Dear: Compared with Fang Yinuo's parents, Dong Fan's parents are the most sober people, and there is wisdom and pattern in marriage
A good marriage and love, there is always one party to be cured! Whether you love or be loved, you will find the energy to warm yourself in this relationship.
In the TV series "Dear Child" (referred to as "Dear"), "Xiao Lu" (played by Qin Hao) met a particularly good and warm girl Dong Fan (played by Xie Keyin) in his second marriage, which is his blessing, gentle and understanding Dong Fan, who came to "redeem" Xiao Lu, she is like a "little angel" who came to his life and marriage.
"Little angel" Dong Fan
Dong Fan's cuteness lies in the fact that she understands Xiao Lu all the time, all because of love.
It is reasonable to say that Dong Fan has nothing to do with Hehe, and she can say it without asking About Hehe's condition. But in fact, dong fan showed much better love and sincerity in the face of Hehe's affairs than the real "stepmother".
Yes, Dong Fan is not suitable to meet Hehe, after all, she is Xiao Lu's wife, whether it is to see Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) or the Xie family or the Fang family, it is not suitable.
Dong Fan is not unaware of this truth, but she still followed her mother-in-law Gao Caiping (played by Li Qinqin), on the surface she and Hehe had a very pleasant time, communication is also particularly smooth, she is really good at getting along with people, three words and two words to seize Hehe's interest in loving beauty and love to dress up, successfully aroused Hehe's like.
But in fact, Dong Fan has a certain selfishness, in her opinion, the more she shows her closeness to Hehe, the more she can win Xiao Lu's gratitude and reassurance.
Therefore, on the one hand, Dong Fan followed the interest of his mother-in-law, on the other hand, he also secretly expressed himself, but unfortunately he was bumped into by Fang Yinuo, which caused the whole thing to change its taste.
But in any case, whether it is for the pleasure of her mother-in-law, or to arouse the likes of Hehe, or to cater to her husband's gratitude, Dong Fan's starting point is good.
And what she did, in her marriage to Xiao Lu, was only a very small thing. Take a closer look at Dong Fan's efforts and tolerance in marriage, which is not something that a young girl can easily do!
At the beginning, because Xiao Lu was afraid of remarriage, Dong Fan understood that she had suffered it all the time, and finally on a rainy night, she completely touched Xiao Lu with her actions, and the two smoothly entered the marriage hall.
After marriage, Dong Fan knew that Hehe was Xiao Lu's "heart disease" and thought about her husband in everything. Especially after Hehe fell ill, no matter the reduction in her husband's companionship or the expenditure on money, Dong Fan never showed dissatisfaction and boredom, which was rare.
Especially after a honeymoon trip after marriage, a girl getting married for the first time and marrying a beloved man, the feeling of anticipation for the honeymoon trip is completely understandable. However, Dong Fan forgave her husband's heartache and illness, and offered to cancel the honeymoon trip, her thoughtfulness was too rare and too precious.
Dong Fan's grievances
Of course, Dong Fan is also a person, she is a small woman, and giving in again and again in marriage does not mean that she will unconditionally tolerate her husband's unconditional contribution to Hehe.
Finally, Xiao Lu's decision not to buy a new house and pay for Hehe's subsequent huge medical expenses touched Dong Fan's psychological bottom line, and she began to have emotions, she felt that she had been tolerant and very hard and wronged, which led to the idea of wanting to have a baby.
The new house is very important to Dong Fan, when she married Xiao Lu, she also knew the ability of the other party and had the conditions to change to a new house. And the new house also indicates that the two people's lives have reached a higher level, and Dong Fan, as a wife, has a great yearning and belief in a better life in the future.
But now, Hehe's illness and her husband's endless efforts have made Dong Fan's dream of future life gradually "disillusioned"! Dong Fan is aggrieved, but more worried, she worries that her generosity and understanding again and again will become a well-deserved deserved in her husband's heart.
Therefore, this time, she began to make a resistant attitude for the first time, and could not help but tell her parents about her grievances and concerns.
Parental sobriety
In the face of his daughter's grievances, Dong's father first persuaded him to understand Xiao Lu's difficulty, and the matter of the house could be eased down first, and it was okay not to buy it.
And Dong's father also highlighted that the fundamental reason why Xiao Lu did not buy a house was to treat Hehe and persuade his daughter to understand that it was not easy to tolerate her husband.
Dong's mother also warmly gave her daughter objective advice, saying that if her daughter really wanted to have children, then she and her husband would fully support her.
But if the daughter decided to have children because she ate the vinegar of Hehe and was dissatisfied with Xiao Lu's snub, then she must carefully consider it!
Dong's father stood in the perspective of his father and the man, and it was important to give Dong Fan a rational analysis.
Dong's father is also a father, and he can appreciate Xiao Lu's debt to Hehe as a father, so he respects his son-in-law's decisions and choices.
At the same time, Dong's father also stood in the perspective of a man, gave his daughter a certain warning, and bluntly said that Xiao Lu may also be wrong.
