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Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) is about to give birth, and she is full of joy and trepidation, ready to welcome the arrival of the crystal of love.
Because of pregnancy, she had pregnancy spots on her face, stretch marks crawling on her stomach, she looked at herself in the mirror, tried to cover the patches with concealer, and smeared lipstick on the lips without blood, knowing that it was not good for the fetus, she did not hesitate to wipe it off, she took off her clothes, caressed the bulging abdomen, she had tears in her eyes, but the corners of her mouth were smiling, and her action, the expectations of the new mother, uneasiness, anxiety, nervousness, deduction into the wood three points.
Fang Yinuo is happy, she feels that the small family with her husband Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao) is very warm, and now with the addition of children, she will definitely be doubly happy.
What she didn't know was that with the arrival of this new life, her life had changed drastically, even her whole life. For the rest of your life, life will no longer be peaceful.
01. In terms of food, the practice of pregnant women
Pregnant women are easily hungry, and they are crazy and come for no reason.
For example, if you want to eat ice cream in winter, want to eat barbecue in the middle of the night, suddenly want to eat a snack that is far away from home, or there is no fruit at all this season.
However, it is possible that the next second you don't want to eat it.
Every pregnant woman is a panda in the family and belongs to the national protected animal.
Therefore, when a pregnant woman says what she wants to eat, her husband will usually buy it upside down, even if he wants to drink his blood, he will immediately take a bowl to get the blood.
Fang Yinuo suddenly wanted to eat "Lao Hu family's noodles" and wanted to add more peppers.
Xiao Lu, like other men, slipped to buy noodles.
However, Xiao Lu sat on the stall himself and ate a noodle with a lot of peppers. After finishing your addiction, pack a noodle without peppers and walk back slowly.
When he arrived at home, he said that Old Hu was about to close, and he bought it in a hurry.
He denied that he had eaten a portion first, and it was Fang Yinuo who repeatedly asked questions, and he only acquiesced.
He clearly said that I was in a hurry to buy your favorite noodles; he clearly said that his wife was the biggest, and I was satisfied with whatever I wanted.
But what he did. He is the first to pass the mouth addiction, himself to eat first, himself to be satisfied first. Then he packed it up and gave it back to Fang Yinuo, and lied that he hadn't eaten it.
After Hehe was born, Xiao Mu gave Fang Yinuo a particularly greasy soup. Saying that the mother is fat and strong, the words are all children, and they do not care about the mother at all.
Big deficiency and big supplement, and eating too greasy things will block breast milk, which is an unscientific approach.
However, Xiao Lu said that it was right to listen to his mother, and he took a small sip and drank a little, and then the remaining large bowl let Fang Yinuo finish drinking.
Fang Yinuo originally had nothing to do with Xiao Mu, because of Xiao Lu, she called her mother-in-law. At this time, what she needed was Xiao Lu to circle in the middle, but Xiao Lu let her drink.
Helplessly, Fang Yinuo drank the soup and was nauseated.
Xiao Lu was her last line of defense against her mother-in-law, but Xiao Lu fell to her mother-in-law's side, and she did nothing, and in turn helped to deal with herself.
02. There is no paternity, not even outside the delivery room
Fang Yinuo is a teacher, she was in class amniotic fluid broke, was sent to the hospital.
When he arrived at the hospital, he did not start immediately, and Xiao Lu answered a work call. Fang Yinuo asked him to deal with it first. Unexpectedly, he really left.
He said that Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child stall, he could not leave. However, he still went home, watched the ball game, drank beer, and then slept until he woke up naturally, completely forgetting that his wife was waiting in the hospital to give birth.
Launched, a burst of pain, Fang Yinuo did not expect that it would hurt so much. She was so sore that she only cried out for a section, but when the nurse confirmed with her, she said that for the sake of the child, she could hold on and give birth to herself.
When she was pushed into the delivery room, there was only her mother by her side, and she grabbed her mother's hand tightly and said she was afraid. However, at this time, Xiao Lu did not accompany her to give birth, and did not accompany her to face the unknown pain. Not even the moment she entered the delivery room, he took her hand and said he was waiting for her outside.
