When I do get married, I want it to be a covenant alliance that can last until death. Unfortunately, some marriages are doomed from the start and end in ruin.
7 signs that your marriage is failing.
1. You fantasize about a lonely life.
We all have moments where when we look at our spouses and think, "I can be in a club right now." There's a difference between nostalgia for being single and daydreaming about how good life would have been if divorced. The desire to live separately from one's spouse is a clear indicator of the need for marital therapy before feelings are shattered.
2. There are more negative moments than positive moments.
When people seek guidance on their dysfunctional relationships, I often ask, "Do you remember more negative memories than positive ones?" If your answer is yes, then you are in grave danger.
"Every marriage has its difficulties, but when bad things outweigh good things, the alliance is doomed to fail." You shouldn't reflect on your relationship and exclaim, "Oops! "I can't remember the happiness I once had!"
3. Conflicts never end.
If you're a couple who never argue, don't consider yourself lucky or suppressed. It is indeed beneficial to have an occasional quarrel.
"When the quarrel becomes repetitive, both sides feel hopeless, and nothing has changed, the problem comes." If there is very little process of compensation, very little process of apology, or very few ways to reconcile with another spouse, or if the hurt emotions are not recognized or treated," she said.
4. You want to avoid communicating with your loved one.
Your valued partner should be someone you can talk to and share your inner dreams about. Encourage discussion of topics other than "everyday affairs that happen at home, children's affairs or duties."
Communicate your emotions to make sure your love doesn't dissipate.
5. You downplay your partner's emotions.
The worst thing you can do is act as if your partner's emotions don't matter. Even if you disagree with him, respect his emotions and give him some skeptical benefits.
If you find yourself extremely protective and dismissive of your spouse's emotions, "your divorce risk is greater." "It's the kiss of bad luck in marriage."
6. You focus only on your romance.
Because tango takes two people, honey, why are you the only one on the dance floor? When there is a crisis in a marriage, both partners have to roll up their sleeves and resolve their differences.
7. You can't be yourself.
If you can't be yourself in front of your spouse, why would you want to be with him?
It gets worse when "you feel unable to be yourself for fear of upsetting your spouse or triggering another conflict." This is how you change your behavior in order to make the other person happy.
Eventually, you'll be unhappy, and no matter how many gods don't make things any better.