Dong's father's emotional and rational advice is really important to the formation of Dong Fan's values in marriage.
Let Dong Fan feel Xiao Lu's feelings for Hehe in his father, so as to learn to fully view his relationship and marriage with Xiao Lu.
Secondly, Dong's mother, what she said to her daughter, was warm and powerful enough.
She first explained that she and Dong's father would be the strongest backing for her daughter and dispelled her daughter's worries about having children.
But Dong's mother saw through her daughter's true thoughts, and pointed out to the point that her daughter was only unwilling because she was snubbed, and decided to have a child to get more love and attention from Xiao Lu.
Mother Dong is a rare good mother, she respects her daughter's "Dink" thoughts, does not give birth to or force her daughter to make any decisions.
However, in the choice of major life events, Dong's mother stands in a higher and more objective position and gives her daughter as much guidance and guidance as possible.
Dong's mother asked her daughter to ask her heart before making any decision, whether she was really willing or not, whether she really thought it out!
This point is too important, Dong Fan wants to have a child for a while " brain fever", then many follow-up problems must be Dong Fan pays the most. Dong's mother is to avoid her daughter from inadvertently digging a bigger pit because she wants to "fill the pit"!
On the issue of the house and children, Dong's father and mother Gave Dong Fan the best help and relief, and the two people stood in different angles, so that Dong Fan had a clearer understanding of his ideas, would not easily decide, and avoided greater regrets.
Undoubtedly, Dong Fan's parents are people with a big pattern and great wisdom, and when faced with family conflicts, the two elders did not easily accuse their son-in-law Xiao Lu, nor did they protect their daughter too much, and established correct values for their daughter with a sober attitude of "outsiders".
It is no wonder that Dong Fan is so tolerant and considerate in his marriage, and is inextricably linked to his parents' soberness and long-term correct teaching.
It is precisely because of the generosity and rationality of Dong's father and Dong's mother that I understand that Dong Fan is not humble in love in marriage, she is a paying personality! Dong Fan has always stood in the perspective of the giver and constantly conveyed love and responsibility to Xiao Lu.
Fang's mother's prejudice
Dong Fan's parents can see the gap and difference more than Fang Yinuo's parents!
When Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo first became parents, I was deeply impressed by the prejudice and arrogance shown by Fang's mother.
At the beginning, Fang's mother had a lot of opinions about the family's gaocai screen, but the bigger opinion was still aimed at her son-in-law Xiao Lu, from complaining that Xiao Lu was not careful when giving birth to a child, to accusing Xiao Lu of not being careful enough after giving birth.
Fang's mother looked at her son-in-law more and more unpleasantly, and even mentioned to her husband at home that she regretted letting her daughter marry Xiao Lu.
Once prejudice is formed, it is difficult to eliminate.
More importantly, Fang's mother always picks the character of others, and Fang Yinuo also has it!
If nothing else, during the confinement period, Xiao Lu gave Fang Yinuo a bowl of noodles and forgot to put salt, Fang Yinuo ate a mouthful of disgust, even if Xiao Lu immediately said that when he went to add salt again, Fang Yinuo complained impatiently: Who else can I expect?
For a small thing that her husband did wrong, Fang Yinuo never had the patience to understand and tolerate, but accumulated dissatisfaction a little bit, until he complained to his mother that her husband was lazy at home and loved to pretend to be diligent in front of his elders.
Fang's mother always only saw the inadequacy of her son-in-law, and opened her mouth to echo her daughter's complaints.
Not only did he not give his daughter serious and rational analysis and advice, but he constantly picked the son-in-law's faults, which did not deepen his prejudice against Xiao Lu and deepen his daughter's dissatisfaction with her son-in-law?
Looking at the personality from the small things and the attitude from the big things, Fang's mother played an absolutely strong role in her daughter's first marriage. Disgusted that the son-in-law did not do well, let alone look at the rough branches and leaves of the family, the more Fang's mother favored her daughter, the more she pulled the distance between her daughter and Xiao Lu farther and farther.
Although Fang's father is better and many things are quite decent, in fact, Fang's father has not seriously communicated with his daughter, especially in the face of his daughter's divorce, Fang's father is more of an evasive attitude, isn't it?
Therefore, Fang Yinuo's first marriage was finally dispersed in the chicken flying dog jump.
In the second marriage, Fang's mother also converged, facing Xie Dan 's (played by Liu Weiwei) fang Yinuo's yin and yang weirdness and words, Fang's mother did not fight back and cold face, but accompanied by a smiley face to please.
To sum up, the original family is very important, but the good values of parents are even more important! Fang Yinuo and Dong Fan are very different, and the mentality and coping style of the two in the face of contradictions and problems in marriage are very different.
Therefore, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu withdrew halfway, and in the marriage with Xie Tianhua (played by Nie Yuan), they finally learned to be obedient, but Dong Fan was able to keep his marriage with Xiao Lu!