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What kind of spouse can satisfy people and make each other happy for the rest of their lives?
In the early years, the marriage of men and women relied on the intermediary contact, many people on the day of marriage, only to see the spouse who spent the rest of their lives with them, even if the two have a marriage contract, they are very strange to each other.
This type of marriage, most of them are a man and a woman to live together, although the element of love is missing in the married life, but it is impossible to avoid contradictions and differences, but most people will choose to repair and make up for each other's marriage, and support each other to spend a lifetime together.
The marriage of Grandma Yang and her wife and children belongs to this category, the two people from youth to old age, although there is less romance and surprise in daily life, but living a plain as water life, but also make people feel stable in their hearts.
Nowadays, men and women love freely, most people will value love, it is impossible to easily enter marriage with a stranger of the opposite sex, even if two people know each other through blind dates, they also need to have feelings for each other to truly enter marriage.
Two people who love each other, if there is a lover who eventually becomes a family, the happiness and sweetness of life after marriage will not be less, and they have the basis of their feelings for each other, and they have passed the test of reality together, and the marriage relationship is more stable.
This type of marriage is the pursuit in most people's minds, the romance and loyalty of a lifetime and a couple, and I believe that no one will not expect it.
However, there are good and bad marriages in this world, two people live together, good villains can achieve mutual understanding; two people are united by love, and there will be more tolerance and understanding;
If the positions of men and women in love and marriage are very different, marriage is naturally a chicken and a dog.
There is a line in the TV series "Dulala Promotion":
"The more satisfied people are with their spouses, the more proud and proud they are of their spouses, and the more willing they are to be loyal to their spouses. The same is true of work, loyalty comes from satisfaction. ”
In real life, some people do not have the slightest sincerity in treating their spouses, neither the feelings of helping each other like friends, nor the affection of snuggling with each other like lovers.
In the eyes of this type of person, there is only their own interests, they do not take into account the legal and moral constraints in marriage, they repeatedly make mistakes in order to satisfy their desires, and they do not repent.
Unfortunately, my neighbor Grandma Zhou met one such partner.
When she was young, Grandma Zhou's old partner betrayed her more than once, and he had a strong machismo ideology, believing that Grandma Zhou had no culture and no ability to make money, so naturally she did not dare to divorce, so she became more and more unscrupulous.
Grandma Zhou endured again and again for the sake of her children, but she did not expect that a tolerance would be decades, until her wife died of cancer when she was in her fifties, and her life was relaxed.
It was also at that moment that she learned that in this life, there is no need to always live for the family, or for the sake of children, you only know how to treat a person kindly, in order to be considered to be in vain, and this person is yourself.
Grandma Zhou just understands that it is too late to live for the family all her life, never thinking about herself, but no matter how much effort she puts into the family, it is difficult to get the gratitude she deserves.
Children will complain that she is too weak a person, and the wife will feel that her efforts are taken for granted. In this case, Grandma Zhou did not make a good effort and wronged herself in vain.
Half a life has passed in the blink of an eye, if you still don't know how to live for yourself, isn't this life equal to living in vain?
If you know how to be kind to yourself, you will have more blessings.
There are too many women in life who are reluctant to buy better clothes for themselves, not willing to buy more expensive cosmetics, but want to save this money, spend it for their husbands, and spend them on their children.
But if you think about it, what do you get out of doing this? When the child grows up, he will set up his own family, and it is impossible to always revolve around you, and your old partner will no longer have any gratitude to you because he is used to your kindness to him.
In the long run, the only person you have failed is yourself.
Loving yourself should be the premise of loving others, if you don't know how to be good to yourself, no matter what, it is not worth it and it is not cost-effective, as there is a saying: loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
You have no obligation to live for others, put your own feelings first in everything, and know how to think for yourself in everything, so that others can pay more attention to you, understand you, and hurt you.
In addition, we must also learn to distinguish the whole picture of a person, treat our marriage carefully, and do not trust the rhetoric of the opposite sex, but observe the character of the other party with our hearts.
A soul mate who is truly worth cherishing will inevitably give you a great sense of happiness from the outer action and the inner mind.
Don't wait until you are old and widowed, only to understand that the person who should be kindest in this life is yourself, and the person closest to you is not your wife, not your children, but also yourself. If you don't know how to live for yourself and don't know how to love yourself, then there will be regrets in this life after all.
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