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Can you imagine that? Now in this society, there are parents who are still in this feudal paternalistic way of thinking, which is ridiculous.
Friends spoke of her father-in-law speechless. According to the meaning of her friend, her father-in-law has always asked all the children's salaries to be handed in, even the wages of the son-in-law and daughter-in-law, and then arranged by him, who has a bad life, distribute some, and then go all out to create his precious grandchildren.
I also think it's funny that there are such naïve people in this world.
I found that many families with many children, parents will be rich and poor thinking, brothers and sisters are his children, should not be so clear, everyone is in a pot, the family mixed well to help mix bad. Especially if the child is divorced, in the eyes of his parents, he has "made a great contribution", and other brothers and sisters will help him raise the child, because he is divorced, so pitiful, everyone should help him raise the child.
The idea of parents being rich and poor is a taboo for family harmony, and it will make family members centrifugal and separated. In families with many children, the following thoughts of parents are taboo, which will make family members centrifuge and leave.
To save the emergency is not to save the poor, and each person has his own responsibility and mission
Many parents have several children, in fact, they are holding their children and loving each other, and they can help each other in the future, so that a person will not live too hard in society. Brothers and sisters are each other's strongest backing and strength. The premise is that parents educate their children well, regulate the family style, work hard, don't be diligent and tired, live well to help, and live badly to work hard.
If parents are properly educated, the relationship between brothers and sisters is good. When they grow up, most of them are willing to help their brothers and sisters who have a good time and help them get through the difficulties. I have the ability to have the wealth and not to be stingy to give, but this is a kind of voluntary help.
Ordinary people have to be careful about their lives. The other sisters were extravagant and kidnapped others to help at critical moments, which made no sense. Brothers and sisters are close to each other, emergency rescue is not to save the poor, each person has his own responsibility and mission, and it is not easy for anyone to get money.
Giving is about brothers and sisters supporting each other rather than parents forcibly equalizing the rich. The five fingers are not the same, and the gap between greed and wealth is normal. They are all adults, and they have to find reasons for their own bad lives, and their brothers and sisters have their own families, and they have no obligation to risk the disintegration of their own families to help others. Nor do parents have the right to kidnap children who are doing well. Otherwise, it will make the children who have a good life chill and let those who have a bad life enjoy their success.
Help is mutual
Any effort is a two-way street, whether it is feelings or material things, and they come and go in response. If you blindly only one-way, the imbalance will not be long-term. There is no bottom line, and no one can stand it! Moreover, helping people should also look at the character of the other party, and those who do not follow the right path should not be reasonable, and those who are selfish and do not know gratitude should also stay away. The more incompetent you are, the more you feel that it is natural for others to help you.
The more worried the old man, the less good the results will be. Intervene in the marriage of the children, and the result is divorce. Intervene in the relationship between children, and the result is that siblings turn against each other. If you always want to impose your ideas on your children, you will be eaten back. Therefore, parents should not interfere too much in their children's lives! Only when a family has wise parents will its children be harmonious and their old age be guaranteed.
【Topic Discussion: What do you think of this kind of thinking of some parents?】 】
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