If it is you, when you get married, the in-laws provide a full-fund marriage room, do not need you to pay a penny, you can move in with your bag, will you ask to write your name on the property deed or transfer the house after marriage?
In this regard, my girlfriend told me what she thought.
"If it is a full-fledged wedding room, the decoration is done, to the point where I can directly carry my bag to move in, I will not mention such an unreasonable request, this eating picture is too ugly, I can't say it." You don't have a penny, you want to add a name, the in-laws can be happy to blame? Think about it in a nutshell, what would you do if a man asked you to write his name on your pre-marital house? ”
"However, it must be a full-fund house, I don't need to pay a penny, not that he paid the down payment, I have to pay off the debt, not to mention that although the house was bought in full, but the money was borrowed, after getting married, his money went to repay the loan, and I was responsible for supporting the family."
My girlfriend pursues the principle that I don't take advantage of others, and others don't want to calculate me, and in Xiao Qi's view, such an idea is correct. The heart of prevention is indispensable, the heart of harming people must not be there, you can neither be too greedy, covet the property of the in-laws, nor can you be blinded by love and let others calculate you.
In the book "Why Home Hurts", it is written that when getting married, the criterion for making choices is not passion, let alone love and love, but often a sense of security, not only when elders make choices for their children, but also when young people make their own choices.
Many women before marriage, ask men to add their names on the pre-marriage property, or give a huge amount of dowry, playing the banner of a sense of security, thinking that men are only willing to spend money and throw money on her, which is considered to give her a sense of security, and she has the courage to enter the marriage.
However, what should be given to you, you must, otherwise you may be labeled too cheap and looked down upon by your in-laws, but if you are greedy and excessive, your in-laws will think that you covet their property and will not like you.
Some time ago, Aunt Tang's son got married, which was originally a happy event, but the daughter-in-law has always been keen on one thing after marriage, and has mentioned it to Aunt Tang many times, which makes Aunt Tang feel very dissatisfied and feel that the daughter-in-law's requirements are too excessive.
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What kind of demands did Aunt Tang's daughter-in-law make? Just four words, transfer the house.
This house refers to the marriage house where the son and daughter-in-law are now living, it is a two-bedroom apartment, located in a more prosperous location in the city, the traffic is very convenient, not far from the son and daughter-in-law's company, and it is a school district house, therefore, the price is very high, although it is only 70 square meters, but the total value has exceeded 3 million.
And the real estate certificate of this house not only did not write the name of the daughter-in-law, not even the name of the son, only the names of Aunt Tang and his wife, only because this house was bought five years ago, at that time, the son was still in college.
"There are sons in the family, and it is natural to be a parent to prepare early. If the boy wants to marry a wife, the bride price and the marriage house are indispensable, so we bought this house in the provincial city, although it was not so expensive when we bought it, it was not cheap, and we paid the savings of our old couple for more than 30 years. ”
When buying a house, some people suggested that they only pay the down payment and let the son and daughter-in-law repay the mortgage, but Aunt Tang was not willing to let her son carry the mortgage, the pressure of life was huge, and she was worried that the daughter-in-law was not happy, there would be disputes, or she gritted her teeth and paid the full amount.
After the marriage between the son and the daughter-in-law was finalized, Aunt Tang took them to see the marriage room and let them choose the decoration style by themselves, and the decoration fee was also paid by Aunt Tang.
"That is to say, this house did not let my daughter-in-law pay a penny from the beginning to the end, the house was bought, the decoration fee was paid by me, even the furniture inside was matched by me, and the daughter-in-law only came out with a refrigerator, a washing machine and an air conditioner. If she doesn't want to buy it, I can buy it too. However, if I were to transfer the house worth more than 3 million yuan to them, I could not do it. ”
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Before the daughter-in-law got married, she did not mention the transfer of the house, but not long after the marriage, the son came to Aunt Tang and the couple and proposed the transfer of the house.
"Dad, Mom, since you bought us a house, why don't you write our names?" It is not convenient for children to go to school! ”
"I am your only son, I am responsible for giving you a pension, your property is mine sooner or later, and there is no difference between giving early and giving late!"
"I was raised by you, you don't know what it looks like, you won't worry about me not honoring you in the future!"
For her son's character, Aunt Tang still has some trust, but his wife resolutely refuses to transfer the house to them.
"In order to buy this house, we have been out early and late for more than 30 years, getting up at five o'clock in the morning and resting at eleven o'clock in the evening, how many nights have we stayed up? How much suffering have you suffered? We were crowded in the basement, we didn't dare to find a better house to live in, we ate fast food, didn't dare to sit in the hotel, saved up this money, let the son marry the daughter-in-law, if the house was transferred to them, they really couldn't rely on it, what to do? Do you still have money in your hand to use for the elderly? ”
Moreover, the daughter-in-law had just married and had not yet given birth to a child, what kind of character it was, Aunt Tang really did not dare to guarantee. In fact, the daughter-in-law just got married, and she set her sights on her in-laws' property, which has made Aunt Tang feel unhappy.
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Rejected by her parents, Aunt Tang's son had no choice but to give up, but the daughter-in-law did not give up, and mentioned the matter again during a meal with her in-laws.
"Dad, Mom, are you so wary of your daughter-in-law?" I'm married, I'm a family, are you still guarding against me? Living in a house without my name, I was really insecure. ”
Listening to the daughter-in-law's words, Aunt Tang was not angry, and explicitly refused the daughter-in-law's request to transfer the marriage room: "If you want to feel safe, I have to gamble with my life savings?" More than 3 million! Not a few cents, why should I take this risk? ”
Aunt Tang believes that she is good enough for her daughter-in-law, and when she marries her, she gives a dowry of 100,000 yuan, gives three gold, gives a change fee, and the money for the wedding is also from them.
In order to give the little two their own space, Aunt Tang and her husband still live in their own small house. Aunt Tang also thought well, if the child is born, the daughter-in-law needs to take the baby, she will quit her job, help with the child, if not, she will continue to work, save more money for the elderly.
However, she could not have agreed to hand over such a large amount of money. Seeing that Aunt Tang and his wife refused to compromise, the daughter-in-law had to give up this idea.
"No matter what she thinks, whether she hates me or hates me, I will not easily transfer the house."
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Miyazaki said: "In the vast sea of people to meet and know each other, no matter who will not be smooth sailing, only a heart that is willing to pay and know how to be grateful can have a lifetime of love and happiness." ”
Woman, you have to remember that a man marrying you does not mean that he owes you, nor does it mean that the in-laws' personal property is all yours. The in-laws have the right to dispose of their own property, and even the son is not allowed to interfere excessively, let alone you?
If you live a good life, sooner or later it will be yours, why rush for a while, covet the property of the in-laws' family, and affect your marriage.
Women ask for security, in fact, rely on themselves, only if you are independent enough, you can not be alarmed, run your own life, rather than completely dependent on others.
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