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Many people can't understand why the mother-in-law looks more and more comfortable with her son-in-law, but the mother-in-law always can't tolerate her daughter-in-law.
Most girls will go through the strict screening of their mothers when choosing a mate, the same women, the standards for treating the opposite sex are roughly the same, and those who can enter the marriage hall are in line with the expectations of the mother-in-law, naturally how to see how to like.
Daughter-in-law is not the same, mother-in-law chooses daughter-in-law mostly based on their own standards, like girls who are similar to themselves in all aspects, and such standards may be very different from the son's mate selection standards, so that how the daughter-in-law marries home how to see how unpleasant it is.
In fact, to put it bluntly, marriage is the child's own business, no matter whether the parents look at it or not, the day still has to be lived by the child himself, but some parents just like to mix with the life of their children, and even want to be the master of the son's family.
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Luo Luo and her boyfriend are college classmates, the two people have a good relationship, and they are also running to talk about marriage and marry away.
The two discussed getting married just after graduation, but the family asked the boyfriend to buy a house, and the bride price could not be wanted, but the fall could not live with the mother-in-law, nor could they rent a house.
At that time, Luo Luo still couldn't understand his parents' approach, felt that he fell in love with his boyfriend, and slowly struggled in the future, and there would be everything, but his parents insisted, and Luo Luo did not have too much of a return to his own ideas.
The boyfriend's family is not rich, but the down payment of the house is still affordable, and I don't know what the reason is, the boyfriend's mother is just unwilling to pay this money, and the marriage thing is deadlocked here.
Later, Luo Luo learned that it was the boyfriend's mother who did not want him to live in a foreign country and wanted him to return to his hometown, in fact, she did not recognize Luo Luo's daughter-in-law in disguise.
Fortunately, she is not a person who will not be flexible, and she and her boyfriend discussed that they would save money to buy a house and not rely on the family.
It took about two years, Luo Luo and her boyfriend finally saved enough for the down payment of the house, the house was bought, and the marriage was naturally and smoothly concluded.
The house is bought, but also have to decorate ah, Luo Luo and her husband are at work, I hope that the mother-in-law to help watch the decoration workers, but the mother-in-law is not willing to come over, and it is dizzy by the train, and it is not good to sleep in a strange place, in short, it is impossible to come, even the door can not go out.
Later, there was no way, Luo Luo could only work with her husband to take leave to stare at the workers to decorate, saying that Luo Luo was still a little angry, the last time she got married and went to her mother-in-law's house, she didn't look like she was sick, and when she wanted to help, she couldn't do anything, and Luo Luo suspected that her mother-in-law was deliberately targeting her.
The house was installed, the furniture was bought, Luo Luo and her husband were just about to move in, and the mother-in-law came.
This is to catch Luo Luo off guard, saying that the good dizziness can't get out of the house? Why didn't you come uninvited?
The visitor is a guest, the fall is not a person who does not understand the courtesy, naturally it is good to eat and drink the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law is not polite, into the door to carry the luggage to the master bedroom, a day did not say anything else, just said where the decoration is not good, fell several times endured, and finally did not mean to scare the mother-in-law a word.
"Forget it, the mother-in-law is also a mother, and she is old, let her." Luo Luo thought silently in her heart, but what Luo Luo didn't know was that her nightmare had just begun.
The day after the mother-in-law came, she came back from work and found that the furniture at home was rearranged, and the flowers that were originally placed on the balcony were all anti-theft in the living room, and the balcony tiled the fruits and vegetables of this, and even the place to get off the feet was gone, and the fallen doubted that the living expenses for a month given yesterday were not spent by the mother-in-law in one day.
This is not the end, the cosmetics on the vanity mirror have been replaced by the mother-in-law, and the fallen are piled on an inconspicuous corner, although it is not a big deal, but this makes the fall very uncomfortable.
Such things happen every day, and within a few days the mother-in-law began to make demands, where to put the shoes, where to put the clothes, after what time you must turn off the TV, play games can not disturb him to sleep, etc., in short, this mother-in-law has the final say.