Women give birth, in the ghost door closed for a while, whether psychological or emotional, need a lover around, give care and companionship, courage and strength, together to meet the birth of the continuation of life, which is irreplaceable by other relatives.
When Fang Yinuo left the delivery room, no one outside the delivery room was her family. Her lover Xiao Lu is now holding her daughter's placenta to send to her mother Gao Caiping, who wants to use her granddaughter's placenta to wrap wontons for her younger son.
Fang Yinuo had just experienced the pain of tearing his heart and lungs, and when he came out of the delivery room, he did not see Xiao Lu waiting outside, and his heart was full of mixed feelings.
He was absent at a time when she needed her husband. He did not stay outside the delivery room, gave his wife a hug and a deep kiss, and whispered in her ear," "Wife, hard work."
Dare Fang Yinuo walked around the ghost door, and he didn't seem to have anything to do with him, he was like an outsider, looking at other people's stories lightly.
03. After the child and the mother leave the delivery room, first take care of the child and enjoy it
The nurse was not accustomed to it, and sent Fang Yinuo back to the ward.
Fang Yinuo's mother-in-law, Gao Caiping, did not stay outside the delivery room waiting to greet the third generation of the Xiao family, but waited downstairs for Xiao Lu to send the placenta down to her. Fang Yinuo came out of the delivery room, and she was not in a hurry to see it, but first cleaned the placenta at the drop, installed it, and then came up.
As a woman, Gao Caiping herself has also given birth to two children, and she also came from the pain of life. However, she couldn't feel Fang Yinuo's pain at all.
She went straight to her granddaughter, and before the child came out, she was anxious to go in and see.
But what about Fang Yinuo?
Fang Yinuo had already arrived at the ward and could go in to see it, but she didn't go to see it, didn't go to greet her, didn't take care of it.
When the child arrived at the ward, Gao Caiping and her young son, they all circled around the child, smiling happily. Fang Yinuo, who was still unable to move, was left to the side, she wanted to drink water, reached out and tried several times but could not reach the water cup. No one looked after her and handed her a glass of water.
In the end, it was Fang's mother who came in from the door to give Fang Yinuo water to drink.
And Xiao Lu?
Xiao Lu had not yet appeared, from the time Fang Yinuo entered the delivery room to the time he had returned to the ward, he had not yet appeared.
04. I'd rather trust outsiders than feel that my wife is too neurotic
After being discharged from the hospital, they hired a sister-in-law.
The sister-in-law is unreliable, and she sleeps heavier in the middle of the night than Fang Yinuo, let alone help Fang Yinuo to watch the children.
Fang Yinuo advocated breast milk, and she decided to exclusively breastfeed her child until the first birthday. Therefore, she told her thousands of times that she must not let her children drink milk powder.
However, in order to let the child sleep more deeply and reduce the number of nights, the sister-in-law secretly fed the child milk powder.
The child was jaundiced, Fang Yinuo wanted to go to the hospital to see, but the sister-in-law insisted that the child eat more Dora in good spirits, and it would be fine.
Later, the child was hospitalized for jaundice and took blue light.
As a husband, Xiao Lu believes more in the outsider's sister-in-law. He excused the sister-in-law, saying that the sister-in-law had confessed the mistake, and also made such a mistake, as for drinking milk powder, mixed feeding is also very good, not much trouble.
When Fang Yinuo doubted Yue's sister-in-law, Xiao Lu was not nervous about the safety of his children, did not think about his wife's doubts, and did not check the true behavior of Yue's sister-in-law.
But he felt that his wife was neurotic and suspicious of ghosts every day. He did not believe in his wife who had given birth to a child and walked away at the ghost gate, he did not trust his wife who was still confinement, but he believed in his sister-in-law even more.
Why are there so many postpartum depressions?
Because the mother has just given birth, she has exhausted all her strength. At this time, what she needs is not only the care of life, but also the understanding, companionship and comfort of the lover.
