The people who give birth to us are our parents, and the people who accompany us are brothers and sisters. In life, in addition to our own parents, brothers and sisters should be the closest people to us.
And some family siblings, because of the trivialities of life, make a lot of trouble, and finally turn against each other, and even some break off contact, and have a strange road.
Most of the root causes of discord between brothers come from the uneven end of a bowl of water when their parents were young. Parents are extremely partial to one of the children and snub the other children, which will cause brothers and sisters to look at each other unfavorably, and eventually turn against each other. In fact, in the end, the fire will still burn to the parents.
Cheng Yang was born in a relatively poor rural family, his parents mainly rely on farming for a living, Cheng Yang has an older sister, a younger brother, three brothers and sisters, from childhood are dependent on their parents to farm land to live, so life is quite difficult.
Cheng Yang's parents have a serious patriarchal mentality, due to the family's poverty, so Cheng Yang's sister did not read more books from childhood, did not graduate from junior high school, dropped out of school, and then helped her parents to do farm work.
Since Cheng Yang is a boy, his parents are quite supportive of him in terms of reading. He did not disappoint his parents, and his academic performance was particularly excellent from an early age, and he was successfully admitted to a key high school.
The older sister is three years older than Cheng Yang, and the younger brother is seven years younger than Cheng Yang, when Cheng Yang was in high school, the younger brother was still in elementary school, the younger brother can be regarded as the old son of the parents, and the sister dropped out of school most of the reasons because the parents gave birth to a younger brother.
Cheng Yang's younger brother got most of the love of his parents because he was an old man. From the birth of the younger brother, the parents gave all the delicious and fun in the family to the younger brother, the reason is very simple, the younger brother is small, as an older brother and sister, they must let the younger brother.
Although the younger brother has received most of the love of his parents, but helpless in learning, but not this piece of material, every exam, is the countdown, every time the mother sees the score of Cheng Yang's brother's exam, she will say: "It doesn't matter, isn't it not good?" It doesn't matter if you can't go to college, in the future, there will be your brother covering you, and there will be your food to eat. ”
With the best results, Cheng Yang successfully entered his ideal university. When my younger brother went to junior high school, he was afraid of studying and suffering hardships, and he voluntarily gave up his studies early.
After graduating from university, Cheng Yang successfully entered a state-owned enterprise, Cheng Yang in the company, still do not forget to study, five years later, successfully became an executive, the treatment is also more generous. When her mother saw that Cheng Yang had a good job, she called Cheng Yang:
"Yang'er, you're doing well now, but you have to pull your brother along, find a lighter job for your brother at your place, and let your brother go to work, hear me?"
Cheng Yang just happened to have a college classmate who opened a factory, so through his classmates, he got his brother to work in a classmate's factory.
I thought that my brother would go to work honestly, but I didn't expect to go to work for three days, and on the fourth day, my brother didn't come, so my classmate asked Cheng Yang to call and ask what was going on. As a result, after Cheng Yang's phone was connected, his brother said that he was too tired from work, couldn't stand it, and didn't go.
At the age of 27, Cheng Yang completed his life's work. A year later, the wife gave birth to a girl. The wife was confinement, and it was Cheng Yang's mother who came to serve her.
At the same time, the 21-year-old brother said that he was going to get married, and the mother used the younger brother's marriage as an excuse:
"Daughter, your brother is married, the bride price money, you have to take it out, now your economic conditions are good, you have to help him."
"Mother, you are here, help me with the child, okay, the dowry money for my brother's marriage, I can help him out."
"Be well, as long as you get the bride price out, your mother will be here to help you with the children."
In this way, Cheng Yang's mother brought a child to Cheng Yang, and Cheng Yang paid his brother a dowry of 100,000 yuan at one time.
Things could have been drawn, but the next year, the sister-in-law gave birth to a boy. This Cheng Yang's mother looked at it, and she was born a big fat golden grandson, so Titus was very happy, so when the sister-in-law sat in confinement, she directly told Cheng Yang to serve the sister-in-law to sit in the confinement.
Cheng Yang was a reasonable person, so he let his mother go, but when the mother went, after seeing her grandson, she never wanted to take her granddaughter again.
So without the consent of the couple, he brought the child to his brother himself, and in this area, he directly brought the grandson to the age of 15.
