December 15 last year, the topic of Wang Lihong's divorce rushed to Weibo's hot search; that afternoon, Wang Lihong posted a confirmation of divorce and ended his 8-year love life with his wife, and Weibo affirmed his words and pleaded: "In these years of marriage, I have done too much, and I feel very sorry..." Two days later, Wang Lihong's ex-wife Li Lianglei posted on Weibo, accusing Wang Lihong of all kinds of unbearable. Four days later, Wang Lihong's father and Wang Lihong responded separately, and in response to the father-son statement, Li Lianglei also issued a rebuttal article again.
Since then, the golden child and jade girl in the eyes of others have completely torn off the mask of love. The beautiful girl who graduated from Columbia University, Wang Lihong's ex-wife, is almost revealing the truth of her marriage in a self-destructive, lose-lose posture. Wang Lihong, what did you do? He made appointments with minors, cheated on his wife, asked for cannons, summoned prostitutes, kept giving birth, gave birth without support, transferred property, was coldly violent, and was irresponsible to the family... Its details are simply incomprehensible, making people's backs chill. After carefully reading this long article of several thousand words, I had to admire Li Lianglei, the text is concise, the logic is rigorous, the words are appropriate, it seems gentle and firm, but it pokes at the key points everywhere, and it is also praised by netizens as "the bravest ex-wife".
But in addition to admiration, it is more of a wake-up call. In this letter, she is not limited to her and Wang Lihong's poor married life, but from a higher perspective, to talk about female values, housewives, parental practices, money and power, etc., pointing to the pain points of the whole society. In my opinion, this letter is not just Li Lianglei's confession, but a warning letter to girls in the whole society. If you are a mother, I recommend that you also read this letter; if you have a daughter, I recommend that you think about this letter and talk to her about the following 2 points. Economic independence "The housewives around me, many of whom do not have their own savings or income, usually use the money earned by my husband, I will feel embarrassed, sometimes I have to look at my husband's face, and I dare not say that I want to take care of my parents. If women talk about the topic of money, they are questioned whether they worship gold women, only want boys' money, and even sometimes condemned by our society as a city servant "8 years of marriage, Li Lianglei gave birth to 3 children for Wang Lihong, two daughters and one son. From the first child born in 13 years of pregnancy, to the second child in 2016, and then to the third child in 2018, this rate of birth, for women, is itself a huge physical harm. After giving birth to a child, Li Lianglei voluntarily gave up her originally very good career and personal future, and everything centered on Wang Lihong and the child, becoming an ordinary full-time wife.
However, such a payment did not get the understanding and cherishing of the Wang family. In her married life, she has long suffered from all kinds of doubts, humiliations and cold violence from the Wang family, and no matter what she does, she is suspected by the Wang family of coveting money. Before marriage, the two people signed an unequal prenuptial agreement, and all of Wang Lihong's premarital property had nothing to do with her. After marriage, even if the husband and wife work together, she is like an outsider, living in the house under Wang Lihong's name, the car is in Wang Lihong's mother's name, everything has nothing to do with her "wife". This means that she basically gets nothing but 3 children after the divorce.
Therefore, she said in her long article: "For women who have been family-oriented for a long time and have not worked outside the home, if they have done nothing wrong but are forced to divorce because the man has no legitimate reason, they will usually be overwhelmed, so we must take precautions." "This reminds me of an old story of Zhang Guimei, a female high school in Huaping. Once, a female student who was admitted from the mountains, became a full-time wife after graduating from college, took her husband and children, and returned to school to repay the donation, she only said one sentence: "You get me out!" She once said publicly in an interview: "Oppose her students being full-time wives." "Because in her view, when you become a full-time wife, you will be disconnected from society, and you will slowly lose the common language with your husband, let alone help them, over time, not only will your personal ability be lost, but even your married life will be in jeopardy."
