Parenthood has never been an easy task.
When you are a child, parents will feel that when their children grow up, everything will be complete, and they will be able to be liberated.
Really wait until the child grows up, even if the child has graduated from college and has begun to make money on his own, the parents' worries about the child will not be reduced at all, and they will always have a heart.
On that day, instead of worrying about the child's food, clothing and warmth, more will start to worry about the child's marriage.
When the child is always alone and there is no sign of saying goodbye to singleness, parents will be in a hurry.
Can't help but urge marriage in various ways, let the children get married earlier, don't delay until the age of thirty, already thirty years old, it is even more important to grasp.
Parents will want their children to start a family as soon as possible, this kind of mood, that is very normal, but it is okay to urge marriage, but it must not be just a variety of persecution, pay attention to the way.
Run your marriage well and set an example.
In real life, too many parents, the relationship between husband and wife is really not very good.
The two people are always fighting, often quarreling, often in the cold war, and they both feel particularly painful, not happy at all.
And even if their marriage is a mess, parents will still continue to urge their children to get married quickly.
It is conceivable that as a child, when he is exposed to such an environment every day, when he sees marriage, it is just like this, he does not feel any meaning, some are just complaining and suffering, of course, he does not have much desire for marriage.
Even if there is some desire, it will only be easily extinguished, and from the bottom of my heart, I am afraid of falling in love, and I dare not get married.
In life, children are exposed to the most, that is often their parents, whether it is a person or marriage, parents will always be the child's initial role model, and when the role model is just so, the child's cognition of marriage, it is really difficult to be good.
He will only feel that if after he gets married, his life will be like this, and he will live like this, then it is better to simply stay single and not enter into marriage, it is really not interesting.
If you want your child to get married, blindly urging, it is useless, only if parents love each other and let the child feel that marriage is very good, he will really want to get married, and he will be more eager to get married.
Communicate equally and understand your child's thoughts.
Too many parents, when urging their children to get married, are often particularly unreasonable.
They will only blindly accuse, feel that if the child does not get married, it is not out, it is to lose their face, they will only blindly let the child get married quickly, and feel that as long as they get married, no matter who they marry, it does not matter.
You will also feel that if the child does not get married, it is all the problem of the child, and the child does not want to marry.
However, too many young people, although they are also very aware that many marriages are not so happy, but they are still very eager to love and be loved, eager to have someone to spend the rest of their lives together.
They also want to get married, but maybe they are really young, and they still want to fight for a career first, but they have no choice, for many years, they have not met such a person.
When they have their own ideas, they want to get married but there is no suitable person, they are already very helpless, and their parents do not understand, of course, they will only be particularly disgusted.
Even if they are elders, in fact, they should not always stand on a commanding height and point out their children in various ways.
Maintain a more equal position with the child, really go into the child's heart, on this basis, and then instill some knowledge about love and marriage to the child, it will actually be better.
Help introduce, give more guidance.
Instead of just verbally urging the child to get married quickly, using some particularly extreme words and some particularly extreme behaviors, it is better to really take action and do something for the child.
For example, you can pay attention to the circles around you to see if there is anyone who is suitable for your child.
There is a suitable, just introduce to your child so that he can be exposed to more of the opposite sex and have more opportunities.
Emotional things, sometimes meet one, each other becomes, each other can go to the end together, sometimes it really needs to know a lot of people, and finally can succeed one.
This is very exquisite feeling, and it also needs to be more lucky, just to be able to meet a more suitable.
In addition, in addition to introducing the child, in the principle of the child's love, you can also chat with the child more, help the child to solve some confusion, and also let the child establish a more correct concept.
When parents are willing to put down their bodies and find ways with their children to give their children the best support, the children will naturally be more grateful, and in the matter of finding an object, they are not so repulsive and begin to become more positive.
What children want is never the power of their parents, but their parents can really stand in the same position as themselves, like a friend, give themselves advice, give themselves some support, so that they can walk more steadily on the road of feelings.
Parents urge marriage in a more correct way, do not just stand in their own point of view, but know how to think for the sake of their children.
Don't always feel that the child is hopeless because the child is not married, don't feel that you have raised the child, the child should be for his own face, and then hurry to get married and complete the task of passing on the generations.
Let the child feel that marriage is very meaningful, and let the child realize that he hopes that the child can be happy.
Only in this way will the child be willing to rely on his parents closer, and the relationship between the two generations will be more harmonious.
In addition, children will be more attentive to the matter of marriage, and they will want to become a family from the bottom of their hearts, and the family will be happy and harmonious.
Without parents, do not love their children, but love, but also pay attention to the method.
Be genuinely for the sake of the child, rather than using the child as a tool to fulfill himself, and let love just be a kind of harm.
Text/Tan Meng
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