A happy family, indispensable to the common struggle of the couple, respect each other as guests.
But a family is not only a husband and wife relationship, sometimes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like an insurmountable gap, so that the man in the middle of it gradually drifts away, and even becomes the most familiar stranger.
The family has a difficult scripture, and it is difficult for the qing officials to break the housework, but the repair of family relations is better than feelings, if all parties do not forget their original intentions and cherish the family, then naturally there is a time to take a step back from the sea and the sky.
Ah Feng almost caused the family to fall apart because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but fortunately, the couple has a foundation of feelings, although they have experienced thousands of times of running-in, it can also be regarded as saving a marriage.
01. Take care of the daughter-in-law confinement, the mother-in-law asks the son for divorce
Ah Feng and Ah Jiao were once interns in the same hospital, the two fell in love at first sight, and soon after falling in love, they soon entered the palace of marriage, and after the birth of their son Xiaoyang, the original happy family was no longer the same year.
At the beginning of the marriage, Ah Feng loved his wife Ah Jiao very much, he begged his mother in the countryside to take care of Ah Jiao's confinement, Ah Feng's mother Aunt Huang heard that her daughter-in-law gave birth to a big fat boy for her family, and naturally agreed.
On the way from the countryside to the city, Aunt Huang did not forget to buy two ribs on the side of the road for her daughter-in-law to stew and eat, but Ah Jiao could not swallow a mouthful.
Gillian said that she did not like to eat these greasy foods, but there was no milk without milk, and Gillian simply let the child drink milk powder.
Aunt Huang was very angry in her heart, feeling that she was so hard to serve her daughter-in-law, even if she didn't get a good word, her daughter-in-law's attitude towards herself was still very cold, if it wasn't for her son and grandson, who would want to serve this "ancestor"?
Seeing this, you may say that Gillian does not understand things, but everything can not only listen to one side of the word, Gillian is actually very aggrieved, she said that she gave birth to the day of the pain is not good, there is no milk at all, but the mother-in-law forced herself to feed the child.
He even blew his husband in the hallway, saying that this kind of woman who does not breastfeed is not worthy of being a mother
, let her disgusted, think that the mother-in-law is a provocation, you know, she has just given birth to a child.
Gillian also said,
Mother-in-law is extremely unhygienic, feeding children to eat always have to eat a bite first, feeding milk powder also extra spoonful, people can not understand, once let her find that the mother-in-law also uses the daughter-in-law's washbasin to soak her feet,
After being pointed out, the mother-in-law had an indifferent attitude, saying that her feet were cleaner than her face.
Sometimes Gillian complains to her husband, hoping that her husband will balance in the middle, but her husband always indiscriminately accuses herself, making Gillian feel that she is an outsider, and the attitude of her husband and mother-in-law is very chilling to her.
The public said that the fair was reasonable, the mother said that the mother was reasonable, and Ah Feng was also difficult at both ends, and even the more noisy and fierce, he once made a divorce.
However, after the mediator's patient mediation, Ah Feng also realized his shortcomings as the head of the family, said that he would correct his mistakes, correct his attitude, and recalled the scene of falling in love with his wife, Ah Feng, who was very reluctant to this family.
And the mother-in-law Aunt Huang is also willing to repair the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, after all, she knows that her daughter-in-law's heart is not bad.
The mother-in-law's original intention is not bad, but it has not been enough to understand and respect, it is said that distance produces beauty, in a family, too close relationships will also produce contradictions, keep distance, mutual respect and understanding, in order to maintain a good family relationship.
02. How many family conflicts there are, because of the difference in thinking between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Remember the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the TV series "Double Sided Tape"?
Lizzie
It is a native of Shanghai, despite her parents' objections, she married Yaping who stayed in Shanghai to work after graduating from university.
Sub-plains born families are not as good as the lily cranes,
But the victory is there
It was particularly good for Li Juan, and Li Juan's parents bought a house for the little two in Shanghai. If it were not for the mother-in-law who came from afar to break this peaceful life, the marriage between the two should be very happy.
Apin's mother is a typical traditional woman, very stubborn in thinking, completely do not understand Li Juan's modern lifestyle as an urban beauty, and try to change Li Juan, want to want to
Lizzie
I became like myself.
The contradiction between the two finally broke out in an incident, the mother-in-law actually taught Li Juan's child to say "Mother is bad", Li Juan completely collapsed, and Ya Ping, at the instigation of his mother, even raised his fist and beat Li Juan fiercely.
Many people sigh that TV dramas are too realistic,
Many times, the contradiction between husband and wife is also an extension of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The prototype of Li Juan is Wu Lijun, a Shanghai girl, who is very superior in all aspects, but she married a "phoenix man" despite her parents' objections. It is also because of marrying a family like him that the tragedy has occurred.
Wu Lijun gave birth to a baby of thousands of dollars, but was ridiculed by her mother-in-law as "useless", and her mother-in-law even asked her parents to pay for his brother who dropped out of junior high school to buy a marriage house.
Family relations deteriorated, and Wu Lijun eventually died under the blow of her former lover. Her father also died of a sudden heart attack shortly after hearing the bad news, and her mother lost her beloved daughter and husband for a while, had a nervous breakdown and went crazy, and was admitted to a mental hospital.
How did this tragedy come about? It is nothing more than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that is extremely poor.
The original family is the same, the mother-in-law's thinking will not be different, and it is inevitable that there will be many contradictions after getting along for a long time, and if the man in the middle is not clear, it will be even worse and accelerate the rupture of the family.
03. The man who can carry it clearly is the key to the stability of the husband and wife's feelings
Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, choose a man who can carry it clearly, such a man will give you real protection and respect.
So how to see whether a man can carry clearly, the most important thing is to look at these three aspects:
First, understand the boundaries, can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
First of all, he must realize that the man is the master of the house, and the wife is the hostess of the house.
As a true intermediary, he will not be foolish to his parents, nor will he allow his wife to make unreasonable trouble.
A mature man will let the parents gradually withdraw from their own lives and let the parents and wife respect each other. This is the biggest feature of a man who can carry it clearly.
Women should marry such a wise man, know how to protect their rights and interests, and only then will they do their best for this family, and the family can be harmonious.
Second, be able to fear marriage and have their own bottom line.
Men who can carry clearly know how to respect marriage and stick to the bottom line.
Such a man will reassure women that they will not be nostalgic for the outside world of flowers and flowers after marriage, will not stay homeless at night, and will not be ambiguous with other women.
Marriage is not only a responsibility for them, but also a sacred thing, and they treat their wives with heartfelt love, rather than using them as fertility machines.
Marriage will bind them, they will also make an effort for marriage, women choose such men, marriage will be guaranteed.
Third, men who can carry clear have high emotional intelligence.
Marriage is essentially the handling of various relationships, and a man who can carry out a clear picture has a high emotional intelligence and will balance various relationships so that everyone feels comfortable with each other.
Because men with high emotional intelligence know how to think in empathy, they also have a compassionate and grateful heart. They will stand in your shoes for your sake and put themselves in your shoes to solve various things in your life for you.
When you know how to choose a man, you will not be carried away by love, and choosing the right man may be more important than choosing the man you love.
Love is the sweet time for two people, but marriage is the sour and bitter life of two families. Sometimes falling in love is a momentary thing, but marriage needs to be managed for a long time.
The wife is the most important member of the family, and the husband is the most crucial person. In the traditional Chinese concept, women are men's "wealth", and only by keeping this "wealth" will men be full of gold and jade, happy and healthy.
Do you think your husband can balance the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?