I was already weak, I had to take care of my children, and I didn't sleep once. Nature is weaker.
At this time, as long as the husband, whether right or wrong, stands behind her, gives her comfort and gives her understanding. She was safe enough.
However, Xiao Lu did not do this. Instead, he also trusted his sister-in-law. I felt that Fang Yinuo was too nervous.
05. In the middle of the night, do not help coax the child
Fang Yinuo was still confinement.
In the middle of the night, the child cried, but she could not sleep without hesitation. Because she didn't want her children to cry.
But what about Xiao Lu?
I fell asleep and didn't get up to help at all. The child was crying, as if he hadn't heard.
Fang Yinuo was thirsty, his throat was not good, he was still holding the child in his hand, his body had not yet recovered, he moved slightly, and it hurt to pull. She turned her head and asked Xiao Lu to pour her a glass of water, but Xiao Lu remained motionless and continued to snore.
Looking at Xiao Lu's sleeping appearance and the child in his arms waiting to be fed and crying non-stop, Fang Yinuo's heart was full of mixed feelings.
Even sometimes, she got up to feed, the child was still drinking, she couldn't stand the sleepiness, her eyelids were pulled down, and she fell asleep with her head tilted.
No matter how the child cried, no matter how sleepy Fang Yinuo was, and no matter how Fang Yinuo called him, he was indifferent. I was really annoyed, but I immediately went to sleep.
06. Complain
Sister-in-law is gone.
Fang's mother still had two years to retire, so Xiao Lu called Xiao Lu to help take care of the children.
Xiao Mu said that she would not smoke for the sake of her children, but she still smoked quietly. Every time I take my child out for a walk, I come back full of smoke, and even the child's body is the smell of smoke.
Fang's mother also came to help take care of it, and the days did not stop for a few days, and Xiao Lu's younger brother Xiao Xu came.
Xiao Xu was mostly a young man, with a bad habit of pushing a lot, smoking in the bathroom, and when he was reminded, he closed the door and smoked in the room.
The child was still young, and Mother Fang was not happy, and said Xiao Xu in person.
Xiao Mu naturally wanted to help her son, so you quarreled with me.
Xiao Lu returned, and he did not dissuade them, did not accuse either side of right or wrong.
Self-pity: you continue to argue, then you make trouble, you are all right, all make sense, you are happy. I was wrong, I shouldn't have put you together, thinking about the little thing in my heart, just my own feelings, that self-esteem, not considering others, since I was born, I will live a safe day? I worked hard during the day, and when I came home at night, I worked and slept on the couch at night. I have back pain every day at work, have you asked? Even if you care, yes, man! Never mind. But I'm also tired, who doesn't want to be coaxed, I also want to be coaxed. Any one of you, the one who lost his face to that one, I told you, I am worried about losing my face and which one is not happy, I have to coax, coax the small, coax the old, because you are all my family, I don't want you to be wronged, I hurt you. But what about you?
He was a man, and from the moment he decided to get married and live, the moment he decided to have children, the responsibility on his shoulders was no longer to feed the whole family alone and not be hungry.
The reason why the family is noisy is that there is a man like him who has no responsibility. But he complained in turn, complaining that no one understood him, that no one cared about him, that no one understood his suffering and tiredness.
All he did was what he was supposed to do, and it was his responsibility.
07. The mother's body has not yet recovered, and she always thinks about intimacy
Fang Yinuo was still in the moon, the sister-in-law was gone, and Xiao Mu came.
Xiao Mu has a bad habit of entering her son's daughter-in-law's room without knocking on the door, and when Xiao Mu came in, she had already bumped into her twice, and each time it was Xiao Lu who accused: Mom, why don't you always knock on the door?
Xiao Mu took out the clothes that Xiao Lu and Xiao Xu had worn when they were young, and wanted to wear them for Hehe.
How many years ago were the old clothes, Hehe was Fang Yinuo's heart and liver baby, how could she agree to let her daughter wear such old clothes?
