When people are older, the more they are afraid of loneliness, especially when their other half is gone, and when they are alone, they especially want to live with their children.
As the saying goes, "raising children to prevent old age", if there is no son, it is also ok to have a daughter.
But today's young people, both sons and daughters, are willing to live with their parents less and less. Even if parents need help with their children, most of them will find various excuses to let the elderly go home after the children go to kindergarten.
Aunt Su is such an old man, she brought her grandson for 7 years in her daughter's home, originally planned to be in her daughter's home for the elderly, but the son-in-law's words made her understand where her real destination was in her later years.
Narrator: Aunt Sue is 69 years old
I am 69 years old, my wife died ten years ago, and I have only one daughter who is married far away. I've been living alone since my wife died, and my daughter would occasionally call me.
A few years ago, the daughter gave birth to a little granddaughter. Because her mother-in-law was not in good health, my daughter consulted with me and asked me to go over and help her with the child.
Over the years, I have become accustomed to living alone, and at first I did not want to live in my daughter's house. But I couldn't stand the soft and hard bubbles of my daughter and son-in-law, and then my daughter and son-in-law personally drove to pick me up, so I was not good enough to shirk it.
At my daughter's house, I not only take the children, but also help them cook and wash their clothes, which is 6 years.
Over the years, I have also become accustomed to life in my daughter's house. My daughters and sons-in-law all have some respect for me. They also give me some pocket money every month, but most of it is used for groceries and daily expenses. I have my own pension, and I never spend their money, and I even subsidize them.
Originally, I planned to live in my daughter's house like this, and my daughter also said that they would give me a pension in the future.
Last year, the son-in-law's mother had kidney disease, because the conditions in the family hospital were limited, the son-in-law discussed bringing in his mother, and the medical conditions in the big city were good.
The daughter's family is now a two-bedroom house, and if the mother comes, the house will be a bit unopened. Because of this incident, the daughter and son-in-law were sullen and unhappy in those days, and the atmosphere at home was very dull.
One night after dinner, I went out for a walk. When I came back, I had just walked to the door and heard what seemed to be a quarrel in the room, so I gently opened the door.
The daughter and son-in-law were inside the bedroom and didn't find me back.
I only heard my daughter say: Where was your mother when our children were small and needed someone to take the children? My mom was pulled over by us as soon as she retired, helped us with the kids, and cooked for us again. Now that the child is older, you say let her go, let her go, she is so old, go back to her hometown alone, how can I rest assured...
"I don't want my mother to leave either, isn't this my mother sick?" She is my son, can I still look at it? We can't live in our house, so what do you say? ”
"Then you can't let my mother go either!" You have no conscience when you say this. ”
After listening to these few words from my daughter and son-in-law, I pretended not to hear them, and then withdrew from home, so that everyone would not be embarrassed, I wanted to sneak around and go home again.
When I went back again, my daughter and son-in-law were no longer noisy.
I couldn't sleep that night.
The next day I packed my things and prepared to say goodbye to my daughter. My daughter didn't let me go, and my son-in-law also advised me on the side: Mom, don't misunderstand, I have absolutely no intention of picking you up, but my mother is sick, she is my son, I can't ignore it. I've thought of a way to do both, and I'm going to discuss it with you.
"Your house in your hometown has not been lived in for several years, and idle is idle. Or do you simply sell it and buy another set of smaller ones here, and we will take care of you in the future? The name of the house will be written with the name of Swallow (my daughter's nickname), so as to save the trouble of transferring the house in the future..."
Originally, when I listened to the first half of my son-in-law's sentence, I still wanted to think about it, but when I heard the second half of the sentence, I understood.
I said to my daughter: It's okay, I'm still in good health, I can take care of myself alone, you have time to go back to see me, don't worry.
In this way, I said goodbye to the home of my daughter who had lived for 7 years and returned to my hometown alone.
At first, I was also very uncomfortable, especially missing my little granddaughter, and videotaping with her every day. But now I am slowly adapting, dancing square dance with some old neighbors and old sisters, buying my own vegetables and cooking, and making whatever I want. Although a person's life is a little lonely, it is also pure and comfortable.
I have a pension myself and some savings. Therefore, I do not regret leaving my daughter's house, I do not want my daughter to be embarrassed in the middle and affect the feelings of my daughter and son-in-law.
Write to the end:
The parents' home is always the child's home, but the child's home is never the parent's home. As parents, when our children need us, we do what we can. But when they don't need us, we need to know how to exit decently. If Aunt Su had forcibly stayed at her daughter's house and been in the same room as her own mother, she might not have had the ease of life she has now.
Everyone will grow old, when we are old, how to make ourselves happy? How can we live in peace in our old age and have a happy and stable old age?
Life is inseparable from money, houses and other material conditions, more importantly, take care of yourself, have a healthy and good body, in order to live happily.
In old age, if people put all their hopes on their children, they are also unreliable. Now young people's life is stressful, not only to work, but also their own small family to take care of, so it is better to count on children than to count on themselves, and the most reliable thing in life is to rely on themselves.
Therefore, in the old age, people take care of themselves and keep these three things well, in order to live freely.
A healthy body
A sheltered house
A savings to feed yourself.
Author: Xiao Yue Yueer
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