People's hearts are all flesh, we must compare hearts to hearts, do not feel that their parents are relatives, other people's parents are not other people's relatives. When treating in-laws and in-laws, it is best for young couples to treat them equally, knowing that both parents are relatives.
No one jumped out of the stone, all of them were raised by their parents with hard work, so when their parents are old, those who are children must support their parents. It is not only the common sentiment of human beings for children to give their parents a pension, but also an obligation clearly stipulated by law.
Between the daughter-in-law and the in-laws, it is naturally better to be close to their parents. But no matter what the emotion is, as long as the in-laws also fulfill their responsibilities for their sons, the daughter-in-law cannot stop her husband from filial piety.
Husband and wife are a community of interests, when the in-laws have a problem, the wife helps the husband to perform filial piety together; when the parents-in-law have a problem, the husband helps the wife to do filial piety together, so as to better take care of the elderly. Couples face all kinds of things together, and this small family can be built well.
The in-laws bought the marriage house in full, and the daughter-in-law did not agree to live with the sick mother-in-law
At that time, when Chen Min chose to marry, two girls pursued him at the same time. One was the only daughter of the family, the other was the one who had an older brother in the family, and finally Chen Min chose the girl who had an older brother in the family.
Because of the only daughter, the parents-in-law will certainly not be willing to marry their daughters. Whose surname the child born in the future will be, and who will give the in-laws a pension to the end of the year, will be a problem. Chen Min's parents wanted to marry their daughter-in-law according to the old tradition, so after Chen Minsi came and went, he chose the girl who had an older brother in the family.
When getting married, since it is done according to the old tradition, the man naturally wants to buy a marriage room. Chen Min's parents wanted to give their son a loan to buy a marriage house, and the down payment was made by their old couple, but the woman resolutely disagreed and asked the man to buy the marriage house in full.
The parents gritted their teeth and agreed, and then the old couple raised money everywhere and helped their son buy a marriage house with full money. After the wedding room was renovated, the parents helped Chen Min to do the marriage according to the old tradition and gave the woman's family 160,000 dowry money.
After Chen Min got married, he and his wife lived in a new house in the city, and his parents lived in an old house in the countryside. In order to pay off debts, parents save money and use money, and they are still working hard when they are old. Chen Min was very distressed about his parents, but his parents felt that there was nothing, and for them, as long as their son was happy, it was enough.
In the second year after marriage, the wife gave birth to a son, and the family was naturally very happy. Chen Min's mother planned to take care of her daughter-in-law's confinement, but her daughter-in-law did not want her to take care of her, but wanted her mother to take care of her. Chen Min and her mother have no opinion, and her mother-in-law's care should be better, so as not to cause contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Chen Min's mother gave her daughter-in-law 10,000 yuan, which was a expression of their old couple's wishes, and thanked her daughter-in-law for giving birth to a big fat grandson. Later, the wife was out of the moon, but she still asked her mother to take care of her and the child, and the mother-in-law continued to stay in Chen Min's house.
At the end of her wife's maternity leave, she took it upon herself to take her father in, saying that her mother had worked too hard to take the child alone and had to ask her father to help. Chen Min was a little upset in his heart, his parents-in-law lived in his house, and they said that they had come to help with the children, but he felt like a son-in-law who came to the door.
The expenses of the family are all borne by Chen Min, and the parents-in-law do not pay a penny, but they are very good at being the masters of the house, which is completely a posture of a master. The eldest brother-in-law's family often came to visit his parents-in-law, and when he ate at Chen Min's house, the expenses of Chen Min's family were even greater. When the brother-in-law's family left, the mother-in-law always desperately tried to take the things from the family with them, as if those things were not bought with money.
Chen Min's heart was very unhappy, but he couldn't say anything about his mother-in-law, so he quietly told his wife. But the wife did not turn to him, but said that he was stingy, and his brother's family came to eat, and took something by the way, which was a big deal.
After the child turned one year old, Chen Min proposed to let his parents-in-law go back and let his mother take the child. But the wife firmly disagreed, saying that the house of her parents-in-law was very dilapidated, and there was no one to live in for a year. Besides, she doesn't want her mother-in-law to bring children, she thinks that her mother-in-law is not good, she wants her parents to bring it.
