I believe that everyone's ideal old age is to enjoy the joy of heaven and earth, but in real life, some elderly people re-employ themselves in order to reduce the pressure of their children to provide for their own old-age care, and another part of the elderly are busy bringing children to their children. We always say that the elderly should choose to let go and quit the children's lives, but many friends feel very difficult. In fact, when we say let go, we do not completely give up, but appropriately return their lives to the children themselves, and we only provide appropriate help. If you want to try to let go, you can make changes from the following points appropriately.
First, don't pour out your money
In addition to mortgages and car loans, the education of children and the expenses of daily life have become a mountain for young people. Many parents are distressed about their children and always take out a part of the money to subsidize their expenses, although this is reasonable, but if you want to let go of their lives, you must grasp the degree. In the face of their reasonable requests, we can indeed help them save the emergency, but there are many young people in life, who use their parents as cash machines, and they need to use money to keep asking their parents for help, until they empty the pension book of the old couple. In the end, when we want to retire, we find that there is no basic guarantee for our old age. Therefore, to help them moderate, at least for our own lives, children want to seek a higher standard of living, it is up to them to create through their own efforts, rather than choosing to eat old age.
Second, do not mix with household chores
There are many elderly people who are always too worried, even if the children have their own families, but they always want to meddle in their lives and point fingers at their lives. The little two live together, and it is certainly indispensable in life to mix mouths, and it is also common to spit on us and complain about pain when they are unhappy. But we must be clear about how we should help them, all we can do is to comfort the children, from a rational point of view to help them analyze the problem, as for how to decide in the end, do not interfere, let them do their own master. Remember, don't go to the side rack because you are sad for your child, this will only make the contradiction between the two children deeper and deeper, and the relationship will be broken. What's more, if you mix one hand with yourself, and mix with your own family again, the original small problems are mixed up more and more, so don't always mix with the children's things, and run your own life well, in order to make life more smooth.
Third, do not interfere too much in the education of your children to your grandchildren
In the matter of taking children, although grandparents and grandparents are very hard, they are also very happy to be with their grandchildren. However, the education of children must be returned to the children, and their rights and responsibilities as parents should not be excessively interfered with. At the same time, it is recommended that everyone help moderately and do not be their free babysitter. Children are indeed busy with work, there is no way to accompany children all day, it is reasonable to ask us for help, but we can also be like the children of the "duty style with the baby", they also go to work with children, when they leave work, we should also leave work, so that not only to give them enough parent-child time, we can also rest for a while, but also avoid the problem of children after work, neglect education. So, letting go just right is good for each other.