We all think that after marriage, husband and wife are as loving as when they are married: no matter how poor or sick they are, the other person will always accompany you and never give up.
However, when you really enter marriage, you find that when you are poor, sick, and your value becomes low, you become, husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, and the great difficulty comes to fly separately.
Especially women, if you don't have a job after marriage and take children at home, no matter how many things you do, no one will feel that you are hard, and no matter how many children you have, you will not have human compassion.
No one will ask you whether you are bitter with children, no one will ask you whether you are tired in the middle of the night, even if you were Kochi before, no matter how much money you earn, no matter how good, as long as your current value is not converted into money, you are likely to be disliked by your partner.
When you are poor, you have no right to speak, and your husband and mother-in-law may look down on you.
So at this time, how can we turn the situation around?
First, find ways to work or earn money no matter what
Most of the reasons why women are disliked is that you don't have a job, and without a job you can only reach out for money and look at other people's faces.
So no matter how hard it is, how difficult it is, trying to find a way to work, maybe you will say that there is no way to take the child, if the child is small, try to let the mother-in-law or your own mother come to help.
If the mother-in-law is not happy, see if her mother can help, at this time, the only one who is most distressed about herself is her mother.
Although you don't want to grievance the mother, but sometimes the difficulties still have to be overcome, every mother wants to accompany the child, but there is a need to face life, there are also a lot of unavoidable, if there is really no one to bring, it can only negotiate with the husband, let him pay a certain amount of living expenses on time every month, rather than you take the initiative.
When the child can enter the nursery, go to work on his own, even if the money for the work is just enough to ask for pick-up and drop-off or tuition, he must also consider it.
If you are really not at ease, then starting from some part-time workers, the work is the woman's confidence in herself, and many family quarrels are caused by economic reasons.
Many men feel that they work hard outside and should be treated well when they come home.
If a woman is just a housewife at home, washing and cooking, husbanding and teaching children, and only knows how to ask men for money, unless you meet a man who knows how to hurt people, otherwise life will be very undignified.
Second, housework and children are required to be shared
The reason why women can't do their best at work is because their energy is too limited, and housework children basically occupy all of a woman's free time.
There is no time to improve yourself, nor a chance to give yourself time to breathe, and you naturally can't do your best at work.
Just like the child is sick, it is basically a woman's leave, at night after work, it is also eager to go home early with the child, overtime travel these are very difficult, natural promotion space will not give you.
Since you are also working, then the housework can completely require him to bear half, maybe you will say that you can't watch it, then let yourself go, when you are in a good mood or when you want to move, you may as well let go when you are too tired.
Doing housework is actually difficult to do such things by relying on the so-called "self-awareness" and "which one has time and which one does more", so it can be distributed according to the actual situation at home, such as one person cooking, and another person washing dishes.
Some play with children, some tutoring homework, everyone performs their duties, do their parts, just like work, talent is not so tired, but also have more to pay and responsibility for this family.
Finally, have your own space
It is said that men are single before marriage and after marriage, because after the stomach marriage, he can still travel at any time, party with friends at any time, and leave when he is not happy, but he has seen several women who take care of the family like this.
To party with friends, you have to say goodbye to the family in advance, and you may be called in a few minutes, telling you to come back quickly when there is something going on at home.
Not to mention going out to play for a few days, having children to sleep and go out to play is a luxury, and many women have been married for several years without a single person.
And men have always had a strong sense of independence, and a strong sense of personal space, no matter how much he loves you, he will also ask to maintain his independent personal space.
Because, they feel that they have a lot of things to be discharged and digested.
So even if you get married, women have to have their own private space, even friends, men and marriage is not all your life, love yourself more.
You are not his supplies, much less a nanny, conditions permitting, time permitting, and men also have to take on family life, such as cooking, doing housework, taking care of children, etc.
We all know that men in marriage who have no money are looked down upon, and in the same way, women in marriage who have no money and no income are also looked down upon, which is why housewives have become one of the most dangerous professions.
There is no income, can not create benefits, palm up life, the right to speak and decide in the hands of rich people, not dangerous to blame.
What's even more frightening is that if the marriage is unhappy, people without money really can't even afford to get married.
If you are a housewife, you have no self and no status, and you are not allowed to dream of a romantic life, surrounded by husbands and children every day
This kind of life is equivalent to depriving women of their rights.
Women also have the space to exert their own value, wisdom, and can do more things than with children.
So for married men, your wife may be fat, youth is no longer, and the charm of your wife is not as good as before, but please cherish the partner around you, be able to resist the temptation of the world, and do a good job as a man.
Accompanying life and loving forever is the highest state of life, and it is also a happy and romantic thing in life.
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Interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way