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If your boyfriend is a mommy boy, will you still choose to marry him?
Ma Bao Man, as the name suggests, is a child who is spoiled by his mother, even if he grows up, his heart still has not grown, everything must be listened to his mother, he has no ability to think independently, and he does not know what his will is.
Marrying a mother-in-law is indeed a terrible thing, first of all, we must face the problem of listening to the mother-in-law for big things and small things in the family, and also face the problem of having a conflict with the mother-in-law, the husband helps the mother-in-law and does not help himself, such a marriage is more like raising a son, and the son is still close to the mother.
Therefore, the average girl will not choose to marry Ma Bao Male to beg for food, but there are exceptions, some men Ma Bao Male attribute appearance is indeed not visible, in the married life is slowly reflected, but then girls want to leave, often it is too late.
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Before Yi Yi and her husband got married, they didn't see that her husband was a mommy boy, and her husband was friendly, hard working, and he was a good young man no matter how he looked.
And the mother-in-law is the kind of person who has a more clever heart, Yiyi and her husband did not get married for a long time, so she let her husband quit his job to do business, and the husband also listened.
This matter really surprised Yiyi, her husband's work is still relatively good, the state-owned enterprise is organized, and he listened to his mother-in-law's saying that he would not do it. The mother-in-law feels that her son is the material for business, and he should break in more when he is young.
So the mother-in-law arranged everything, the husband as long as he directly took over, but even if the arrangement is more, there will still be some omissions, follow-up problems are more, Yiyi found that the husband is not able to solve at all.
In the end, Yi Yi and her mother-in-law dealt with the problem together, so that the business gradually improved.
Yiyi and the mother-in-law do not have too much contradiction, but the mother-in-law is more anxious to hold the grandson, always prompted, and Yiyi does not want to give birth too early, and the relationship between the two people is also a little cold.
Later, still unable to withstand her husband's daily persuasion, Yi Yicai resigned to prepare for pregnancy and gave birth to a baby.
The first child was born as a daughter, and the mother-in-law's attitude has explained everything, the mother-in-law wants a grandchild, but Yiyi has not been able to do what she wants.
The mother-in-law in the moon also took care of Yiyi, not to mention how much to take care of, at least three meals a day are there, but out of the confinement of the mother-in-law began to knock on the side of the side to let Yiyi raise the body as soon as possible, to have a second child.
Although Yiyi did not want to have a second child, she still chose not to live up to them every day when she looked at her mother-in-law and her husband's expectant eyes.
When the child was one year old, Yiyi was pregnant with a second child, this time the mother-in-law was not so calm as before, when she learned that Yiyi was still pregnant with a girl, she began to look for medicine everywhere, looking for folk remedies, hoping that the child in the belly could become a boy.
Yi Yi is also very cooperative, but no matter how many legendary transsexual pills are eaten, the baby born in the end is still a girl.
At this time, the air in the family was frozen, two in succession gave birth to daughters, and Yiyi's status in the family plummeted, not only the mother-in-law looked at her unfavorably, but the husband also ignored her.
In the month, Yiyi has to wash her own clothes and cook to take care of the eldest and second, the mother-in-law just looks in the eyes, not helping at all, Yiyi feels that the mother-in-law looks at her eyes out of disgust or disgust.
Guilt and self-blame and long-term fatigue made Yiyi depressed for a while, but looking at the two lovely daughters, Yiyi still insisted. But his insistence did not wait for the understanding of her husband and mother-in-law, but waited until Xiao San came to the door.
When she saw the woman carrying the child into the house, Yiyi was completely ignorant, she knew that although her husband was a mother, he would not do such an outrageous thing, but the facts were in front of her, and she had to believe it.
Under Yiyi's persecution, the husband finally told the truth.
It turned out that as early as the time when Yi Yi's second child was determined to be a girl, the mother-in-law was already helping her husband find a new girlfriend, and in recent years, her husband's business has become better and better, and he has made a lot of money, and it is still easy to find a woman who is willing to have children.
