Adult life has always been a chicken feather, including the days after marriage.
Because after marriage, it means that two strange families get along, and it is better not to live together, but if you live together, there will be a lot of contradictions.
It is good to get along with the in-laws I met, but if I meet those who have to make progress, the future days will be really sad.
When Xiaomeng first got married, her husband didn't have any money in his hands.
Because the situation in the husband's family is more special, the father died early, the husband has been taking care of his mother and sister since graduation, and most of his savings are used to take care of them, so it is a very normal thing to say that there is no savings.
But Xiaomeng does not care about her husband's family situation, because the two of them love each other, and Xiaomeng feels that she can overcome all difficulties.
At that time, when I got married, my husband used all his savings to buy a diamond ring for Xiaomeng, and the house was bought by her mother's family, buying a three-bedroom and one-room hall.
The reason why I will buy three bedrooms and a living room is because Xiaomeng plans to take over her husband's mother and sister, because they are not easy in the countryside, the old house is also very broken now, Xiaomeng and her husband are very good at thinking about each other, so the relationship between the two people is very stable after marriage.
Xiao Meng originally thought that after he took over his mother-in-law and sister-in-law, the family would be more harmonious, but he never expected that under the kind appearance of his mother-in-law and sister-in-law, there was an insatiable face.
In fact, the husband's father belongs to the more educated type, when he was young, he was still a doctor in the village, but because he was a doll with his mother-in-law, he married his mother-in-law, a woman who had not been to school and did not have too many qualities.
The husband was taught well by the father, but the sister-in-law was spoiled by the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law was very partial to the daughter of the sister-in-law from childhood, and she dropped out of school before the end of junior high school, and she did not do it every three or five days to find a job, so she always needed her husband to make up for it. The sister-in-law was raised by such a person as her mother-in-law, and it is conceivable that the mother-in-law's vitriol and selfishness are also the essence of learning a lot.
Of course, Xiao Meng hopes that the sister-in-law can find a stable job, so that the burden on her husband will be slightly lighter.
So, after the help of colleagues introduced to the sister-in-law to find a job in a flower shop, who knows that the sister-in-law worked for two days began to feel the east and west, and felt that the boss was too much, and felt that the work was too tired, and finally left without saying a word, and asked the boss for a salary with a shy face.
This matter made Xiaomeng and his colleagues quite embarrassed, and in the end, Xiaomeng deliberately invited his colleagues to eat a meal, and this matter was counted as over.
Since the mother-in-law and sister-in-law moved in, the family basically did not have a day of peace.
Before Xiaomeng and her husband played, they patted their husband's head, in fact, it is normal for husband and wife to have such a small fight, and Xiaomeng is also in control. Who knew that after the mother-in-law saw it, she directly fried the pan, and yin and yang said in a strange way: Do you think that if we live in your house, you can beat my son unscrupulously? Do you know what is the respect between husband and wife?
Although the husband listened to it and rushed to play the round field, Xiao Meng was very uncomfortable in his heart and felt that the mother-in-law was a little too sensitive.
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is because the mother-in-law is inferior and arrogant, living here every day, taking this place as her own territory, but she does not want to see the hostess of Xiaomeng.
Therefore, the mother-in-law's side is looking for things every three to five minutes, and the sister-in-law has never let people worry about it.
There was a period of time when the sister-in-law often secretly looked for Xiao Meng to ask for money behind her back, Xiao Meng heard her husband say that when the father-in-law died, the most reassuring thing was this daughter, Xiao Meng knew that even if she did not give the sister-in-law, she would also go to her husband to ask for it, so privately she did not take less money to the sister-in-law.
Such a day has always made Xiaomeng feel very depressed, she often wonders if her original decision was wrong, if she did not let her mother-in-law and sister-in-law live at that time, is it another ending?
But soon these troubles were swept away by XiaoMeng, and Xiaomeng also ushered in a good news, that is, she was pregnant.
After learning that she was about to hold her grandson, her mother-in-law's attitude also improved a lot, not only often greeting Xiao meng, but also making some soup for Xiao Meng.
Xiao Meng had discussed with her husband before that two people only have one child, whether it is a boy or a girl, they will love the same.
Later, the child was born as a daughter, and Xiaomeng and her husband were very happy, but the mother-in-law's face was pulled down on the spot.
Because giving birth to a child is more traumatic, so when confinement, Xiao Meng's mother's family sent a lot of expensive supplements, some of which have even been tens of thousands. However, these supplements disappeared overnight, there were only a few people in this family, Xiao Meng's husband knew very well who did it, so he directly pushed open his sister's door.
Sure enough, these tonics were hidden under the bed by my sister.
After the husband saw it, he was disappointed and angry, and went straight up to slap the sister-in-law and said angrily: Who taught you? Silently take away the tens of thousands of yuan of supplements sent by your sister-in-law's confinement mother's family, do you know that you are stealing something? We can call the police to catch you.
After the mother-in-law heard the movement, she rushed over to persuade her, but Xiaomeng's husband said coldly: Mom, I used to be too conniving with you, my sister is now such a big person, she should have her own life, find a job to support herself, from now on I will not give my sister a penny, I will only give you a fixed living expense every month, I will also rent you a house, and I will often go to see you when I have time. But this home, you still don't want to live here.
In the story, Xiao meng's husband endured for so long or chose to erupt, although it was his own mother and biological sister, but because the other party was too much, Xiao Meng's husband also couldn't stand it.
In fact, Xiao Meng's husband's approach is very correct, the relationship between the closest relatives and blood we can not abandon, at this time we must set a certain bottom line for ourselves, do not let them cross this bottom line. And once married, you have your own family and marriage, as a parent, you should not interfere too much, as a sister, you should put yourself in the right position, do not always add trouble to your brother and sister-in-law.
If you are not an adult, it does not matter, but if you are an adult, you should not continue like this.
At the same time, parents should also understand a truth, there are many ways to love children, but coddling is definitely the worst one.
No one will always have to pay for what their children do, and everyone will have to have their own life after all.