Fang Yinuo was furious and had just told Xiao Lu about this matter, wanting Xiao Lu to do Xiao Lu's ideological work. Xiao Lu was absent-minded and said that he knew and would say it. Turn your head and kiss Ichino's face. I would like to ask, is Fang Yinuo still in the mood? Qi is going to die of anger.
Later, Xiao Lu wanted to have sex with him, and Fang Yinuo said that his body had not yet recovered. He turned around angrily and went to sleep.
When a woman gives birth to a child, it is really a desperate fight, the body exhausts all its strength, and it is necessary to take good care of the body.
As a husband, you must be careful to take care of it, to take care of it, and to learn to control your lower body, which is the love that a husband should have for his wife.
Xiao Lu, just thinking about his own satisfaction, thinking about his desire to be released, did not care for Fang Yinuo at all, and cherished this woman who risked her life to give birth to him.
08. I'd rather sit downstairs and blow the cold wind than go home and help
Fang Yinuo called Xiao Lu and asked him when he would be home.
In fact, he was already downstairs. However, he heard the child's crying on the phone, and a mess appeared in front of his eyes.
So, he made an excuse and drove away.
At home, seeing, not helping, or taking care of yourself, there is no eyesight at all. Outside, he knew that the child was crying at home, and he didn't want to face it, he didn't want to help.
09. All kinds of overtime socializing, always not going home, sometimes the phone can not be called
Fang Yinuo sent a message to Xiao Lu, saying that he would buy fish to cook at night and go home early.
Xiao Lu had already agreed.
But when Fang Yinuo went to buy fish, he repented again and did not go home to eat.
However, slowly, Xiao Lu came home to dinner less and less, always working overtime, always socializing. Calls are often not answered.
On the night when the rain poured down, Hehe had a fever. Fang Yinuo dialed Xiao Lu's phone, but only heard a beeping sound, and no one answered it all the time.
Fang Yinuo and Fang Mu held up umbrellas and went out with Hehe, but they couldn't get a car at all.
Fang Mu also fell and fell on her feet. Fang Yinuo threw the umbrella aside and picked up Hehe, but she had no extra strength to pick up her mother. Fang Mu couldn't get up on her own.
When Fang Yinuo needed it, Xiao Lu was always absent.
10. Derailment
The Fang Yinuo in Xiao Lu's heart changed, and he felt that she was no longer touching and touching, and felt that she was no longer a bird and a person.
He was interested in Zhu Zhu, who followed him frantically over the fence on the road, and he looked at her and smiled, and his heart was warm, as if he had found the heart that he had when he was with Fang Yinuo.
When he was with Zhu Zhu, he felt relaxed and happy, he didn't want to go home, he didn't want to face the cries of the children, he didn't want to face Fang Yinuo's voice complaining that he was home late, and he didn't want to see the chickens and dogs in that place.
When Fang Yinuo was most helpless, all she needed was Xiao Lu's patient companionship, someone who could share the ups and downs of life with her, rather than her being forced to grow up and Xiao Lu enjoying his success. Fang Yinuo's already bad mood was almost collapsed because of Xiao Lu's neglect, but Fang Yinuo was still insisting, strongly guarding his daughter and maintaining her marriage with Xiao Lu.
Xiao Lu encountered helplessness, he chose to escape, encountered responsibility, he chose to escape, encountered obligations, he still chose to escape. Then seek a short pleasure in Zhu Zhu.
Fang Yinuo is willing to understand Xiao Lu, she thinks that Xiao Lu's lack in the family is really because he is working hard for his career and seeking a higher quality of life for their mother and daughter. Until Zhu Zhu came to the door, Fang Yinuo did not know how ridiculous his insistence was.
When I meet a man like Xiao Lu, I encourage women to be brave and leave, and to stay away decisively. It's not about encouraging divorce, it's that women should have their own bottom line and love themselves a little more. Don't feel that men work hard to support their families, so they have to be more accommodating. Women are the ones who work harder, especially women during pregnancy and even lactation.