I never imagined that a seemingly simple sorority would change my life. That day, I went to the event with excitement and thought that maybe I would meet someone interesting. As a result, my illusions were completely shattered. The boys in front of him didn't look very good, and some of them were obviously barely socializing. I began to wonder: how could it be so bad, is it so hard to find a decent boyfriend?
After that day, I started to get anxious. I used to think that love would come naturally and there was no need to rush. But that experience made me realize that time doesn't bring perfect results. I started to think that maybe I needed to be proactive.
So, I decided to change my strategy and made a 100-day de-order plan. This plan includes all kinds of ways, both online and offline, and I have to give it a try. Every day, I spend time chatting with different people on several social media platforms, and I also sign up for various offline interest activities. I thought it would work, but it turned out to be a bit disappointing. There are always some strange people online, and there are no suitable people offline. Whenever I feel hope, I quickly get hit by reality again.
One day, I finally made up my mind to meet. I made an appointment with a boy who had a good online chat, had a meal, and found out that he wasn't my type at all. He was a bit introverted and didn't talk much, and I felt like I was basically looking for a topic for two hours. This made me realize that planning to get off the list may not be as simple as I thought. The offline interest classes didn't go well, and I often heard some disrespectful remarks about women at dinners, and even boys flirted with several girls at the same time, so I didn't know who to believe.
For the whole 100 days, my mood was like a roller coaster, sometimes excited, sometimes lost. Watching the time go by, I became more and more worried, am I really too picky? Why didn't I meet the right one? Maybe love really needs fate, or I need to lower my expectations.
However, the day after the program ended, I met a new friend. He had a great chat with me on social media, and we hit it off at first sight. After a few days of acquaintance, we decided to meet. I felt that he was very sincere, without that kind of hypocrisy. When I got along with him, I found that love is actually not that complicated, as long as we treat each other sincerely, everything will go smoothly.
We went to the movies together, ate together, and even went to some activities together. Every time we meet, he surprises me. Most importantly, I don't feel anxious anymore. After we started dating, I finally felt how beautiful it was to be in love.
Although the beginning of this story made me feel mixed emotions, the end of it made me feel happy. Although the 100-day plan didn't go as planned, it taught me a lot. I stopped being anxious and striving for perfection, but started to enjoy the process. I've found that falling in love isn't that hard, as long as you're willing to try, you'll have a chance.
So, have you ever had such an experience? Do you make a plan for getting off the list? Or do you prefer to go with the flow? Share your story and see how you have faced these challenges.