As a traditional custom, the bride price originally carried the meaning of wishing the newlyweds happiness, but with the changes of the times, it gradually deviated from the original intention and became a heavy burden for the newlyweds and their families.
Some netizens believe that the current marriage is being wrapped in layers of bride price and material, and the original purity of love has been lost. It is also said that this is nothing more than a "stepping stone" to marriage, and that both parents want to convey respect for each other through the bride price, but this etiquette cannot be a financial shackle.
Marriage should be a fusion of two hearts, not a cold material transaction. As the starting point of a new family, the bride price should not become an unnecessary stress. We should revisit this practice as a symbol of blessing rather than an invisible shackle that binds the newlyweds.
At the same time, the dowry should also receive sufficient attention. True equality and respect should be the joint efforts of both families, and the bride price and dowry should not be seen as a tool for parents to gain personal interest for their daughters. Only when the two families understand and communicate with each other can they help the couple move towards a better new life.
Some netizens suggested that if the woman or her family realizes that the man's financial situation is limited, they should avoid making excessive demands on the bride price. After all, modern socio-economic conditions are relatively transparent, and the level of family wealth is often easy to see.
Against this backdrop, if the man is only dependent on the ordinary monthly salary in the city or farming in the countryside, the imposition of a high bride price will only push them to the brink of economic pressure, not only destroy the harmony of the new family, but also burden the daughter's marriage with a heavy debt burden. True happiness lies in the depth and sincerity of emotions, rather than the excessive pursuit of material things in the matter of bride price.
However, some netizens also reminded that women who do not want a bride price need to beware of those male families who lack gratitude, so as not to suffer setbacks and losses in marriage.
In fact, women also have different conditions for choosing a mate, and it is a blessing to find a suitable partner for those women who are mediocre-looking, poor, or withdrawn. In this case, the bride price is only a formal symbol and cannot bind the actual quality of the marriage. Love should be free-spirited and not bound by money and material things.
As for women with children in second marriages, they are usually no longer able to claim a bride price. Divorce is becoming more common in modern society, but that doesn't mean these women should be denied the right to pursue happiness.
Mothers raising their children alone want to find a partner who is willing to share the responsibilities of the family and ease the financial and emotional burden of raising their children. Therefore, they value more about whether the other half can truly tolerate and understand themselves.
Men should also abandon unrealistically high standards when looking for a remarriage partner and start a new journey with respect and love. In the end, mutual respect and support from both families is the foundation of a happy marriage.
A netizen commented: "As a traditional custom, the bride price represents the respect and recognition of the man's family for the woman, which is a manifestation of sincerity. A reasonable bride price can make the woman more confident in the new family. This view has been echoed by many people, who believe that a moderate bride price can help alleviate the concerns of the woman's family and make the marriage more stable.
Another netizen shared her personal experience: "When I got married, our family didn't ask for too much bride price, but our parents gave a lot of support. This not only allows us not to worry about the economy after marriage, but also feels the warmth of the family.
She believes that family blessings are more important than material requirements, because "marriage is a contract that can only last if it is based on mutual respect and understanding." ”
But some netizens made different voices. Mr. Li, a netizen, said: "Modern society advocates equality and freedom, and love and marriage should not be bound by bride price and dowry. The bride price does not really protect the rights and interests of women, but can easily lead to conflicts between families.
He believes that modern marriage should focus more on trust and consensus between two people than on the exchange of money.
A well-known blogger shared her opinion: "The bride price has become a financial pressure, and many people have been forced to give up on love. Shakespeare once said, 'Love is not a business, it cannot be measured by money.'
We need to abandon the excessive pursuit of the bride price in marriage and focus on the emotions of both people. ”
Netizen's God Comment:
This discussion of the bride price also gave rise to a series of divine commentaries. Some netizens joked: "How is the current bride price like buying a house?" Both down payment and installment payments are required.
Someone else concluded: "Instead of dwelling on the bride price, it is better to make yourself better first." After all, a good marriage is the result of two people working together. This kind of humorous ridicule sparked heated discussions among the people who ate melons, and everyone praised and resonated.
The topic of bride price and dowry sparked heated discussions, and criticisms emerged one after another. Many people believe that the tradition of bride price has long gone astray, and has been amplified into an absurd "sale" by the growing consumerism and comparison psychology in society.
What was once a symbol of blessing has been transformed into a heavy shackle that overwhelms the newlyweds' family. A netizen ridiculed: "Where is this getting married, it's clearly a transaction." The bride price is almost forcing everyone to have no money to raise a baby. ”
Moreover, it is believed that the high bride price has not only plunged many families into debt, but also made the marriage itself an unstable economic contract. An activist netizen said: "The high bride price not only materializes marriage, but also turns many people into buyers and sellers of love.
In the end, in addition to the new families who were crushed by economic pressure, there were also young people who were forced to give up their dreams of marriage. ”
The dowry was similarly blamed. The dowry, which is meant to be the support of the woman's family for the newlywed, is often reduced to a tool in marriage to measure the status of the woman's family.
Some families even go so far as to go into debt to satisfy their need for dowry vanity. To make matters worse, this comparison mentality also has a potential impact on the relationship, often making family life more competitive and even undermining trust.
Critics argue that the existence of bride price and dowry actually exacerbates the gap between rich and poor, making marriages more susceptible to money. They stressed that in marriage, people should prioritize emotion and trust over financial considerations. Shakespeare once said, "Love is not a business, it cannot be measured in money." Amid the criticism, there are calls for the young people of the new era to break the shackles of bride price and dowry, and no longer let them become stumbling blocks to marriage, but to re-establish an equal and sincere family relationship.