A person who has no one to rely on will be isolated, misunderstood, uncared for, and easily abandoned. Man's loneliness is never a person's carnival, but comes from an encounter with a person, or from someone's departure. When people lack love and warmth, they will express their thoughts and desires through some external performances, especially through some behaviors to increase the efficiency of love and warmth. For example, they will take the initiative to care for friends, family or strangers, and will often go out with their girlfriends, parties, or by buying a very good thing, or spending a lot of money in a certain place. These actions are all aimed at attracting the attention of the other party.
However, this kind of behavior of people brings loneliness and loss, and people will exchange their feelings for these behaviors, get a sense of security and a sense of being cared for, so as to obtain more support in interpersonal relationships. It will even seek dependence, so that a person is no longer alone, or even no longer worried about himself. So what do you want behind these actions? It is actually people's attachment to interpersonal relationships and their desire for interpersonal relationships. Even if the relationship is intimate, there is no room for a trace of lack, and it is impossible not to lack interpersonal love and warmth. Then inadvertently, we will often hear the word "heartache", as if we often hear others say "heartache", we will be "heartache".
Whether it is a parent or a spouse, they will try their best to "hurt" us, so that we will not be hurt in the slightest, and we will not be hurt in the relationship. The "heartache" of parents for their children is reflected in the norms of their children's living habits and the way they treat their children; the "heartache" of spouses for marriage is reflected in the control of their spouse's life trajectory and the unchanged marriage, as well as the management of the future of marriage; the husband's "heartache" for the family is reflected in the dedication, companionship and tolerance of a person. When a person faces some external things and environments, we will feel "heartache" for this thing. At this time, we actually need to "feel pain" about the external environment, and have "heartache" for ourselves.
Whether it is the "heartache" of parents to their children, or the "heartache" of spouses to marriage, it is necessary to "heartache". So, in life and work, we may hear a person showing pain for an external object, which is the embodiment of his need to be hurt. When a person encounters the difficulties and difficulties of interpersonal relationships, you may wish to feel a little more distressed about the other party, and the other party must feel your concern. Of course, we see that some people often say "heartache", but it is only a temporary "heartache", because it may be temporary to care for each other and help them get through the difficult situation. However, when a person's long-term "heartache", "heartache" a person, or often "heartache" others, this feeling will become more and more intense, and finally it will become the other party's "heartache" for us.