Soon to be the New Year, many people do not want to go home because they do not want to face the parents' urging, many post-60s, post-70s parents, see the children have not yet married on the crazy marriage, in their view, to establish a family, inheritance, to have a small family of their own is very important, but in the eyes of the current post-90s parents, if the daughter does not want to marry and have children, parents absolutely support, in their eyes, making money is far more important than having children, they would rather their daughters not get married, and do not want their daughters to step into the "grave" of marriage.
Why? In the eyes of many young parents, the male party is the beneficiary of marriage, and the woman is not, many men will take good care of the girl at the beginning, but they did not expect that the back is also very fast, and the young love has finally become a look at each other.
A post-90s mother said: do not want her daughter to experience the suffering she has suffered, this mother into the palace of marriage, only to find that life is not easy, full-time mother is disliked by her husband, after many years to find a job is disliked by the company, mother-in-law contradictions, husband and wife are not compatible, she does not want her daughter to experience these in the future, from these points of view, not getting married, not having children will indeed be a lot happier.
Now many women "awaken", they will not feel that divorce is a shameful thing, will not bear the burden of humiliation like the older generation, if they are not happy, they can be exchanged for happiness by ending, there is no need to let marriage bind themselves, so they also support their children to pursue happiness and happiness, and starting a family is only secondary.
What is unexpected is that after the parents of girls have this kind of thinking, some parents of boys also support their children's infertility.
Yesterday met my sister's high school classmate Xiao Ya, she has a three-year-old son, we talked about the topic of many parents supporting girls' infertility now, my sister ridiculed Xiao Ya, after your son's choice will be less, I did not expect Xiao Ya to say: My husband and I think that boys are not married and infertile is also a good thing, and then she analyzed a few reasons.
First, the child is stressed
Xiao Ya said that she and her husband almost do not save much money, car loans, mortgages, sometimes travel, the two of them are barely enough to save these, can not save any money, the future son to get married, buy a house and buy a car, with the efforts of the child alone is certainly not enough, but they also do not have money to fund the child, these pressures are the child alone.
After marriage, the child will have to support the family, if the wife is a full-time wife, the pressure of the family is on the child, when Xiao Ya has a baby, when she has a full-time wife for a year, her husband who works in a foreign company earns ten thousand yuan a month.
But the family's life is tight, the child's milk powder, diaper money will be nearly four thousand yuan a month, the living expenses of the two will be fifteen hundred yuan, the car loan, the mortgage is paid off, almost no money, that time the husband is very stressed, often overtime, she does not want her son to work as hard as them in the future.
Second, the openness of parents' minds
Xiaoya said that she and her husband are both post-90s, and they do not care about starting a family and passing on their generations, they are very open-minded, they will respect their son's choice, and will not force their children to marry and have children.
In fact, not only the parents of the 90s feel that boys can not get married, many parents after the 70s now have the concept that boys can not get married, the mother's friend Aunt Zheng, a post-70s aunt, she never urged her son to get married, she feels that the son alone is very good, happy on the line, if the marriage of the child will be very stressful, they couples will also bear the pressure, after all, it is too difficult to buy a suite with the child's ability, they must help the child, but their ability is also limited, And she does not want to face the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future, so she will go with the flow and look at the choice of her children.
After the girl, the boy's parents also supported infertility, is this the sadness of the times?
Boy parents support the child's infertility, we can see that now the parents' minds are open, will not always force the child to do something, which also reduces the pressure of the child, let the child relax a lot, but this concept also makes many children dare not enter the palace of marriage, they feel that marriage is terrible, the parents instill in them the concept is: marriage pressure, mother-in-law relationship is very afraid, husband and wife relationship is not compatible, which is easy to make them afraid of marriage, that is, the original plan to get married do not dare to get married.
Parents can give some suggestions for the marriage of their children, but children must be clear-headed, have their own ideas, do not be controlled by the ideas of others, and the road they will take in the future must be chosen by themselves.