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Most people's life trajectories are similar, at what age to do what kind of things, go to school, work, get married, have children, retire, pension, this is the most common doctor.
Although life is so similar, everyone will experience various tastes such as sour, sweet, bitter, spicy and salty in different links. Marriage and childbirth is an important process of human reproduction, but also the basic need for the survival of human groups, it is precisely because of marriage that we can experience family affection and love.
From the perspective of love psychology, everyone can reflect the difference in preferences when choosing a spouse, and the selection criteria of different people for their spouses are even more different.
Not only that, even if the same person is at different ages, his expectations for the other half are also different, let's take a look at how many women men in their fifties and sixties generally like, right? The psychologist gave the answer yes.
Psychologists have found that no matter what age men are in, they prefer women who are younger than themselves, and when looking for a spouse, they are more eager to be with their younger partners.
In fact, this matter can be explained by the concept of evolutionary psychology, young means good health, genes are better, if you want to let your next generation inherit the best genes, young and excellent women are obviously the best choice for spouses.
From the perspective of personal charm, young women are in better shape, young in appearance, physically fit, and full of vitality, and such a opposite sex is obviously more attractive.
Middle-aged men, whenever they have the opportunity to choose, must be more inclined to younger women, so as to ensure that their next generation is smarter and healthier.
It is also important that men build confidence and male dignity by being with their young spouses.
Men are born with a desire to conquer, they want to show their abilities in front of others, they want to be envied by the same sex, and being with a young woman will obviously satisfy their vanity.
Women develop psychologically earlier than men, and at the same age, women seem more mature and sensible, while men are more naïve.
If men can't find a sense of superiority when interacting with their peers, they will actively seek out young women, so that they can feel the admiration and dependence from the younger people in each other, which will give them a sense of conquest and satisfaction.
In the eyes of men, mature women are difficult to control, whether it is thoughts or concepts, the other party is more assertive, if two people get along together, it is inevitable that there will be differences and contradictions. Therefore, men are not willing to deal with women who are too strong, and their psychology will produce the idea of exclusion and resistance.
Young women, because of their shallow life experience and less life experience, will rely more on their older other half and refer to men's opinions when dealing with things, which is one of the reasons why men like young women.
Most men in their fifties and sixties have experienced marriage or widowhood, and according to the characteristics of this age, they must prefer gentle, family-oriented, and stable women when looking for another half.
Young and beautiful women are fascinating, but in terms of the social experience and life experience of men in their fifties and sixties, stability is the most important, rather than pursuing a sense of nothingness and freshness, it is better to find a person who knows cold and knows hot and cold to live a good life.
Family needs to be put in the first place, most of the men who have reached this age know that life more than needs vigorous love, the warmth of the long stream is the long-term solution, the most difficult thing in life is to meet a person who works with you to grow old, and soaks with each other, but all the fifty or sixty-year-old men who have rich life experience, they all prefer to live a stable life, and enjoy a plain and warm family atmosphere with their wives and children every day.
The impulse to love can only last for a short period of time, and only with the right person can the marriage last a long time.
Generally speaking, the psychology of middle-aged men is more contradictory, they both hope that their other half is young and energetic, but also look forward to each other, thrifty family will live.
In general, fifty or sixty years old is already at the end of the formation of human personality, at which time the passion has gradually faded and turned into a yearning for a dull life, even if they prefer young women, but the existence of reason will definitely make them stop and no longer make impulsive choices.
The first is to take into account the discussion of the outside world, and the other is to worry about the generation gap in thinking and behavior between the two generations.
Because of this, men in their fifties and sixties like mature women in their forties and fifties the most, such women are both younger than themselves, but also have corresponding life experience, can know the cold and know the heat, diligent and thrifty family, is an excellent wife candidate.
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205