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What is home? Home is a father, a mother, a child, and one is indispensable.
It was built by father and mother and run together. It is often said that the father is the pillar of the family, and the mother is the needle of the family.
It can be seen that the pattern of a father and the emotions of a mother have a crucial impact on the family.
If the father is a mountain, then the father's pattern often determines the height that the child can reach in the future;
If the mother is water, then the mother's emotions often determine the happiness and harmony of a family.
Emerson once said, "Home is the land of the father, the world of the mother, the paradise of the child." ”
Therefore, the quality of a family's feng shui depends on the father's big pattern and the mother's good mood.
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The pattern of the father determines the height of the child's future.
Standing on the 20th floor and looking down, all you see is beautiful; standing on the 2nd floor and looking down, all you see is garbage.
It can be seen that if people do not have height, they will see problems; if people do not have a pattern, they will see all the details.
The pattern of a person determines how high a person can stand and how far he can see.
The pattern of a father determines that the family can prosper for several generations and a few years.
Psychologists have pointed out that before the child is 12 years old, he often regards his father as his idol.
Children often have a strong admiration for their fathers, and they will regard them as a symbol of wisdom and strength.
Therefore, the size of a father's pattern determines the height of the child's life.
One father and son three word guests, four ancient articles.
Even a thousand years later, the famous three-word guests at that time: Su Xun, Su Rui, and Su Shi were still highly worshipped by people.
The success of Su Rui and Su Shi is inseparable from the fact that they have a father with a far-sighted pattern: Su Xun.
After Su Shi was born that year, Su Xun realized his responsibility and worked hard to study and participate in the imperial examination.
Later, he traveled in all directions and made friends with various literati and strangers.
After completing his studies, he devoted himself to teaching Su Shi to read.
Su Xun began to teach Su Shi the principles of the family and the country very early, so in Xiao Su Shi's heart, he established a sense of mission in the family country early.
Su Xun himself had a lofty pattern, he knew that the Confucian study of governing the country and the people was not all, in order to let the children grow insightful, he sent Su Shi to the Taoist Temple to learn the Taoist classics.
After the influence of Confucian and Taoist thought, there was Su Shi, who was later free and open-minded.
Even if Su Shi was repeatedly reproached later, he still did not forget his father's teachings to seek the welfare of the people at a convenient time.
Su Xun named his eldest son "Su Shi". "Shi" means that in ancient times, there was a horizontal log in front of the car for people to grasp when the car was bumpy.
It is hoped that Su Shi will, in most cases, understand "hiding clumsiness" and keep his duties.
Named his younger son Su Rui. "Rut" is the seal of the car, which means that don't be sharp in everything, and honestly follow the big brother.
It is this big pattern of Su Xun that subtly affects Su Shi Su Rui. Although Su Shi was repeatedly belittled, he was free and open-minded; when Su Rui encountered ups and downs, he did not get alarmed.
Even, the three of them exchanged literature with each other, and the Su family achieved a very high degree of achievement in literature.
During the Tang and Song dynasties, there were eight people in the literary collection, known as the "Eight Greats of the Tang and Song Dynasties", and the "Three Heroes of the Su Clan" in Meishan accounted for three of them, which could not help but be breathtaking.
In "Touching the Dragon Says Empress Zhao", it is said:
Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them.
A father who has far-reaching plans for his children is bound to be ambitious, and the family is bound to prosper.
Only those who have a big pattern can become their people and become their homes.
The founders of Chinese characters have made a subtle explanation for this:
A person, standing on a mountain, then his vision will see a long-term view, so he is a "fairy" person;
A person standing in a valley, his vision is naturally limited everywhere, and what he sees is also very narrow, so he is a "common" person.
A father with a big picture must be far-sighted and long-term. And this is the power of a family's future prosperity.
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The mother's emotions determine the temperature of the child's heart.
A woman is the most important feng shui of a family; a mother, determines the happiness of a family.
Psychological counselor Lai Peixia once said in her speech "Why Is Happiness So Hard":
When your mother lived in grief and pain all her life, would you dare to be happy? The answer is hard.
It's like a family can eat chaff every day, but you quietly go to a big meal.
At this time, you will not know the taste, and feel that your happiness at this time is like a betrayal. We can't stand this guilt, so we'd rather be unhappy all the time.
Therefore, a mother's emotions directly determine whether the family is sunny or cloudy.
I don't know if you have paid attention to how many celebrity biographies describe mothers:
The mother is gentle, virtuous and understanding, and she always silently dedicates herself to her children without complaint;
The mother is strong, kind, and assertive, as if nothing can upset the mother...
All celebrities seem to have the same mother, but in fact, only these mothers have the same emotion.
And a mother's good mood undoubtedly determines the temperature of the child's heart, and even the happiness of a lifetime.
Mo Yan wrote in the article "Mother":
What makes me unforgettable is that my mother, who is full of sorrow, actually hummed a small song in her mouth when she worked hard!
This strong optimism of his mother had a huge impact on Mo Yan's life. Let Mo Yan still be brave and confident in the face of discrimination, domestic violence, and forced to drop out of school.
Although every mother wants a harmonious family, not every mother can control her emotions very well.
Zhang Ailing's mother often threw a tantrum at her, and even said that she lived to harm people. As a result, Zhang Ailing lived in the shadow of her mother's bad emotions all her life, and she did not even dare to give birth to a child.
The famous director Jiang Wen also said that when he was a child, he often became very unconfident because his mother was unhappy.
Emotions are a double-edged sword, hurting others and hurting themselves. A mother's bad emotions can have an indelible impact on the family.
Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology and brain expert in Taiwan, used her brain research report on men and women to clarify from a scientific point of view in her TED speech:
From the perspective of human evolution, the emotional energy of women is far greater than that of men, the mother is the soul of the family, the mother is happy, the whole family is happy, and the mother is anxious and the whole family is anxious.
There was once a country that did a survey, when the family's economic conditions are limited, can only choose one of the boys and girls to go to education, which one will you choose?
At that time, the vast majority of families chose girls.
When you educate a boy, you educate only a boy; but when you educate a girl, you educate a family and her next generation.
A mother's emotion is a bellwether of a family atmosphere, which determines the temperature and happiness of a family.
Therefore, only the mother's gentle and stable mood is the best feng shui for a family.
Happy families are always similar.
Any happy family is inseparable from the father's big pattern and the mother's good mood.
The Father is heaven and the mother is earth. Only when the father's big pattern and the mother's good mood complement each other, can a family be smooth and smooth, and a piece of feng shui treasure land can be shaped.
Fei Jingyu said: "There is a wind bone in one family. ", there is also a family atmosphere. Only by centering on love and giving to each other can we get along well and flourish.
It is also said in the Book of Rites: "Father and son, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fatness of the family." ”
A good family will never be estranged; a good family will be a group of people in one direction.
So when we pour love into the family, it is the best feng shui for a family, and the poems hope that everyone can bring the best feng shui to their families!
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