But this is just the beginning of the year, most people are thinking about how to make more money! However, there is a unit that is unusually hot, and it is beyond the imagination of too many of us, that is, the divorced people at the door of the Ministry of Civil Affairs have lined up in a long line! The mainland's divorce rate has data from the Ministry of Civil Affairs, the number of divorces in 2021 has exceeded the mark of 3.733 million, and the number of marriage registrations is 8.131 million pairs, the divorce rate is nearly 45%, in other words, in the past year, ten pairs of marriages have four to more divorces, then the highest divorce rate is the following provinces and cities, Jilin, Heilongjiang, Liaoning, Tianjin, Beijing, as high as 50%, the result of the most registered is Guangdong Province ranked first in the country, but divorce is also ranked fourth, The single population is as high as more than 200 million, what is the reason for such a high divorce rate? Some people even say that marriage may cease to exist in the future? Of course, this is only a kind of extreme disappointment in marriage! Many of us look at the data and this divorce scene and can't help but ask, why has our marriage become so fragile? Of course, divorce is also respected, every couple is holding the sky for a long time with a white head and old age, the mountains are not in harmony, but dare to enter the marriage with the vows of the king, so why did they choose divorce quickly? Some people say yes, the awakening of women, then this awakening is not the need for marriage? Obviously this is not the choice of more divorced women, some people say that men have no responsibility and responsibility! Some people also say that the divorce caused by the infidelity and betrayal of the marriage between the two people, we must admit that this is indeed a factor, according to the statistics of the Women's Federation, 30% of married women are because of domestic violence, 60% are because of the other half of the cheating, all kinds of data seem to illustrate a phenomenon, that is, more and more people, unwilling to put on low-quality marriages. I looked at a report in the two years from 2016 to 2017, 73.4% of the divorce disputes in the country were advocated by women, and the reason given was that the husband and wife were not in harmony. As well as domestic violence, infidelity, ma bao male and so on. We say that divorce is actually a lose-lose situation, of course, for the marriage that cannot be continued, divorce is a relief, but also a new beginning for each other, sometimes can we see it as a barometer of the economy of the times? You see, Maslow's hierarchy of needs is divided into five levels, the lowest is the physiological needs, referring to warmth, that is, food and clothing, then security, refers to further life security or job security, and then social needs, which includes social interaction and community group interaction, and the fourth is to be respected. Finally, self-realization, the more civilized the society, the more materially developed, people's needs will be gradually pushed up! The old saying is that full of warmth and lust is this truth. Civilization means that material abundance, the openness of ideas, and the fresh stimulation brought about by the impact of foreign cultures, materialistic and competitive, people began to ask for the shackles of traditional concepts, coupled with the mapping and temptation of the elite layer, most of which are exquisite egoism! They only pursue their own rights and enjoyment, and there is a part of what we call feminists. So, let's go back and look at what is the marital discord? This is a very general sentence, there are too many in it why not and why not? Is the discord factor just because of feelings? Is there a reason why the economy cannot support the desire to live? Is there a problem of working together less and leaving more, cheating because of loneliness, and is there a problem of disharmony in the life of husband and wife? Is there a factor that governs all family life with me as the center? In addition to these, we have no ability to love in the era of material abundance, what is the ability to love? That's when you want to get into marriage, have you ever asked yourself, do you have the ability to take on more responsibilities and trivial human feelings with the other person? Have you loved yourself as much as you loved yourself? Do you have the ability to tolerate his bad temper and small shortcomings in life? Have you been able to give each other a stable and prosperous life? Do you have the psychology to treat each other's family members as your own relatives? Let's take a look at it again, there is a new type of marriage relationship that has become popular, what is the logic behind this?
The woman proposed: no bride price, the title deed does not add my name, but I have three requirements:
1. Notarization of property before marriage, yours is yours, mine is mine.
2, the mortgage you repay yourself, living expenses of one person half.
3, your parents to support you, my parents do not want you to support.
Is this new type of marriage acceptable to you? This is typical of not having the ability to love, but living together, and on this basis, marriage has become blown apart!