After the grandson's 15th birthday, the mother directly said to Cheng Yang: "Yang'er, now, your family environment is better, your brother's family, it is really not good, I and your father, I will follow you in the future." ”
After Cheng Yang heard his mother say this, his heart was also very helpless and wanted to refuse, but he was always his own parents, plus the conditions of his own home were indeed better, so he did not say anything more. And the wife, also a kind person, did not want her husband to be embarrassed, plus the mother-in-law also served her to sit in the confinement, and also helped her bring a year of children, leaving the in-laws.
Cheng Yang's parents, in Cheng Yang's family pension, a living is 3 years, during this 3 years, all the parents' food, clothing, housing and transportation, are Cheng Yang and his wife to take out, and Cheng Yang's brother, not only do not pay alimony, a month does not even make a phone call.
"Mom, my sister doesn't raise you, I don't say anything, because when my sister was a child, she didn't get anything, she didn't go to school very early, after she got married, you didn't fund her anything, and in our hometown, my daughter didn't divide the family property, nor did she support the elderly." But my brother, you brought him a child for 15 years, the dowry money for his marriage, or I gave it, which is good now, a month, not even a phone call, really conscience was eaten by the dog. ”
"I don't allow you to say this about your brother, your brother is in bad condition at home, he can't be like you, how hard his life is, do you know?" Mother said loudly. After that, her mother became angry with Cheng Yang and did not speak to Cheng Yang for several days.
Last month, Cheng Yang's mother had an old illness and was admitted to the hospital, so Cheng Yang's wife took leave to take care of her mother-in-law in the hospital until she was discharged from the hospital.
During her mother's hospitalization, my sister did come to see her mother and brought her nutritional products. The younger brother, on the other hand, made a phone call and then there was nothing.
Not long after my mother was discharged from the hospital, she celebrated her birthday. On this day, Cheng Yang's sister and brother came to Cheng Yang's home to celebrate his mother's birthday. At the first sight of his mother, his brother began to shout:
"Some time ago I was video with my mother, my mother seems to be in good spirits, how long has it been? How did Mom get so thin? How did you take care of your mother? ”
Listening to his brother's accusations, Cheng Yang's wife was very aggrieved, her mother-in-law had just been ill once, and she was so old, of course, it looked different from before.
"Sister-in-law, why don't you make something good for my mother to eat?" You and my brother are both paid so high, can't you buy some meat for my mother to eat? Also, why don't you smoke for my dad anymore? My dad doesn't smoke, but he can't survive, so why do you treat my parents so badly? ”
"That's because, when my mother was discharged from the hospital, the doctor confessed that during this time, my mother could not eat meat, and my father was coughing badly now, and when my father went to the physical examination, the doctor asked me to quit smoking."
"You fart, you still have a reason, obviously you don't give my mother meat, don't give my father a cigarette, push all the responsibility on the doctor, you abuse your in-laws like this, do you still have a conscience?" 」
Cheng Yang's wife was turned over by her brother and cried angrily. Seeing his wife crying, Cheng Yang's anger finally broke out:
"If you can do it, if you can, then you will serve them, you will take them to your house, and you will take good care of them."
"What are you kidding? Your husband and wife earn more money in a month than we earn in a year, how can they go to my house? Can you work harder, don't you understand this truth? ”
"Yes, I can earn more, it is all the result of my own efforts, whether it is study, or work, it is by my own efforts, to have today's achievements." But this is no reason for you to rob the rich and help the poor. You were also born to your parents, plus your parents brought you a child for 15 years, and you must fulfill your obligation to support. ”
"I said, my family's conditions are limited, can not come to my home, you have good conditions, do not care about their two pairs of chopsticks."
"Don't raise them, that line, you don't fulfill your obligations, we don't have to do our obligations, they are not only my child, it is impossible for them to do all their things, I want to do, two choices, one, we have two brothers, a family to live for a year." Second, send to a nursing home, the cost is divided equally. ”
Her mother was stunned by Cheng Yang's words, she had never thought that Cheng Yang's heart would be so fierce, but now, she really didn't have any way to take Cheng Yang.
The younger brother finally chose the first way, living with the family for a year, and cheng Yang came together to take on the responsibility of supporting his parents.
Cheng Yang forced his brother to assume the responsibility of providing for his parents in a strong way. I think that there are boundaries between people, and we must know how to reject others and bravely say "no" to others, that is, we can safeguard our own interests, we can also maintain our own mental health, and more importantly, we will win the respect of others.
For this kind of people who do not have their own ability and blindly want to get cheap, the best way is to reject them. Let them know that you are not a soft persimmon, you are also a person with a bottom line, and if they anger your bottom line, they will also touch a nose of ash.