But she didn't think that the child had been born, but the woman asked her husband to marry her, and there was no way for her husband to bring her back to the house.
Yi Yi never thought that this kind of dog blood thing would happen to him, nor did he think that the mother-in-law who respected each other in ordinary days would be so outrageous.
Yi Yiqi did not go to the mother-in-law theory, but in exchange for the mother-in-law's ridicule: "You just gave birth to two daughters, what contribution did you make to this family?" Can't you give birth to a son and not allow others to pass on the inheritance for our family? "
Yi Yi is like ashes, and is not willing to be swept out of the house like this, how the husband's business is also done by himself and his mother-in-law, there should be half of himself, the husband is derailed for any reason, he must compensate for his mental loss and the maintenance of his two daughters, if the in-laws do not agree, Yi Yi plans to sue to the end.
In the end, Yi yi left the in-laws with her two daughters, and also obtained most of the family property, and the ex-husband also married the woman who gave birth to the boy as he wished.
After leaving her ex-husband, Yiyi found a job, without the shackles of her in-laws, and her life got better and better.
Years later, when Yiyi heard the news of her ex-husband again, she learned that her husband's business was getting worse and worse, and finally the company still did not hold up and went out of business, and the woman also divorced him, and it was not easy to find a job when she was older, and her life was very miserable.
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There are often many inequalities in marriage, and one party always hurts the other party with a sense of self-righteous superiority, and never feels that what they are doing wrong.
First: Marriages with unequal incomes between the two parties can easily die halfway through.
Although few people now use money to measure the status of marriage, the income of both husband and wife still determines whether the marriage can last.
First of all, unequal income can cause differences in the views of money between the two parties, especially in marriages where both parties manage their own money.
The party that earns more has high consumption power and spends more, while the party who earns less often fails to reach such a level of consumption, and there will naturally be many problems after a long time.
For example, the party who earns more will feel that the party who earns less will pull down the total family income, resulting in many wishes that were easy to achieve become difficult to achieve.
The party who earns less will feel that the party who earns more spends a lot of money, does not know how to be frugal, and always has illusions about something that cannot be done.
In general, income determines a person's standard of living, and people who are not on a standard of living have been together for a long time, and their lives must not be very harmonious.
Secondly, income inequality will also affect the perception of both parents as a couple.
If the man earns more and the woman earns less, the mother-in-law often thinks that her son can be superior in the family, and even the status of the mother with her is much higher, and the problem of the mother-in-law bullying the daughter-in-law often occurs.
If the woman earns more and the man earns less, the man is often disliked by his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and even many of the woman's parents look down on the man.
We might say that the parents' generation was too snobbish, but many facts have proved that even if the parents do not intervene, families with large income differences are still more likely to divorce.
Second: halfway couples, it is difficult to communicate.
It is said that the wife is still the original good, halfway husband and wife, more or less with a little taste of interest.
Why it is difficult for a half-way couple to walk for a long time, first of all, is the motivation for marriage.
Most halfway couples choose to get married in the hope of having a shelter from the wind and rain, in other words, they want to find someone to share their financial expenses.
Especially if you have children in your first marriage, you will think more about your children, and you will think more about money.
Once related to money, it is natural to have a careful plan and calculation, and cannot let yourself suffer a little loss. If there is only calculation left in the marriage, then this day will not last long.
Secondly, most of the halfway couples do not have too deep feelings, and when the other party encounters problems, it is difficult to help each other regardless of their own interests.
For example, the step-wife of Ma Baonan in the above article, when she married into the door, she had a purpose, wanted her mother to rely on her son and live a life of sitting and enjoying her success, and had no feelings for her husband, so that after her husband's business went bankrupt, the stepmother left without a little reluctance.
It is difficult for couples to communicate halfway, so when choosing to remarry, we must consider it carefully so as not to repeat the same mistakes.
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