Lu Yao wrote in "Ordinary World":
"Kinship is often the most vulgar, trying to dip into each other's eyes, rolling your eyes without touching the light, and even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives, and life will also tell you that relatives are often not as sincere to you as friends." 」
Deeply.
In fact, brothers and sisters end up being just these two words — relatives, these three endings.
01 Spend your life together like a best friend
It is often heard that some parents say when choosing a second child:
"I just want to leave a companion for the boss."
Can't help but feel that this reason is really far-fetched, does Dabao really want this companion? Dabao himself is not more want to be accompanied by parents, after all, the energy of parents is limited, and then a baby, the time for parents to accompany Dabao will definitely be reduced.
As for growing up and starting a family, how much can this "companion" accompany each other?
I have seen such a sentence:
"Brothers and sisters are playmates when they are young, relatives when they grow up."
Not without reason.
Parents who want to leave a "companion" for Dabao should hope that their brothers and sisters can accompany them for a lifetime like their best friends.
Just like the Su Shi suru brothers, the eunuch sea is full of ups and downs, ups and downs, and it is always each other's spiritual pillar and inner concern.
Mid-Autumn Festival, drinking and getting drunk, writing this article, and conceiving a son.
When is the moon? Ask the wine to qingtian. I don't know what year it is in the heavenly palace. I want to go home by the wind, and I am afraid of Qionglou Yuyu, and the high places are cold. Dancing to find out the shadow, how it seems to be in the human world.
Turn zhu ge, low Qi household, no sleep. There should be no hatred, why should it be long to go to the other time? People have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine, and this matter is difficult to complete. May people be long-lasting, and thousands of miles will be cherished together.
Su Shi's popular "Water Tune Song Head" is also in the Mid-Autumn Festival, missing his younger brother Su Rui (ZiYu is Su Rui).
But how many such brotherhoods can be made throughout the ages? Just a few.
02 Old and dead do not interact with each other
That time I chatted with my mother and talked about Wang Da Niang in the village, and my mother said: "Wang Da Niang is so pitiful, five sons, none of them take care of her, if she had a daughter, the daughter would not be so cruel." Her younger son is the most prominent, and Wang Daniang is also the most eccentric to the younger son, but the younger son is afraid of his four brothers and does not dare to take care of it. ”
I wonder, how can there be such a thing, and I still dare not take care of it?
The mother said: "The younger son is now in better economic conditions, but it is also an ordinary family, and he does not dare to say that he will take care of the old mother alone in the future." Not to mention that his daughter-in-law agreed and disagreed, in case Wang Da Niang had an accident, the younger son could not afford it, and his four brothers would definitely have to ask him for the guilt! Wang Daniang's pension problem, the younger son does not dare to decide alone. ”
After listening to it, I also "long insight".
But my mother said that because there are more brothers and sisters, the parents' pension has become a problem, and the brothers and sisters are also in conflict. She's seen several of these things!
After the death of their parents, there will be no more contact between brothers and sisters, and there will no longer be a minority.
"It is difficult for a clean official to judge the affairs of the family", "Every family has a difficult scripture to read", in a family, especially in a large family with many brothers and sisters, everyone has everyone's thoughts, everyone has everyone's thoughts, and there are always contradictions.
In fact, there are contradictions that are not terrible, and what is afraid is that many contradictions have become dead knots and can no longer be solved.
Mr. Lu Xun and his younger brother Zhou Zuoren broke off their friendship, and the same was true!
03 Not salty and not light kinship
When I was a child, my brothers, sisters, and sisters were the children's uncles, aunts, and aunts when I grew up, and wasn't this the closest relative?
Ask yourself, how long have you not seen your aunts and uncles, and what about the relationship between your parents and his siblings?
As the saying goes: "Brothers do not share wealth, sisters have less contact!" ”
"Brothers do not share wealth" is to warn brothers that they must calculate money clearly and not be confused. Because once a problem occurs, brothers are prone to turn against each other, resulting in disharmonious family relations and more than worth the loss. In the face of the interests of common wealth, human nature cannot withstand the test of "wealth", nor can brothers.
"Sisters with less contact" refers to a sister who is married or married, and has already had a brother-in-law and brother-in-law involved in the life of a sister, and as a sister, it is necessary to keep a proper distance. Avoid unnecessary friction and contradictions.
This sentence may be a bit one-sided, but I have to admit that it is very reasonable!
After adulthood and family, how much time does a person have? First to the work, then to the partner and children, not to mention the brothers and sisters, how many can "often go home to see" the parents?
Many people's brotherhood is just a relative who can get by on the face.