Neither Principal Zhang Guimei nor us are denying the value of full-time wives, but just want everyone to recognize the risks of full-time wives. The mountain girl who was born poor could not bear it, and Li Lianglei, who had a well-off family and first-class education, could not bear it. So, if you have a daughter, please be sure to tell her: having money is not necessarily good, but life without money must be bad. A girl, you can only live with more dignity if you are financially independent. When the palms of your hands are facing upwards, you will never feel the happiness of the family, only the undercurrent of calculations and complaints, which makes you timid, cowardly, humble, and uneasy. Therefore, no matter when, we must study and work. In this way, in the days to come, no matter who you stand by or in what situation, you will have enough confidence to live your own life. Emotional Independence" The relationship between men and women in showbiz subverts my insights, objects /former objects / and their friends, everyone... All are 'good friends'. You have such 'friends' in many cities. You have also been photographed taking girls home for the night, and you have also been photographed recruiting prostitutes, in fact, these are real hammer films... You also admit it to me. "When I met Wang Lihong, Li Lianglei was only 16 years old. In fact, at the beginning, when Wang Lihong had not yet ended his relationship with his ex-girlfriend, he wanted to ask her to go home. Although her intuition was wrong, she was still attracted to the label of "quality idol" and was with him. After being together, the promiscuous Wang Lihong did not relent.
With ex-girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, married girlfriends, dance teachers, all kinds of peripheral prostitutes, including many staff around, the relationship is chaotic, and all kinds of ambiguity. Even during pregnancy and childbirth, she called her ex-girlfriend to the house and cooperated with her married ex-girlfriend to cheat on her husband. All this, as a wife and child mother, Li Lianglei knows it, and has also experienced collapse and despair, but looking at the man she loves deeply, she still chose to forgive. Since then, she has been willing to be a woman with children waiting for her husband to come home. She still wants to be the one who can defend his reputation, the one who understands him, the one who wants to give him more freedom, and help him solve all his worries. But even though she considered giving in every way, she still couldn't cover her husband's cold and numb heart. After she gave birth to children one after another, the man wanted to return to singlehood, and even directly announced his divorce in order not to let Xiao San bear the insult.
In order to get a divorce, he can be cold violence, verbal violence, play missing... Looking at the pile piece by piece, it really makes people's scalps tingle, this is no longer a simple scumbag, but a master who plays PUA to the fullest. He had long since stopped loving, but he was still tying up his wife in the name of love. Is Li Lianglei really a fan of the authorities? No! A bachelor's degree from Princeton and a master's degree from Columbia University, a smart girl like him felt "wrong" early on. But she still plunged into it, and built a virtual world for herself that the prodigal son would turn back" to convince herself. After all, what did she do wrong? It's just that I love the wrong person, forget to love myself well, not only did not let go, but mistakenly thought that I could change him.
Therefore, be sure to tell your daughter: it is not terrible to love the wrong person, the terrible thing is that knowing that the love is wrong and not stopping the loss in time. Before you love others, it is more important to learn to love yourself. Good love is not only your unilateral payment, but two people running in both directions, to maintain self-love, but also to stay awake. Never waste time on someone who doesn't love you, and don't sacrifice yourself for him. You have to believe that you are good and that you deserve all the good in this world! Regarding the thorny forest of "love", bravery is very important, but if only bravery, it will often leave a body injury. Conclusion Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong's marriage ended here, but her life also began again! She had made mistakes, suffered hardships, and been tired, but fortunately she was awake, and in the days to come, she would live stronger as the mother of her children, and everything could be expected. This long article about her, limited by space, and there are many places that we have not read, are full of some rational thinking. We always say that this is a kaleidoscopic and impetuous world, and girls seem to be more likely to encounter various risks, whether physical or psychological, hidden in the present and future moments. I hope that our girls will be able to live a smooth, healthy and stable life.
I hope that this article can give parents with daughters some inspiration, transform into strength to pass on to them, and hope to arouse the vigilance of parents of boys and rethink their education. There's a saying: "We've spent 20 years teaching girls to protect themselves, and hopefully you'll take the time to teach your son not to hurt women." The author/Xiaomin Qingchun said that some of the pictures come from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author