Some love, getting is not necessarily good
A few days ago, a couple who had been in love for 8 years and had been married for only 1 year divorced.
They fell in love from the age of 20 to the age of 28, but chose to divorce at the hurdle when they were about to pass the age of 30.
Why did the 8-year love war collapse in just over 1 year of marriage?
The heroine of the divorce incident, Ms. Chen, said:
Some love, what you get is not necessarily good.
This emotion is very deep.
She said that after 8 years of love, she thought that two people had become one, could already be separated from each other, and thought that they could live a lifetime by loving each other.
Too much to think about, let them choose to get married at the key point of the 8th year. Because some people say that if you don't get married again, you will disperse if you go on, and you will no longer have the desire to get married.
They don't believe because they believe that their love can resist everything. So, in the 8th year of falling in love, they got married.
Many people say that they have achieved positive results in cultivation, which is really not easy, but it is gratifying.
Yes, 8 years of feelings, it seems that being able to enter the marriage is also a natural thing. For marriage, they feel that it is just a further step in love, just more than that card, and there will not be much change. After all, after 8 years, everything is clearly understood.
However, I did not expect that life after marriage would soon be full of chicken feathers.
First of all, life changed from two people to two families.
When in love, two people are just in love with their own love, just living their own sweet little life, and there is not much responsibility at that time.
When in love, they are just two people getting along. But when it comes to marriage, it seems that there are many more people in the family at once.
The in-laws come from time to time, either this relative or that relative. Also, many big things and small things will also be told to them and let them participate, such as which relative is married, ask them to give gifts; for example, which clan relatives have died, ask them to go to send them farewell.
Although the mother's family has fewer things, the parents will begin to criticize the son-in-law, thinking that he does not understand politeness, does not honor the elders, and does not come to the door for such a long time. The old man likes the youngsters to be warm and considerate, but Ms. Chen's man is not this type of person, he is honest and introverted, and he is not very good at coaxing people.
However, when they were in love, the parents of both sides felt that the two children were very good and had no shortcomings, so they could smoothly fall in love together for so long. How did it come to marriage, and a lot of things changed?
Second, the question of who will take care of the money.
When in love, the money of the two people is managed by each other, and Ms. Chen did not ask her boyfriend to manage the money for her. But all along, the lives of two people have not been separated from each other, sometimes you buy some things, sometimes I buy some, and there is no excessive consideration.
After getting married, Ms. A asked her husband to give her money, because there were too many people to socialize, and her own salary could not be paid. But Ms. Chen's husband said, "Never take care of each other?" In the future, it will still be like this, for example, you take care of your mother's family, I will manage my family.
This made it difficult for Ms. Chen to accept. She thinks that after marriage, husband and wife are more one, and the money should not be divided between each other. Moreover, her salary is already less than her husband's, and the woman herself spends more than the man, which makes her financially more embarrassing.
It is most common for husband and wife to have conflicts because of money.
Also because of money, Ms. Chen began to have a gap with her husband. In addition, the trivial things in the marriage, the unsmooth work, and the various relationships between the two families make the two people tired of coping.
They did not expect that all this that they did not have to face in love would become normal and necessary in marriage. It's hard for them to accept.
But what is most difficult for Ms. Chen to accept is that her mother-in-law stipulates that she must give birth to a boy for the first time.
Although it is now possible to have a second child, the mother-in-law said that their family must require that the first child be a boy, and the second child is better if it is a man, and if it is a woman, it can be accepted.
As soon as Ms. Chen heard the fire, she became big. In today's era, it is difficult to raise a child, let alone raise a second child. Besides, giving birth to a boy and a woman is not something she alone can decide, so why ask for a man for the first child? There are so many infertile couples in the world!
Because of this, Ms. Chen and her mother-in-law had an argument, and she really couldn't agree with her mother-in-law's thoughts. But Ms. Chen's husband believes that his mother has done nothing wrong, and her hometown does have this view.
Ms. Chen felt that she could not accept such a view and could not accept her husband's attitude. So, very firmly filed for divorce. Her mother-in-law was angry and actually instigated her son to divorce.
The man begged for two days, and Ms. Chen did not have a soft heart, so she agreed to divorce.
In this way, the married life of only more than 1 year was over.
So
Falling in love is easy to get along with.
Some love, obviously very beautiful, but when it comes to reality, it becomes very unbearable.
Ms. Chen said that if she had known this, it would have been better not to tie the knot all the time. But is this possible? The result of not ending up is also a breakup, just a matter of sooner or later.