I've seen a sentence like this:
"Life is actually like a road from a wide plain into the forest.
On the plains, companions can walk in groups, pushing forward and backward happily, and foaming at each other;
Once in the forest, the grass and thorns stand in the way, and the situation changes, and each person concentrates on each person's path, looking for his own direction. ”
When I was young, I always felt that the joy of blowing black hair in the wind would become the consummation of snow full of white heads.
Therefore, often, I can't accept the sadness of the turning of friendship, and I can't bear the pain of suddenly leaving the scene.
It wasn't until I stepped into society, along the way, witnessed too many encounters, and experienced too many separations, that I knew:
In the adult world, there are many partings and regrets of never seeing each other again.
After all, on the forked road of life, the gradual drifting away is never just you and me.
Suddenly I remembered Zhou Xingchi and Wu Mengda, an old friend who had been paired for twelve years.
Once upon a time, they were inseparable:
Xingye filmed "Deer Ding", and Uncle Da played Hai Dafu;
Xingye plays "Shaolin Soccer", and Uncle Da is the golden right foot;
Xingye played "Wu Zhuangyuan Su Qi'er", and Uncle Da became the "ideal of the world" Guangzhou general...
But in the end, they didn't work together for twenty years.
When we said goodbye, Uncle Da was gone, and there was no time to meet each other again.
From nothing to talk about to nothing to say, their relationship is as Uncle Da said in "The Thirteen Invitations":
"We had a very good rapport, and we knew what the other person was thinking with one look."
"But then, for some reason, there's a little bit of a feeling of old age and death."
"Maybe it's because I moved to another place, there was another environment, and I was less and less connected with each other, and it became as if everyone didn't know how to break through this mouth..."
You see, some relationships are so cruel that they get cold without a hint of warning and break up without a hint of warning.
As Tagore said:
The most distant distance in the world is not that the stars do not have a trajectory of meeting, but that even if the trajectories meet, they are nowhere to be found in the blink of an eye.
Along the way, I have seen too many people, once inseparable, and now I will never see them again—
Those friends who were inseparable from each other before, walking and walking, are gone, and from then on they are like strangers;
The lover who had been ear-piercing, living, dispersed, and had nothing to do with it.
Finally, I understood that there is some separation between people, not intentionally, but without solution.
Recently, a hot topic appeared on Weibo: you have been deleted by the other party.
A netizen @Allen Chen described his feelings after being blocked by his friends:
"I've always been naïve enough to think that as long as I'm sincere with others, others will be true to me.
I try to make everyone happy and take care of everyone's feelings.
So, whenever I see someone delete me, I feel very uncomfortable and think back to what went wrong.
And constantly doubting that I was doing something wrong. ”
In the comment area, there is such a message with high praise:
"A person who doesn't have you in his heart will ignore you, ignore you, and let you lie in your friends list."
Your messages don't respond; your calls, always perfunctory. Finally, when you're unaware, a button deletes you.
Therefore, the relationship that was deleted, do not regret. ”
To the point.
What is there to be sorry about?
Hundreds of friends in WeChat, but they refuse to leave you an inch;
Obviously, you can not contact or disturb, but you have chosen to delete.
Over the years, the more I experienced, the fewer friends I had around.
And the more friends who have agreed to "walk together for a lifetime", the more they understand:
The relationship between adults is not the same as the change of time, and it is even more impossible to resist the rush of time.
Therefore, some relationships, faded, fade, do not care; some feelings, broken off, do not have to be sad.
Some people say that in a person's lifetime, they will meet 29.2 million people, but the probability of two people meeting each other is only 0.000049, and the probability of two people staying together to the end is less than one in ten million.
That is to say, in this lifetime, we will drift away from at least 1428 people.
When I have not yet entered the society, I always fantasize about being with the person next to me for a long time, and there will never be a period.
Later, the older I got, the more I understood: life is a grand encounter and separation.
As the saying goes viral on the Internet:
"The first friends scattered in graduation, each went to a different city, and the distance and time slowly diluted the feelings;
The second group of friends scattered at work, each other's future plans are in opposite directions, except to chew the past repeatedly, barely maintaining some affection, it seems that there is nothing to say;
After the third group of friends scattered in marriage and family, chai rice oil and salt, daily trivialities, human exchanges, and the chicken feathers of life have occupied all the time, and there is no time to greet those who seem to be far away in the ancient story. ”
How many people, first caught off guard, can not prevent intruding into our lives, and then disappeared from our lives;
How many people have agreed to get along with each other, but finally forgot about each other.
They don't know that people are in the wind, gathering and dispersing from you and me;
They do not understand that even the most intimate relationship will be estranged by distance, and even the deepest friendship will be diluted by time.
Life in the world, encounters and separations, are the norm.
Some time ago, my cousin suddenly sent a circle of friends:
"Someone took the initiative to quit your circle of friends, and someone forced you to quit her circle of friends."
No big deal, friends who didn't take me to heart, fade off. ”
I hurriedly asked her what was wrong.
She told me she had been deleted by a friend she hadn't seen in years.
It turned out that my cousin went to Beijing on a business trip last week.
In his spare time, he suddenly remembered that one of his friends was also working hard in the city, so he wanted to ask her out for a meal.
She was very happy, took out her phone and opened the dialog box, quickly typing a few playful big words: "Your big stomach girlfriend has arrived!" Don't want to come to dinner soon? ”
But I didn't want to, just press send, a bright red exclamation point appeared on the cold mobile phone screen...
I was about to persuade my cousin not to think too much, but unexpectedly, she opened her mouth first:
"That's it, I still have to thank the company of the past, after all, we met each other."
Yes, life is in the world, parting is the norm, if the obsession is too deep, it will only imprison itself.
Instead of forgetting, letting go, and losing, it is better to let the past go with the wind and love and hate to zero.
In the circle of adults, there are always people who keep quitting.
But the best ending is: let go of the past and let go of yourself.
You know, let go of the past, you will meet a better future; learn to be relieved, in order not to be afraid of anyone's departure.
I like a quote:
"We want to thank every passer-by who shows up in life, because it's they who make life's journey less lonely.
But we must also be clear that life comes and goes, and we don't have to be too attached. ”
Delete your people, just scatter it;
People who have forgotten you, just let it go.
In life, white clouds and dogs, why bear too much burden?
For the rest of your life, may you forget what you should forget, and let go of what you should put away;
May you face all the deletions calmly and bravely accept all the departures.
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