There are many girls who think that a person is also very good, why should they get married? Is marriage really an essential part of our lives? Today we are going to talk about the necessity of marriage.
I can understand very well, many girls feel that I am living very well alone now, why should I get married? Especially in the New Year, there is a kind of marriage that parents think you should marry, arrange various blind dates for you, and you don't want to go, but there is no way. But it seems that the people I see are not my favorite, so I have a kind of idea: why do you have a good life and get married?
Marriage is indeed not a necessary choice in your life, but we can't think that a person is living well because of escape. Just like swimming, if you go to the pool on the first day and want to learn to swim, and then choke on a sip of water, you feel that swimming is good, cold and choking, and I will never come again. You can never go to the pool for the rest of your life, no one is stopping you, but the joy of swimming, you will never experience.
Including many things, some people like to dance, some people like music, some people like to travel and drive, including learning to drive, all after paying a lot of hard work in the front, they have received rewards. You can choose to escape, feel that these things I can not want, I can live well alone, but according to our several years of counseling experience, many people do not really want to get married, just feel that they have not met better.
I'll say a few scenes where if you're really unmoved and think it's normal, then you can choose not to get married:
For example, during the New Year, a large table is gathered together, and your brother and sister-in-law are flirting; for example, a couple at the door, leading a child is setting off fireworks; for example, the neighbors are laughing and laughing, and everyone hears a strong affection; for example, a small couple on the street is sorting out each other's clothing corners, and their faces are still shy; for example, a couple on the car hugs each other and is reluctant to separate for a long time.
If you see these scenes and you can be indifferent and feel that you don't need it, then you can really live well alone. But if you also have some throbbing, or even some yearning, then you have to ask yourself: Do you really not want to get married, or do you feel that you have not met the right person? I think most of them are the latter.
Maybe when you are quiet in the middle of the night, when you are lonely, when you have nowhere to say something in your heart, when you are wronged, you also hope that someone will appear, have a shoulder to rely on, but this person does not seem to appear.
Then I tell you that a few years ago, the teacher also had a fear of marriage, and felt that marriage was unnecessary, because we had seen too much negative energy in marriage, and those who came to us for consultation may be some red-faced, betrayed, and so on. But then we summed up a rule: happiness is an ability, not a state, not a choice, not that you can be happy if you find the right person, but happiness is an ability, an ability to manage happiness.
If the person you feel is suitable has not yet appeared, you look around, perhaps the person closest to you is the most suitable person, what you lack now is only the ability and method of operating happiness.