Some people say, what do people lose in their lifetime? Don't lose your self-esteem.
Because "self-esteem" represents a person's backbone, people with backbone can certainly be respected by many people, and they can also make themselves stand up and walk.
However, a person with insufficient ability, who only thinks about self-esteem everywhere, does not know how to learn from each other's strengths and complements weaknesses, and bows his head to show weakness, will inevitably lose many opportunities in this life.
There is an old saying that goes: "There are mountains outside the mountains, there are people outside the people, and there are heavens outside the heavens." ”
When people reach middle age, they have experienced wind and rain, looked through people's hearts, and bid farewell to dreams, and in the second half of their lives, they will understand that in fact, sometimes earning money is more important than the "self-esteem" that is not high and low.
01, money, is the premise of filial piety
It is often said that filial piety comes first.
For rich people, when their parents are old, if they can't find time to accompany them, they can pay their parents to report a tour group, so that their parents can enjoy their old time in the beautiful scenery.
When your parents are sick and hospitalized, you can send your parents to the best hospital, use the best medicine, no matter how much it costs, as long as you can try to let your parents live one more day is a day.
But people who don't have money, let alone let their parents travel, may even have to look at the price during the New Year's Festival, buy things for their parents, and then decide whether to buy it, because filial piety requires a cost.
There is a saying that when the poor are filial to their parents, it is like this, if the cost is too high, even if the parents lie in the hospital, they cannot be like the rich people, no matter how much money it costs, they must let the parents live one more day.
02, money, is the starting point of marital happiness
I once read a story on Zhihu that the couple met each other on a part-time job, and the woman married to a man's city because of love, but the man's family situation was not very good.
Because men have no father at a very young age, it is the mother who raises men with painstaking efforts, and it is not long after the woman and the man are married.
Because of the sudden high blood pressure, the mother-in-law left a sequelae of hemiplegia, when the woman was pregnant, not only to take care of the mother-in-law, but also to endure the torture brought by early pregnancy.
Mother-in-law hospitalization costs money, men can not resign to take care of the mother, because only to work to pay the hospitalization fee, and later after the woman gave birth to a child, while taking care of the child, while taking care of the mother-in-law, the family's expenses, all point to the man's salary of 4500 yuan a month.
Once on Mother's Day, the woman felt sorry for her parents because she had not returned to her mother's house for several years to fulfill her filial piety, so she bought a 500 yuan dress for her mother in the mall and prepared to mail it to her mother.
After the man knew, he had a big fight with the woman, and he had to let the woman return her clothes, because the mother-in-law not only had to take medicine for many years, but also the child had to go to kindergarten in the second half of the year.
Many rich people often say a marriage preservation word, that is, a good marriage needs a sense of ceremony, perhaps in the life of rich people, every special day, spend a thousand eight hundred yuan, just to win the other party's laughter.
But people who have no money, let alone spend a thousand and eight hundred yuan, just to win the other party's laughter, may even buy green vegetables, you must first look at the price, because people without money, spend a penny, may have to break a few petals to use, this is also a fact.
Just like that sentence: A humble couple, Pepsi laments.
03 money is the first step to a child's success
In the TV series "Xiao Shede", Nan Li, played by Xiao Songjia, and Tian Yulan, played by Jiang Xin, want their children to learn well, not lose at the starting line, and become an excellent person in the future.
Not only do you enroll your children in a lot of famous teacher courses, but also in order to let your children have a good learning environment, you have to buy a school district house with millions.
I remember that there is a line in this TV series, saying that you are not afraid that you are a bully, and you are afraid of a bully over the summer vacation.
Although there are now many regulations that clearly state that their children are not allowed to attend extracurricular classes, there are still many parents in life who secretly enroll their children in classes.
And it is true that children's academic performance will rise when they go to extracurricular classes, but it is also true that tuition fees for cram schools are expensive.
Some time ago, I heard a relative say that his son is 9 years old and is about to enter the second grade, but he can't even score 40 points in each exam.
There are a total of 5 students in the key class, 4 of whom fail the test, and it is estimated that one can pass the test is still taught by parents. I was very confused, so I asked him what school had 5 students in the class.
He said it was in the countryside, and I said that there can't be so few children in the countryside, right? He said that as long as people with a little money in the countryside now have their children go to the city to study, so there are especially few students in the countryside now.
Therefore, this is the child of the rich family, and the child of the poor family, the gap from childhood, if you do not have money, then you can only let the child study in the place where the test fails, no matter how hard you try, you can not surpass the results of the rich child.
04
When people reach middle age, you will gradually understand that whether it is a big thing or a small thing in life, it is inevitable that it will be associated with money.
As we often hear, while money is not a panacea, it is impossible without money.
Although whether a person is happy or not has little to do with money, we can't ignore the fact that every emotion behind life needs money to maintain.