In the blink of an eye, three years have passed, and Chen Min's parents have finally paid off their debts, but his father has fallen ill due to long-term overwork. Not long after, my father died, and my mother was heartbroken. Chen Min proposed to his wife again to let his parents-in-law go home! He wanted to bring his mother over and have her and her grandson together, and her mother's mood would be better.
But the wife resolutely disagreed, saying that the mother-in-law was sad and sad, how to bring a good child? Chen Min understood that although his wife said that she was for the sake of the children, she actually wanted her parents to live more comfortably, but for the sake of family harmony, Chen Min still compromised.
Six months after Chen Min's father died, his mother fell ill because she was depressed every day. The mother stayed in the hospital for a month, and when she was discharged, the doctor told Chen Min to take good care of her mother, and the mother had to go to the hospital once a week for follow-up.
Chen Min took his mother to his home, because if her mother lived in the countryside, he could not take care of her. Besides, going to the hospital every week, from the country to the city hospital, is too much trouble! But after Chen Min took his mother to the house, his wife had a big fight with him and resolutely disagreed with her mother-in-law to live in.
Chen Min's house is a three-bedroom and one living room, originally planned for the couple to sleep in the master bedroom, the children sleep in the second bedroom, and the other one is used as a study. But when the parents-in-law came, they occupied the second bedroom, and they had to turn the study into a child's room. Now that the child is still young and sleeps with her parents-in-law at night, Chen Min wants her mother to sleep in the child's room.
The wife said that it was the child's room and could not be given to the mother-in-law, so she asked the mother-in-law to go back to the countryside to live. Chen Min was so angry that he yelled at his wife, saying that the house was bought by his parents in full and that his mother had the right to live here. His parents-in-law didn't pay a penny, but they had been living here for three years, and he didn't agree with their parents-in-law living here.
The wife did not show weakness, saying that her parents lived here, that they were helping with the children, and that they were contributing. Chen Min should be grateful to her parents, who did not live here in vain. Chen Min did not approve of this, so he filed for divorce, and he felt that he could not ignore his sick mother.
The wife did not want to divorce, but did not want to live with her mother-in-law, so she was noisy. Later, Chen Min went to the court to sue for divorce, and he insisted on divorcing his wife, and the child was awarded to his wife.
The daughter-in-law must handle the relationship with the mother-in-law well, and the family will be harmonious
Their parents are parents, their husband's parents are also parents, and the daughter-in-law cannot live in the house bought by her in-laws, but she does not care about her mother-in-law's life and death. Chen Min's wife is a very selfish woman, she let her in-laws pay for the marriage house, but let her parents enjoy the new house. You can't be like this, there is nothing in the world that you get for free.
For the sake of family harmony, Chen Min endured again and again, and finally couldn't stand it. In fact, it was a good thing that parents-in-law came to help with the child, but the premise was that the daughter and son-in-law had to accept it. The child is not the daughter alone, and everything cannot be completely decided by the daughter, but also the opinion of the son-in-law.
Chen Min's heart did not want his parents-in-law to bring the child, he wanted his mother to bring it. Everyone wants to be with their parents, the daughter-in-law will be uncomfortable living with the mother-in-law, and the son-in-law will also feel uncomfortable living with the parents-in-law.
Chen Min's wife only thought about herself, not chen min at all. After the girl marries into the in-laws' family, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and she will not be willing to live with the mother-in-law, but the girl must also consider the feelings of her husband and cannot think only of herself.
When a husband and wife get married and start a family, they must put the interests of the small family first, and can no longer take excessive care of the people in the original family, and they must pay attention to a degree in everything. Chen Min's wife was preoccupied with her mother's family, wanted her parents to live in a good house, and wanted to help her brother's family, but she did not understand the feelings of her in-laws.
After the girl marries into the in-laws' family, she must try to deal with the relationship with her mother-in-law. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife, and it may eventually lead to divorce. Chen Min's wife excluded her in-laws and only wanted to be with her family, and as a result, her husband divorced her.
Therefore, to be a person, we must learn to think in empathy, and husband and wife must think about each other. Husband and wife have one heart, treat both parents kindly, and raise children with heart, and the family will be harmonious and united.
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