Why are more and more women not wanting to get married? Three reasons are worth pondering

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Nowadays, more and more people do not want to get married, all the imagination of marriage in their youth has been wiped out, and occasionally seeing those happy marriages, there will be a little envy, but they dare not believe that they will be one of them.

The previous marriage sewed and patched up for a lifetime, the current marriage separation has long become a daily routine, betrayal has been common, many couples face and heart discord, there are many people living under the same roof, but the heart has long been far away.

The ideal marriage should be that the hearts of two people are tightly bound together and can be nourished by love in marriage, but the real-life marriage is a chicken feather.

One study showed that 44% of female respondents had no intention of marrying, and 25% of male respondents had no intention of marrying. Compared with men, women are more afraid of marriage, preferring to choose a person for a lifetime rather than enter the palace of marriage.

There are many reasons to choose not to marry, some people don't have the time and energy to manage a relationship, and some people don't meet the right person. Of course, everyone has their own reasons for choosing not to marry, and everyone has the right to choose their own life, but if it really can, who wants to end up alone?

Presumably, every girl has had a beautiful dream of wearing a white veil and entering the marriage hall with her beloved, and she will have such a gorgeous dream when she is young, and then when she grows up, the dream will wake up.

Recently in the pursuit of the "Heart Residence" TV series, there are many points of the heart, poking our hearts, whether it is Gu Qingyu's insistence on marriage, or Feng Xiaoqin's situation in the Gu family, or Ge Yue's depression in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can find the shadow of our ordinary people in real life.

In this play, I seem to understand the truth about why many women are reluctant to get married.

I am fully capable of bearing the future life, and I am not willing to find someone to make up for it

In the past, women married, in fact, to a certain extent, to reduce the burden of the family, women only have one way to choose, that is, to teach their husbands and children at home, to serve a good family, and to take care of the rear of the family.

Most of today's women are very independent, they can compete with men in the workplace, and their status in society is completely equal to that of men, and even some women are more than men.

Women can completely choose the life they want to live, can have the ability to bear the life of the second half of their lives, they are very independent economically and mentally, a person lives freely, when life is guaranteed, then the requirements for marriage will also become higher.

Whereas previous marriages were meant to find a dependency, marriages now tend to be more content and resonant with the spiritual world.

I don't get married for the sake of getting married, and I don't want to find someone to make up for. If that person isn't your favorite, then you'd rather be alone until the right person shows up.

Gu Qingyu in "Heart Residence" is like this, she has enough ability to meet her own life, she does not have to look at anyone's face at all, she has been single in her 30s, she has actually been waiting for the person in her heart.

Before Shi Yuan appeared, every love ended without illness, never thought of getting married, after he appeared, he ignored it and bravely and enthusiastically ran to the flame of love.

I've seen the topic of why women should work hard, and there is an answer at the bottom: work hard, so that when standing next to the person I love, whether he is rich or has nothing, I can open my hands and embrace him calmly. I don't have to feel that he is rich, and we will not be discouraged if he is poor.

Shi Yuan's family is in a dilapidated situation, many people may be trying to stay away from him in the face of such conditions, and Gu Qingyu can love calmly enough, without any worries, this is the confidence given to her by economic independence.

When women have the ability to afford their own lives, they are not willing to find someone to make up. Entering marriage can only be because of love,

Worried about the quality of married life, afraid of contributing to the undesirable

The fear of married life is also the reason why many women are reluctant to get married.

When a person is free, you can live the life you like at will, and you don't have to be bound by anyone at all, but once you get married, you are no longer yourself, you are someone else's wife, someone else's wife, someone else's daughter-in-law, only you don't have yourself.

If you meet a man who cares for himself intimately, then there is nothing wrong with it, I am afraid that many women are living in a widowed marriage, men are completely hands-off treasurers, do not care about the affairs of the family, they alone bother to manage this home, but no matter how much you pay, in the in-laws' family is always an outsider.

Looking at Feng Xiaoqin's situation in the Gu family, many people did not dare to get married, and once again deepened their fear of marriage. The husband does not seek progress, chaotic life, the child's education does not matter, the size of the family is not asked, taking care of the elderly in the family, discipline the children, the husband does not let himself worry, like a child also need to bother with their own efforts.

I want to make plans for my children in advance, buy a house of my own, and I am also regarded by my family as ill-intentioned, all year round, doing my best for this family, and in the end I am guarded by my in-laws and are not treated as a family at all.

Many women are married in such a situation, hard to maintain a family life, but in the end they are not pleased, nanny-style married life, far contrary to women's expectations for marriage.

If marriage is to marry as a nanny, if marriage needs to reduce their quality of life, then it is better not to marry.

Didn't want to deal with a messy relationship and felt too much trouble

The trouble with getting married is that marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, and as a bridge connecting two families, you need to deal with the relationship between the two families.

For women, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be confronted, from the moment of marriage, most women are going to live with their in-laws, and you need to find ways to integrate into their family.

Originally living in different environments, the way of life is different, and there are many inconsistencies in the life schedule between young people and the elderly, and friction and collision are bound to occur.

If you encounter some prickly mother-in-law, it is difficult to maintain a harmonious atmosphere, and the family is always smoky miasma.

As a rich woman, Ge Yue did not have a little squeamishness in her body, she was very kind and virtuous, but she never got the kindness of her mother-in-law, always sneered at her, and exposed all kinds of dissatisfaction.

Mothers look down on their husbands, mothers-in-law frequently provoke themselves, and being in such a family relationship affects the state of their lives.

Worried about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, worried about the discord between the two families, these relationships need to be reconciled by themselves, feel too troublesome, and when they think of such a messy relationship, they feel that it is difficult to deal with, and they can't help but want to escape.

Running a marriage is not an easy task, and if you want to enter a marriage, you need to be fully mentally prepared.

First of all, we must polish our eyes to see people, choose what kind of husband, related to the happiness of our own life, do not recognize people clearly, bury their own happiness.

In addition to the selection of husbands, but also to face the reconciliation of family relations, when you think of this, it is easy to have a withdrawal mentality.

Of course, the most important premise is to meet someone you really like, as long as he is a good person, then even if there are many difficulties and obstacles, you can face them together.

If you have not encountered it for a long time, do not settle down, marriage is your own business, you must be satisfied with yourself.