After watching the recent fire of "Heart Residence", I found that most of the rich daughters were unhappy in marriage

Let the girl see the truth of life and understand the truth of marriage as soon as possible, so that she will not be easily confused and deceived, and will not be wrong step by step. Author | Oops Mom

The popular "Heart Residence" has finally ushered in the finale, and the Internet is still hotly discussed.

In particular, Ge Yue's encounter has caused tens of millions of people to complain.

She is from the second generation of officials, is the only daughter of the family, from a young age, food and clothing, knowledgeable, docile and well-behaved.

She never rushes to the people around her, even if she has grievances in her heart, she will not confront or complain, showing great tolerance and understanding.

However, it is such a good-tempered girl who is finally cheated on by her husband in marriage.

During pregnancy, the high-powered father "fell off the horse", and the family's situation was not as good as before.

When her husband saw that she had no use value, he moved the idea of "wanting to divorce".

Even after drinking during her lactation, she had sex with other women.

And she had long been aware that her husband was wrong, but she did not dare to say anything, and could only swallow her grievances silently and sleeplessly.

Seeing such a simple and kind girl, living a tangled life, and even losing her own vitality, netizens have regretted for her.

But in reality, why not just a "Ge Yue"?

Remembering yao Xue in the emotional program "Next Stop Happiness", she has a solid family and a gentle personality, and is the pearl in her mother's hand.

But unfortunately met the "scumbag" husband, concealed the past marriage history, did not say, after marriage also had business dealings with his ex-wife, feelings entangled.

When her mother saw her, she moved back to her mother's house without a word, and washed her face with tears every day.

Asked what happened to her and her husband, she was silent, unwilling to reveal half a word, and took on all the grievances and sadness alone.

Seeing them, I couldn't help but sigh:

Obviously, they are all girls who were raised richly by their parents in the palm of their hands, and the conditions are good and likable in all aspects;

Why did it end up like this in marriage?

If you think about it, it may be related to these three reasons:

Girls whose parents desperately protect

Often can't understand the sinister heart

Many girls' parents are well aware of the cruelty of reality and cannot bear their daughter's injury, so they go to great lengths to give their daughter the best life and protect her from harm.

But I don't know, this has actually laid a mine for my daughter's future.

Ge Yue has been pampered by her parents since she was a child, her family is harmonious, her life is worry-free, and her journey is smooth.

She is like a canary carefully raised by her parents in a cage, feeding the best food and living in the most comfortable nest.

Every day I feel the beautiful sunshine and rain, get the meticulous protection of my parents, and come out generously and dignified.

But it is precisely because they are too well protected, too obedient and too obedient, so they are simple and honest, and they do not know that people's hearts are sinister, and what they see is beautiful.

When I first met my husband, I didn't know deeply enough, and I didn't know what his original family was, let alone his intentions, so I was preoccupied.

Even though her mother objected many times, she didn't pay much attention.

The mother-in-law speaks vulgarly, is harsh and mean, and often denies her practices, but she feels that it is her own problem and not likable enough.

Unexpectedly found that her husband and her ex had contacts, but she was reassured by her husband's words and two words, foolishly believing that her husband would not betray her.

As a girl's mother, I have never opposed protecting my child as much as possible from setbacks and disasters.

But the reality is that the stupid white sweet who is overprotected by his parents is the most likely to encounter the "big bad wolf".

I read a mother's confession on the Internet, and the words were full of remorse:

"I wanted to earn so much money, raise my daughter well, give her everything she wanted, and I hoped that she would meet the right person in the future and live a happy life."

As a result, the daughter was deceived by the man, did not know how to ask for help, did not know how to solve it, and almost ruined her life. ”

Rich girls are too well protected by their parents, have not seen the dark side of human nature, and see all that is beautiful.

They are easily blinded by men's sweet words and flower gifts, cannot recognize false evil and ugliness, and cannot see through the "good men" who have painstakingly disguised themselves before marriage.

As long as the other party offers some courtesy and shows great obedience, they don't even think about it, and they rush into it.

In the end, he fell into the mire of marriage, lost his wife and folded his soldiers.

Girls who are subservient are the most easily asked

Ge Yue's husband was carefully selected by his father.

The mother did not understand, she closed her eyes and looked for it, she could find a better one, why should she marry an ordinary civil servant.

But Dad felt that the other party's conditions in all aspects were far inferior to Ge Yue's, plus he had his own backer, and the son-in-law would always know the favor and double his kindness to Ge Yue.

The reality is just the opposite.

No matter how much money and gifts ge Yue's family gave, they could not make up for the greed and selfishness of the son-in-law's family.

Ge Yue repeatedly gave in and obeyed, but he could not exchange her husband's sincere treatment, but the dissatisfaction and conflict that had accumulated for a long time.

Especially when the Ge family had an accident, the first thing the in-laws did was not to care, but to ask their sons and daughters-in-law to move back and draw a clear line.

Even the husband, who was originally polite, began to think about how to get rid of Ge Yue and reconcile with his predecessor.

Such a result can be seen as early as the combination of Ge Yue and her husband:

In an unequal marriage, the girl is doomed to suffer.

Last year, the news that Xu Yili, a female teacher at a university in Jiangsu, was brutally murdered by her mother-in-law once again aroused heated discussion.

Xu Yili's family conditions are excellent, and her grades are also excellent, and she has been admitted to the doctorate to teach in colleges and universities.

However, he met someone unladylike, and after marrying a husband from the countryside, he suffered a tragic misfortune.

At the beginning, her parents strongly opposed her marriage, feeling that the other party's conditions were poor and the family situation was very complicated, but she always insisted.

Soon after the marriage, the mother-in-law moved from the countryside and insisted on living together.

Even in the new house bought by her parents, the mother-in-law not only lived in it with a straight face, but also pulled her eldest son to live in with her.