Luo Luo thought that her mother-in-law would live for a month or two and leave, trying to calm herself, don't care, wait for her to go and then adjust back according to her own preferences.
However, things did not go as expected, and the mother-in-law began to teach Luo Luo to cook, and while chatting, she also said that she was a virtuous and virtuous person, and girls must be able to cook and take care of men.
Just a few days after teaching, the mother-in-law let Luo Luo cook for her to eat, and waited for Several days to come back from work to cook.
On this day, the husband worked overtime, only the mother-in-law and the two people, the fall wanted to make two dishes simply, just made the second dish, found that the last dish has been eaten by the mother-in-law almost.
Luo Luo looked at her mother-in-law with a look of incredulity: "Why don't you wait for me to eat together?" "
"There is a custom in our hometown that the daughter-in-law has to wait for the mother-in-law to finish eating before she can be served." Luo Luo was stunned, and the mother-in-law was too inching forward, and she really didn't know whose home this was.
However, the nickname of "Witty Fall" was not in vain, and he was scared back on the spot.
"Our hometown also has a custom, the mother-in-law can not stay in the daughter-in-law's home for more than a month, otherwise it is unlucky, in two days you will come for a month, I will help you see tomorrow's ticket Ha!"
In the end, the mother-in-law was still sent back to her hometown, and the husband also said that he was much more relaxed, and the two of them restored the house to their favorite appearance overnight, which is their own life!
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Some forbearance will only increase the ambition of others to destroy their own prestige, and we must always remember that only you can be the master of your own home.
First: After the children become a family, the parents are guests for the small family.
Many mothers-in-law like to be the masters of their sons and daughters-in-law, thinking that when their daughters-in-law marries into the door, they really have more mouths in the family, and how to do it.
Therefore, there will be many requirements for the mother-in-law to the daughter-in-law, but the daughter-in-law will not obey, resulting in family conflicts.
Just like the mother-in-law who fell in the above article, when the son and daughter-in-law have difficulties, they look at it coldly, all the problems are solved, but they come to point fingers, if they meet a good daughter-in-law, they will be occupied by the dove.
It is also good that the husband and the husband have an emotional basis, and the husband has always been falling, so the forbearance of the mother-in-law has not affected the relationship between husband and wife, if the husband also helps the mother-in-law, I really don't know how the ending will end.
When the children get married, they form their own small family, and everything between the husband and wife is the affair of the small family, and even the parents are outsiders, and they have no right to judge their right and wrong, let alone let them live according to her ideas.
Therefore, after the children become a family, they must keep a proper distance from the children's families and leave room for each other to make the family harmonious.
Second: smart mothers-in-law will really treat their daughters-in-law as daughters.
There are many reasons why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it cannot be said that the daughter-in-law has no problems, but most of them are more problematic for mother-in-law.
It is said that marrying chickens with chickens and dogs with dogs, daughters-in-law and children all hope to have a good relationship with their mother-in-law, after all, it is not good for them not to deal with their mother-in-law.
But the mother-in-law will think more, and the daughter-in-law is not my favorite type, how does she look, is she virtuous and virtuous, can she go to the hall and the kitchen, whether it is good for my son... This condition is not much less than that of one's own first object, but anyone who is not satisfied will be dissatisfied with his daughter-in-law.
But the daughter-in-law is living with her son after all, and her strengths and weaknesses are not still the things that the mother-in-law cares about.
Many mothers-in-law like to leave their back hands, and Fang Ben'er says that she does not write the name of her daughter-in-law, and she is afraid that two people will not be able to live and lose too much.
And this kind of behavior just makes the daughter-in-law doubt this relationship, which triggers family conflicts, and the days that are originally no problem have to go wrong.
A truly intelligent mother-in-law should learn to be good to her daughter-in-law, after all, a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only hurt both sides, and no one can take advantage.
The daughter-in-law wins, and the mother-in-law dies and does not interact with each other, the mother-in-law wins, most of them also end in the daughter-in-law's divorce, so it does not matter whether the mother-in-law likes the daughter-in-law or not, as long as the son's life can be prosperous, it is the best result.
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