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I saw a post on the forum where the landlord and his girlfriend quarreled over the purchase of a house before marriage, and even broke up for this matter.
The reason is actually very simple, the man has a younger brother in the family, he hopes that he can leave some money for his brother and parents.
And what his girlfriend hopes is that he can spend all the money in his family to buy a new house, otherwise he doesn't love her enough.
In the end, the two broke up because of this matter, the woman felt that the man was too stingy, and the man felt that the woman was unreasonable.
1. Have questions about the house
In fact, whenever the question about buying a house before marriage is mentioned, someone will always jump out and say that the party who wants the house is material.
Indeed, for the prices of most places now, buying a house and buying a car can empty all the savings of both husband and wife of an ordinary family.
However, in order for their children to start a family, most of them will buy real estate for their children early, at least let him have a home first.
However, why have so many couples quarreled over the problem of the house in recent years, and even ended up with the fate of the scorer?
Because no matter which side they are, they have never stood in the other's perspective and thought about this problem for each other. All they care about from start to finish is their own family.
Many girls, hoping that their other half can add their names to the house book, even if they know that this is no longer legally effective, still ask to do so.
Because in their eyes, this is a sign that a boy attaches importance to himself. As long as this is not possible, then it is hypocrisy.
For boys, they don't want their parents' hard-working house to have another person's name appear, even if this person is their lover.
Everyone wants to be promised, and everyone wants their efforts to respond, but under such a stalemate, there may only be one ending to breakup.
2. The confidence that my hometown gave me
An older sister I once knew, when she got married, her parents bought her a small house and a scooter.
Originally, she didn't want this, because her fiancé's family had all this ready, and now that she has it, she hopes her parents can use it on herself.
Her mother only said this to her: "You hold it, when you get married, you will know, after the girl grows up and gets married, she has her own house, which is your confidence." ”
The Internet always says: "After girls get married, they have no home." She could only walk between her husband's family, her in-laws' house and her mother's house. ”
Now that I think about it, in fact, more parents want to give their children a little confidence, but not all families can do this.
Therefore, there is a problem about the house and the car, which has always been the flashpoint of contradictions and conflicts before marriage, and when there is careless operation, it will definitely go their separate ways.
Because, everyone hopes that only their children will have a good life. But marriage is not a transaction, if only money is left, then how can this relationship be maintained?
There is a saying that goes well: 'The essence of marriage is that we each withdraw from our own home, not that I withdraw from my home and integrate into your family.' “
The hometown can give its children confidence, but if the two sides really do not have that strength, that future, the newlyweds should work their own.
3. Life is for yourself
In our father's generation, even our grandfather's generation, in fact, when they got married, they did not have the current conditions, and even did not have the current free love model.
However, they have also come through a lifetime of ups and downs, and it is because of them that we have our stories and can see the life we have today.
I remember hearing an old man tell his love story, when he was with his wife, he got a license, bought two new quilts, and two new pairs of chopsticks were married.
After so many years of ups and downs, until his wife fell ill in the first two years, they all came slowly all the way. 55 years of marriage, there are bittersweet and sweet.
In his eyes, his wife was the most beautiful person in the world, she bore children for him, he held up a piece of heaven for her, and this was their marriage.
Their marriage had no full material basis, nor a romantic love story, but they came over, and this way they relied on supporting each other.
I remember that someone once asked Guo Degang's wife Wang Hui a question: "If you sell a house and a car for him, you are not afraid that he will be nameless all his life?" “
Wang Hui replied, "It doesn't matter, I'll just identify this person, no matter what, I'll accompany him." “
4. Matter, not the standard of love
If one day your marriage is left with endless calculations and constant struggles to get and take, then the marriage is doomed to be left with only quarrels.
Because, in love, matter is only the basis of a guarantee, not the whole. When you find out one day, someone in your life appears later
Become the one who marries you because you have money, or marries you. Then he will eventually leave you without hesitation when you have nothing.
Love is not to be wronged and wronged, but to achieve mutual achievement and work together.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.