In order to make her willing to take care of her mother-in-law, the mother-in-law also joined hands with her son to lie to her that she had "gallbladder cancer".

Until she insisted on divorce, her mother-in-law hacked her to death in a fit of anger.

In this way, the beautiful girl has since disappeared and has no chance to regret it.

Writer Liu Na said that in love with a poor boy with a ghost fetus, girls can easily become victims of poverty alleviation marriage.

Thinking that if you find a condition that is not as good as your own, the other party can be touched by their own sacrifice and meet the beautiful life in their dreams.

However, after entering this kind of marriage with the wrong door, I found that the man exploited himself at every turn and demanded it excessively.

Putting down the upside-down sticker of the body, in the end it encourages the other party's distortion.

No matter how beautiful the love and longing, with all kinds of grievances after marriage, they are gone and devastated.

There is only love in the eyes of the girl

In the end, it was destroyed in their own blindness

Does Ge Yue love her husband?

Loved it.

Love so much that you can ignore the disparity between each other, love enough to laugh even if you are constantly ridiculed and ridiculed by your mother-in-law.

Even love to know that the husband is cheating in marriage, but also try to use the baby in the belly to keep the husband, humbly beg the husband to hug himself.

Unfortunately, marriages sustained only by love are unlikely to be happy.

There is a saying in psychology: the rich and poor woman effect.

It refers to those girls who have a good family situation and are not deeply involved in the world, who do not worry about eating and wearing from childhood, and care more about spiritual satisfaction than material.

In this way, they are easy to be "carried away by love".

Even if you slowly see the true face of the other party after marriage, you will not quickly cut through the mess and withdraw in time, but continue to convince yourself until you can't go on.

Remember the divorce case of South Korea's three-star princess Lee Fu-jin, who caused a sensation 3 years ago?

The dream marriage with strong fairy tale colors finally ended with a vendetta, and Li Fuzhen paid her ex-husband 14.1 billion won.

Lee Fu-jin, the eldest daughter of South Korea's top family, the Samsung Group.

Growing up with a golden spoon, he was a poor person with no money, no background, and no education.

She decided to get married, and countless people objected.

But the more he blocked her, the more determined he became, and as a result, he plunged into the marriage trap that blinded her.

When she mistakenly thought she had met the love of this life, her husband's lazy, greedy and incompetent side was gradually exposed.

The father-in-law was kind enough to promote, but the husband felt a lot of pressure, and also vented his inner resentment to the pregnant her.

He even spent his days drinking behind her back, completely disregarding her face and dignity.

Until the end, this farcical marriage was terminated in the midst of extreme domestic violence, becoming the most disgraceful stain on her life.

Think of the writer Zweig wrote: "The gift of fate has long been marked in the dark." ”

Rich and raised girls never need to worry about "bread".

As a result, I bet all my happiness on the "love" that is most likely to change.

Once the other party changes his heart, or the "good for me" that impressed him the most disappears, all that remains is the consumption of each other's feelings.

Those chips that are used as protective bodies will eventually become the price of lifelong regrets.

How to raise a rich daughter?

After having a daughter, I also fell into the misunderstanding of parenting:

Give her the best possible material conditions, for fear that she will be harmed by the outside world.

But after seeing too many similar tragedies, I finally found out:

If you want girls to be able to protect themselves in the future and enter a truly happy marriage, they should do these three things.

1, the best dowry for the daughter, not money, but vision and pattern

Peng Lei, the lead singer of the New Pants Band, shared when he was a guest of "Strange Story":

Usually there are performances, even if the environment is complicated, he will bring his daughter and let her have more contact with people at different levels of society.

In this way, when she grows up, she will not be easily deceived and deceived by others.

Instead of giving her child a golden mountain and a good dowry, it is better to give her a pair of fire eyes and golden eyes.

Open her circle of life, polish her eyes, teach her to distinguish between good and evil people, and let her know how to protect herself.

Even if you encounter people who are more excited, you can more rationally identify and analyze, learn to protect yourself when necessary, and stop losses in time.

2, no matter how much you love your daughter, you must also let her suffer a little

It is said that "the flowers in the greenhouse cannot withstand the wind and frost outside".

Sooner or later, girls will have to enter society, marriage and family.

However, marriage and love are not the same, marriage is not only spent before the moon, but also more chai rice oil and salt and the trivialities of life.

Therefore, the suffering that should be suffered, the tiredness that should be suffered, and the truth that should be seen clearly must always be experienced by the girl in advance in order to become independent and strong.

If you only rely on love in marriage, there is a high probability that you will not be happy, and only by recognizing the truth of life can you know how to live a happy and satisfying life.

3. Cultivate girls to dare to say "no"

Compared with Ge Yue, the eldest sister Gu Qingyu is the most enviable and admirable.

Every time she was insulted by others and asked for it, she could always say "no" out loud and argue for herself.

Therefore, we must tell girls that when faced with unreasonable demands, we must say "no" out loud.

Allow her to be "wild" and be firm in her heart, so that she can have her own opinions and thoughts.

Tell the girl: As long as you have an attitude and do not compromise easily, others will respect you for three points and dare not make a mistake.

Every parent takes pains and gives everything he has to give the best to his children.

However, while we give our daughter material support, please remember that what children need most is spiritual and intellectual nourishment.

Take advantage of the fact that it is still too late, teach her daughter to be discerning and wise, and stay away from the "time bomb" in life;

While caring for her, he made a fierce effort to make her suffer a little;

Give her enough confidence to teach her to say "no".

Only in this way can we correct her posture, not humble, shape her strong heart, and perfect her independent personality.

I believe that such "rich support" is the most expensive investment in the life of parents and the greatest guarantee for the happiness of the girl's life.